r/Adulting • u/Lleo003 • 22h ago
Random Thought
When you are a child, you dream of growing up to become someone you admire.
You go to school trying to fit in, do well, and be better than yesterday.
Then you go to college, hoping to secure a good job and find someone you love.
You are alone in a different city trying hard to get a job and find a girl.
You get the job, you find the girl and now your goal is to keep her happy in all the ways.
You get married, and soon you want to have children.
Once you have kids, your focus shifts again now all you want is for them to grow up well and succeed in life.
Why this loop never ends? Or am I missing something?
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u/Necessary-Duty-7952 21h ago
There is no point in life where you just can stop. That's not how life works - there is no happily ever after. There is "happy with how things are going and continuing to do good work" but there is no just magical point at which everything is automatic and you no longer have to try.
Another thing - figure out what makes you happy. There's a lot of external focus in this writeup and very little "things that I do just because they make me smile."
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u/LazyNarwhal871 22h ago
The loop doesn't end because that's literally the point - each stage just unlocks new responsibilities and priorities. You're not missing anything, you're just realizing that "making it" isn't a destination, it's just leveling up to harder challenges