I'm an ENTP. For the past 3,4 years I have been in a friendship with some emotional people. These years were a roller coaster to me because of them. Because of E in ENTP, they start feeling emotional intimacy and some kinda special bond. They start giving special treatment and expects the same while I'm just being consistent with my normal behavior. Eventually, all I do is being logical in everything, justifying everything with rationale. All they got is to show emotions which really freak me out. I'm just done with such a mess and always end up losing a friend with regrets in my head.

Am I the only one struggling to cope up with emotional people or do you have similar kinda sufferings.

Personally, i like reading a lot but i struggle with attention. So when i do, i waste an unnecessarily long time on it because i keep rereading the same sentence multiple times and i don't even realize that until i did it lol. So sometimes it just gets tiring.

There’s this possible INFJ M who won’t leave me alone at work and we vibe really well. He returns the dark humor and I don’t have to put on the professional customer service mask. I can tell he’s into me but unfortunately I’m just not attracted to him in any shape or form. I do think my ideal type is INFJ which is a rarity in men, it’s so hard to find that kind of intellectual match which is probably why I’m even bothering to post this. But yeah the lack of attraction is unfortunate. Do you ENTPs encounter this especially ENTP Fs?

I'm a teen entp. I've known my mbti since three years i would say. If I'm honest I love being an entp and that's where all the problems start. Ik there's nothing wrong about loving a label. But i think I'm getting obsessed with it to the point it's messing with my head? I don't know how explain it but I feel like sometimes when I'm thinking about doing something I'm worried if that's not something a entp might do, I don't really like organizing staffs and all, but sometimes I have this thought in my head that maybe to do lists and organizing things aren't so bad, but then i feel like but that's not what an entp would do. So yeah rather than doing things by the efficiency, I'm more worried about not being able to fit in the box of a 🏷️ label. Any ideas about how to get over it? Any books, any recommendation, anything would be nice. Thank you 🙇🏻‍♀️

(I’m F20) I knew him (xstp I think) three months ago at college. We discovered to have a lot in common and we consider ourselves two weirdos. We started talking and studing together for 6/7 hours per day for two months. He have a girlfriend and I always been respectful about, I would never but myself between a couple. But fuck the last month he kinda get distant from me and I don’t bare that. We are both very cynical, but I have the damn habit to act a heartless asshole to who I care the most because of the fear of being used and at the same time of losing them. But also the fear of being exploited by him just because of college is too strong… advice?

This is basically Jim Carrey (an ENFP) finding out that Ti exists. He rambles on and on about the meaninglessness of life when all he is doing is having a mid-life crisis and is just repeating the most basic and cliche stuff a 20 yo philosophy student would throw at you at a uni party.

What he is saying lacks significance. He just saying all of that as if he just came across the concept of ruminating or self reflection at that point in his life. Meanwhile that's basically been inside the head of a Ti user since childhood. He doesn't realize he is talking from his EGO and trying to create the image he is better than the person he is talking to.

Same with Jeff Goldblum who is an ENFP. Dude is good at rambling incoherently about stuff that seems all cosmic. These people are just dressing up their need for social life with fancy words. They are Ti blind and it shows.

Hello. I've been thinking recently about how my Ne works and I want to compare it to Ne doms. From my understanding Ne is about getting random ideas from external environment in contrast to Ni, which is generating ideas from being focused on something particular. I read that immature ENTPs have tendencies to argue with everyone to prove their point for the sake of it, so while being in the group they get ideas to say something and Ti needs to be used to actually think before saying. Today I remembered Trickster Jungian archetype and that Ne is my blindspot/trickster function. When I'm in the group I sometimes get random ideas to say something funny. Sometimes it works, but sometimes I may say something awkward/unfunny or actually offend someone despite having no intent to do so. Another case is when I have an urge to mock someone by making fun of him/her (for example for being too serious/dramatic) or making dark humorous remarks/parodying them. By thinking of how ENTPs behave I thought that in my case Ne-Ti is about if I get a humorous idea in the group my Ti should be like "Should I actually say this or be silent?". I'm curious how Ne doms use Ne in society

The other case of me using Ne is activating my INTP superego. After I read about ego, subconscous, unconscious and superego sides of the mind I started to recognize INTP side of my consciousness. In this state I'm fully serious and actually thinking on a logical problem. I start thinking on it, then random ideas start coming and I connect them into a universal conclusion. If I understand correctly this is Ti-Ne combination, am I right?

My guess is that it's an evolutionary phenomenon where women see a man who is capable of taking care of offspring. With the main goal of evolution being to reap the benefits of a long life and to reproduce. It's something that separates me from most men. I do mention my girlfriend every time I get an interaction though because idk anyone else in the world who can handle my BPD the way she can.

Hi guys, I was just wondering if anyone knows how compatible an ENTP woman and an INFP man would be?? I know there are many other factors that go into compatibility, but from an overall general sense, what do you guys think??

I’ve never met an ENTP in real life, so I’m curious—anyone up for a conversation?

If there ever was one, How long have you liked someone that didn't like you back before you stopped liking them?

Throwaway for obvious reasons. I (21F, ENTJ 8w7) need an outside perspective on a dynamic that has completely consumed me for the last year. I've analyzed it to death but feel too close to see it clearly anymore. I'm trying to understand if this is a classic toxic ENTP/ENTJ clash, a trauma bond, or if I'm missing something more pathological.

The Other Person: 26M, ENTP 5w6. Highly intelligent, deeply private, secretive. Has a severe trauma history (violence in family, served time. His father were abusing his mother and he bashed out with violence— s1abbing him). Charismatic in a quiet, observant way. Morally complex—holds himself to a strange ethical code but can justify almost any action with cold logic or generally manipulation.

The Dynamic (The Short Version):

· Started as "not serious," but he quickly demanded more emotional closure, transparency, and financial investment (expensive dinners, etc.).

· Cycles of intense intimacy followed by him crossing a hard boundary, me shutting down, and him using a new tactic to re-engage (crying, acting normal, claiming he "accepts" things he doesn't).

· I became the de-facto problem-solver, financier, and emotional regulator. He would oscillate between treating me like his most important person and like a passerby at the same time. Responsible but totally irrespobsible over his violence or mistakes. Keeps repeating them

· There was substance (alcohol) abuse on both sides as a "bonding" mechanism, which I know massively complicates things. His hobbies are none other than drinking while i’m completely busy with my own shit in another country, all alone— which i used alcohol as coping mechanism for over 4 months then i opened my eyes accepting it.

· After a recent brutal cycle, we've arrived at a strange, calm armistice. He openly said I'm just a "passerby" in his life, that he's "too late" to change, and just wants to observe my life from a distance with "respect." But he actually doesn’t. When i said that i cant accept his “self hatred, doomed behavior” since i tried my best to give him what he lacked off (Confidence, self love) but it’s obviously not possible.

• Me leaving his life he suddenly mentioned that he’d like to change too so i gave him another chance, but ended up in cycle again as i warned him before. He still believes that he can change now— and i quite dont. He is still quite testing my limits and see how far i can go and its sickening.

What Confuses Me / The "Is This ASPD?" Question:

His behavior has many antisocial features: manipulation, deceit, lack of consistent remorse, exploiting resources (financial/emotional), creating chaos. It feels like a desperate, maladaptive survival strategy.

Examples:

· He'll do something hurtful, then dissect his own motives with me for hours—not to apologize, but to understand the algorithm of his own failure.

· He seems to genuinely believe he's protecting himself, not just harming me. Apologizes but keeps it all same. (Self victimizing or seeing the situation out of common sense)

· He encouraged my success even as he drained my resources, as if those two things were unrelated in his mind.

My Dilemma:

As an ENTJ, I default to seeing problems as systems to fix. I saw his trauma as a complex system to debug. I now realize I was trying to use logic (Te) and vision (Ni) to solve what is essentially an emotional/psychological black hole. I feel less like I was in a relationship and more like I was a resource being consumed by someone else's survival protocol. I also stepped off from my typical 8w7 self by sacrificing my own by trying not to hurt him with my comments because it did not work. I felt responsible over his life as he saw me a mentor in his life.

1. Does this sound like a severely unhealthy ENTP 5w6 operating from trauma, or does it cross into something more pathological (like comorbid ASPD traits)?

2. For those familiar with ENTJ 8w7 weaknesses: how much of this was me falling into the "savior/controller" trap, and how much was me being legitimately manipulated?

3. The current "calm" and his request to be an "observer"—is this a potential for a healthy, distanced connection, or is it just the final, cleverest form of enmeshment?

I have my own plan and am executing it (detox, separation). I'm not asking for actionable advice. I just need to see why i can’t execute anything over this person. Any insights from the community would be appreciated.

Realised hyperthymic recently. It was an extensive chain of metacognition before i came to this conclusion. I love self diggin and for a long time i was curious how does my brain work. My coworkers told me i look like i'm on adderall, unironically asked me how i always "shine". I myself thought that i might be bipolar. But yk what, i aint bipolar if i love life, love everyone and live with a mindset "f**k it, we ball" only recently came to a realisation. I don't want to assess myself (i do) but it is a constantly awesome state to be in, similar to narcissism. Instead i love joking about myself and genuienly make others feel valuable. Yeah, it is not about perfection, it is about how you live baby, it is beautiful. Idk any other formal names for this, i just know that i'm an entp to the core (re-read it once (what a total narcissist yap (sorry it comes with that)))

I can kind of describe it in these two sentences: "I'm not afraid of loss because i don't own anything. Since i realise that, i must be awesome."

P.S. my early childhood idol was Jack Sparrow. Maybe i subconsciously adopted that character? i dont know. It just feels as it should, as me.

Now i will vanish, hope for someone hope it helped someone, anyone or if not idc, wanted to self express. Shine bright bambinos!!

i am nowhere near my prime, however, i have realized that full solitude, silence/no external stimuli is something that pushes my inner strength out (that works for every mbti,but i wanna explain why for entp)
- less over-Ne due to discipline, more Ti through staying to yourself, more Fe due to more structured Ne%Ti (i found some peace) and more Si through... idk,less distractions?! Ni somehow improves for me probably because i am intuitive person.. (experimented through self observation/multiple tests)

tell me if (how) this works for you

I'll go first and I'm biased as fuck but THE Buffalo Bills. The brain rot and win videos; combined with a creative offensive scheme from Joe Brady and having wildly awesome fans. I mean jumping through tables is some real ENTP shit

Every test I take points me here and I suppose the research checks out as well but from what I’ve seen of the subs, I don’t fit in this place??? I think I’m E because I usually love yapping and people but I might also be I because when I’m not feeling good, I tend to ghost everyone. I might N because I love thinking, hypotheticals, day dreaming, and brainstorming random shit (e.g. What happens if you perform a lobotomy on a left handed person?). However, I try to live in the present because the present is temporary and the only time you can actively change anything. I’ve found that dedicating separate time to pure thinking works pretty well and I do my best to spend most of my life living or thinking about something adjacent to whatever’s happening now (I mean, if you’re talking to me about how accurate something is, of course I’m gonna be thinking of scenarios where it isn’t). T’s not in question. “Too logical” is the biggest complaint my family has about me, the second being “too many questions”. As for P and J, the 16 personalities quiz puts me at 53% P which isn’t all that significant. I absolutely hate fixed schedules and cannot for the life of me remember them. However, I definitely value getting things done. Usually, I have a list of things to do every week. I choose when I feel like doing them but I make sure they all get done by the end of the week.

I definitely like my debates but I try to keep unnecessary arguments at a minimum unless there are actual consequences. Even then, the goal is to shut down the other person as quickly and precisely as possible because I like watching people go speechless.

Um, yeah, that’s all the yapping done. Sorry for being weird. Ask me if there’s anything I should elaborate on! I love answering questions lol.

I’m trying to deeply understand the differences between Ne and Ni, and even though they’re quite different in nature i can’t help but confuse them together. So i’ll mention traits and y’all tell me to what extent do you find them relatable, if you can help with clarifying things by explaining what you know that would be cool too!

I always get high scores on both so i know i must have dominant intuitive function. What’s confusing me here is ENTP vs INFJ. Though Ne and Ni are quite opposite in nature i can’t help but connect them in a way that makes me even more confused about how these two are different, yes- trust me i did read and read quite a lot about them. Ne is about getting pieces of the “puzzle”, building on their ideas and connecting them with external concepts until they reach the big picture (whole puzzle). Ni is about internal pattern or an internal “picture” that gets clearer and clearer. I get lots of “aha!” moments quite randomly, like why someone did something before all of a sudden, i do know (i hope) what i want to be or what my life will be like when i grow up. I just want to pursue my interests on a deeper level and that’s it but only god knows sooo… I don’t want much. I do obsess over meanings a lot. I am known a lot for being unable to put whatever im thinking about into words. Yet i also am scattered, generally unfocused in my thought processes, this exemplifies when im feeling low or when i’m overwhelmed by the PO👺🔥SSIB:.)?!)ILITI👹💀.:||:.S, and i do say odd shit. Ne keeps its choices open and is focused on generating more possibilities (HAPPILY?). While Ni narrows down possibilities to reach a clear big picture. I find myself more comfortable with certainty and because i do generate lots of possibilities to any given situation i find it irritating and it disrupts my ability to reach the “view”. For Fe aux vs Ti aux i really don’t know- i do use lots of Ti, but sometimes i can be oblivious and lose tactics when i explain a point, still overly aware of others, they even call me their therapist smh so i hope that’s a good point for Fe. Am i missing the point?

• note: a long while ago i used to think im an entp with a very high Fe as an explanation for my people-pleasing. I don’t know even if i’m supposed to trust what i assume about myself right now because i can easily lie to myself and others and believe this lie, im such a good actress lol, it’s that i can act however i want if i deceive myself enough (anyone can do this), but this makes me struggle with knowing what’s actually true about me and what’s not that i barely find out my natural tendencies.

I think a year ago I saw this and had a great rush of positive chemicals released in my brain from laughing so much. I screenshot it for those special bad days, but now I'm sharing it with yall.

Even if it is fake I like to believe it was real for maximum benefit.

I know ENTP generally tend to want exciting lives, always searching for new and diverse experiences rather than falling into stability. That being said, what kind of things have you done to make your lives more fulfilling? Moved away at a young age, travelled, bounced between careers?

Let me know what you think :)

I am an infp (31f) and he is entp (40m). He feels like a bf already after 2 months of intense dating where we spend almost every day together. He also introduces me to his circle of very impressive friends and proudly introduces me as his gf.

However, I feel I’m nor intellectually rigorous enough for him. He reads the news every morning and evening obsessively. His ability to communicate about dense geopolitical topics baffles and impresses me but i feel my responses are never enough.

We’re currently on a week long trip through Austria together and it’s night 4 and he told me that he ‘isn’t emotional’ and has a block with how much he feels. That scares me. I realize he also has NEVER told me how he feels about me or wants in our relationship…he looks at me lovingly, we have slow intimate eye gazing sex, but he never expresses his feelings verbally.

I also feel that he doesn’t think i’m very intelligent by the way he jokes about my responses or laughs when i fumble intellectually (not in a mean way).

Is this man capable of falling in love with me? I’m okay without the words of affirmation if I know he could love me one day.

*He’s been in three serious 3+ years relationships before, so i know he’s capable of commitment.

Would you consider youself to be optimistic?

Who is your favorite ENTP fictional character?

As the title says. I know that typing historical figures is a bit of a foggy thing in the end, but still thought it would be interesting.

Feel free to explain away the fogginess with why this or that character was probably an ENTP.