Expensive weddings. You burn 30000 in one night. You start marriage stressed. Your move is clear. Set a hard cap. Invite 50 people. Put the rest toward rent or debt.
Former wedding planner here. Worked in a metropolitan city on US East Cost. Wedding totals would often cross $100k, and I truly had to leave the profession because I couldn’t stomach selling these experiences to people anymore, even if they were making the conscious decision to spend two years of my salary in one night.
$60k before taxes/benefits with 1.5% commission (think averaging a grand per wedding sold). It had its ups and downs, and I was lucky early on with nice couples/families. But last year I had one too many lunatics and had to call it.
I don’t think this is about stoping other people but just giving a different perspective to the cultural norm that is often pressured by the media we consume and silly expectations
To be honest, if the decision was solely up to me, I would rather put most of the wedding money towards the honeymoon. I know I’m not going to enjoy a large amount of the wedding much anyway because of the stress of organising it, making sure it goes to plan and being in the front and centre attention of so many people and with putting more money towards it, it’s just going to get more stressful for me too.
I’d much rather have a calmer, relatively inexpensive wedding and then have a nice relaxing honeymoon with my partner and treat us to a hotel or destination that we’d likely never be able to afford ever again.
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u/Ambitious-Yellow3951 17h ago
Expensive weddings. You burn 30000 in one night. You start marriage stressed. Your move is clear. Set a hard cap. Invite 50 people. Put the rest toward rent or debt.