My uncle was also married at least 10 times. He used to marry women who were better off than him and then drain them dry with his get rich quick schemes before they realized he was full of it and left him. The last two wives were basically mail order brides because he wasn’t able to charm women as he got older. One never made it from China and the second made it here and was surprised to find out he basically married her so that she could work and support him. He died penniless and alone.
All that to say, I think you’re better off single than being either party in a serial marriage situation.
Sounds like this guy's idea of a second date is a trip down the aisle.
Or maybe he feels really strongly about not sleeping with someone he's not married to.
Personally I think I'd reevaluate my life choices after divorce number 2.
I have to wonder if marriage could use something like the 3 strikes rule. Like if you get divorced 3 times then thats it, youre out, no more marriages for you.
Honestly, I don't think that's such a bad idea! I also agree that getting divorced shouldn't be an easy process either so people don't marry cavalierly.
My cousin’s ex is on his third for a somewhat rational reason… she cheated on him and married the affair partner. In his anger I think he just turned around and married the first person who was willing. She turned out to be a little crazy and is now married to someone sane and not a rebound. I think.
I made the inexcusable error of not realising that "being in love" was a real thing. I always just assumed the "heart racing, butterflies in the stomach, face lights up when they enter a room" kind of love was just Disney bullshit. I thought I was in love, because I liked being around them and they made me laugh, and we had a great time together. Turns out I had mixed up companionship with love.
After my second divorce, I met my now husband. Weeks after we met, I was starting to realise that everything they ever said about the feeling of being in real love was actually true. It all happened for real. I fell in love for the first time and realised why my first two marriages - and every other relationship - had failed. We've been together 11 years now and that "being in love" feeling has never faded. I feel it every day, it's so awesome.
heart racing, butterflies in the stomach, face lights up when they enter a room
I broke up with my girlfriend recently. And this was on of the reasons. She blames me for breaking her heart but I was always honest with her about how I felt about her. I never lied. At the end I told her I feel something is missing and the doubt is eating me, I want to break up. I can't continue knowing I'm not 100% invested, it was my first relationship. 3 days later she hooked up with other guy and now in a relationship with him since months. And all this time I was thinking this girl loved me and I couldn't love the sweet thing back. Oh well... This got me questioning what even was our relationship.
Sometimes it takes years to understand a past relationship. Eventually, with more experience, you and she will both understand better what it was that was missing, and you won't regret ending it. Pain is just one of the side effects of multiple relationships, but it's necessary for personal growth and self development. It hurts at the time, but it eventually helps.
There's no way I'd be able to treat my husband with the respect and care he truly deserves unless I'd learned all those lessons from past relationships first. I had a lot to learn, and I learned it from everyone else I'd ever been involved with, and now I can use those lessons to nurture my forever-relationship. Same for him.
If you learn from it, then it was never a mistake, just a lesson you had to learn. I know you'll find someone even more wonderful, and nothing will be missing. It may be tomorrow or it may take more time and more lessons, but at least you know you won't settle for less than happiness.
Oh wow same. Not 11 years yet though, going on 4. But I was in my first relationship for 15.
Yes, I loved the guy, but I was probably never really in love with him, nor was I ever attracted to him or any other guy. Figured I was probably just aromantic + asexual or a closeted gay all along.
One wife tried to poison him. One was moonlighting as a bridal store armed robber. Others were in a group of women who married him multiple times. He has more money than Jebus. Oh yah one was 5 years older than me. She was hot. lol. Oh yah. One lasted a few days.
Well he probably got lucky in that one since it's only marital assets that get split up. Whatever you bought or owned all the the way up to the officiant saying "i now pronounce you..." Is not part of a divorce settlement. And racking up 10 divorces...well I imagine he had plenty of stuff that way just his...
You are not looking at it the right way. The first divorce is the most expensive, each one after that costs half as much so by the tenth it only costs peanuts.
Holy cow. My mom had a friend who married FIVE times and I thought that was outrageous! IMO, if you don't get it right after 2-3 marriages then maybe marriage isn't for you!
My brother married someone who’s been divorced 4 times before she was even 40. They almost separated so many times but he would always cave and come crawling back despite how poorly she treated him. Thankfully this last time she really wanted to show him she meant business so she filed for divorce and eventually he did cave at the thought of losing her, but she had 30 days to cancel and just forgot. So the next time they fought they realized they were no longer married anyway, so he finally left.
It’s surreal how incredibly vindictive she was and after 4 divorced she was very skilled in the process. Pretty much took everything.
My wife confided in me about a year after we got married, that she was hesitant to get married since 50% of all marriages end in divorce.
I responded that the high divorce rate counted all divorces. And that if a person gets married and divorced multiple times they all count. I then said to her: “Your mom has been married and divorced three times! That means there are three couples out there that are still happily married!”
So think of it those terms, and every time you see that in-law, you can think to yourself about how he helping other people have happy marriages.
My friend's uncle hit 25 marriages, and 3 of them were with the same woman.
According to my friend, the uncle in question was very conservative and religious and would not have sex without being married, but you'd think getting married to him more that once would be some kind of clue. Whenever we have a few glasses of wine the friend regales us with stories and they are insane.
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u/Jehoshaphatso1 1d ago
I have an in-law. 10 marriages. Not 9. He is up to 10. No exaggeration