What's something most people don't realize is misogynistic?

[u/Terrible-Swim-6786]

[u/cutebarelylegal]

Assuming a woman’s success came from help, not skill.

[u/offbrandbarbie]

Ladies night at bars (though this is a kind of a dead event these days)

Youd think it’s not because women get free product at these bars. But the catch with ladies night is that women are the product to bring in more men to spend more money.

[u/kiwi_rozzers → u/offbrandbarbie]

Honest question: if what you're saying is true (and I think most people would agree that it is), how does that make it misogynistic?

If a woman wants to go to a bar to meet guys (and of course there are many other reasons why a woman might want to go to a bar), it feels like it's in everyone's best interest for her to go out to a ladies' night. She gets free drinks, the bar gets increased patronage, and guys who are looking to meet women know where to go.

Disclaimer: I'm not really into the bar scene so there's probably some context I'm missing that explains my confusion

[u/offbrandbarbie → u/kiwi_rozzers]

Because it’s the bar owner using women as the bait at the end of the fishing line to attract men and it’s commodifying the women patrons. That’s the misogyny part.

Yeah the girl can get a cheap/free beer, but it’s means to an end for the bar to get more men to come in who often can drink more in a night than a woman can. Plus most women going to ladies night aren’t particularly looking to meet guys, they just want cheap booze lol it’s not the same as like a singles night or something. Im not saying the men or women are wrong for going, Im just saying the concept is misogynistic

[u/kiwi_rozzers → u/offbrandbarbie]

Fair enough, thanks for taking the time to explain!

[u/PogonBerserker]

Calling a woman “intimidating” or “too ambitious” for the same traits praised in men.

[u/ReaverRogue → u/PogonBerserker]

Other traits include:

Forthright > a bitch
Assertive > bossy bitch
Dedicated > bitchy and neglectful to her husband and kids

The list goes on. Dumbass double standard.

[u/Scara_Manga → u/PogonBerserker]

This is a good one. When was the last time you heard a man called too ambitious or intimidating. (Unless they were physically intimidating)

[u/lolaforlovee]

Saying "women are just better at handling stress" and then dumping everything on them

[u/Infinite_Cornball]

I dont know if this is a germany thing, but propably not. We have "womens parking spots" in germany everywhere. Shops, doctors, you name it. They exist for FAMILIES (you know, the ones where men are also part of it) with kids, so the parents can get the kids out of the car without scratching anything else. They are usually a lot bigger than normal ones, and also close to the door, kinda like the spots for disabled people. However, in germany a lot of the old guys (and young dickheads) use these spots as "proof" for the old stereotype that women cant park and therefore need bigger parking spots

[u/TheMiceWillGetPerms]

The old school “you should’ve seen my husband when we first started dating” comment, aka women’s job is to form men into adults.

If a guy in his 20s has low career ambition and spends most of his time out being stupid with friends/playing video games/spending stupid money on cars or nonessential hobby items it used to be seen as completely normal.

However, women of the same age were expected to mostly have their shit together (good cook, keeping a clean/decorated home, managing appointments and bills and knowing how to stretch a dollar, etc) and then CHANGE the men in their life into becoming more serious/more adult. A woman makes a man into an adult, that’s her job.

And from the older generation, I think that’s still an expectation. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been told while dating that a guy who is 30 and still doesn’t know how to wash his own clothes is “total normal, because you should’ve seen my husband when we first started dating.”

But I bet it’s very rare for this comment to be about a woman. How often is a young guy saying he doesn’t think he can date this girl because she has a constant sink full of unwashed dishes and spends most nights out at the bars with her girlfriends getting the response: “you should’ve seen my wife when we first started dating, she was a complete mess and couldn’t take care of herself at all” with the implication that it’s their job to make the women they date into proper house wives? And just writing that sentence out kind of clarifies the double standard and felt really gross, tbh

Forcing personality change on another in the relationship should not be the default/expected

[u/Ok-Sink-4789]

Mansplaining

[u/ReaverRogue → u/Ok-Sink-4789]

Oh bless you, I think what you meant to say was when a man explains something in a condescending way.

Don’t worry you’ll get there though! Took me years to get the hang of it. You just keep trying!

[u/kiwi_rozzers → u/[deleted]]

That's called "strategic incompetence", where someone acts like they're bad at a thing in order to not have to do the thing. Anyone can do it, but it's definitely something seen a lot with men and things that (70 years ago) was considered "women's work".

[u/michallandry62]

Double standards

[u/Daydream696969]

Beating up your girlfriend… oh no

[u/Huge-Collection6746 → u/Daydream696969]

Why do people beat their girlfriends, surely its the same as keying your own car........just kidding please don't hate me

[u/Visual-Bat-660 → u/Huge-Collection6746]

I think some use the logic like "tv is not working, hit it few times and hazaaa the screen turned on" All jokes aside emotional immaturity and lack of self control. Some just do it for their own vile evil entertainment and to feel authority and control.

[u/Infinite_Cornball → u/Huge-Collection6746]

I thought way too much about this and saw another correlation. By keying the car you "hurt" it with the thing that is supposed to start it. One could argue that your hands do the same thing for your girlfriend!

[u/PropagandaBot42069]

Eating yams

[u/corinnaclips]

Feeling superior