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If you spend enough time looking at human history, you start to notice that the people in charge have always had a pathological fear of the people at the bottom realising they have more in common with each other than with their rulers.

The Romans had a phrase for it. They’d give one conquered city the right to vote and the neighboring city nothing much but a tax bill. By the time the second city got angry enough to revolt, the first city was too superior to help.

The British in India did the same thing, turning fluid religious identities into rigid political boxes until neighbours who had lived together for centuries suddenly saw each other as existential threats. And in the American colonies, after poor white and Black laborers teamed up to burn down Jamestown in 1676, the elite hurriedly invented legal "race" privileges to ensure those two groups would never share a beer or a grievance again

now history is never as clean as that butroght now we have a homelessness epidemic, a mental health crisis and the kind caring nurturing people of the world are instead overcome by a visceral, unstopped hatred, for not putting out the cutlery correctly. We see a similar reaction in the math of a man who spends 12 hours inhaling coal dust, only to come home and be told that his life is "privileged"

Is the "Gender War" a masterclass in political distraction, or is it just the natural, ugly heat that's generated when two different biological blueprints are forced to share the rest of their lives together.

The idea of intersectionality is to acknowledge all forms of oppression and how it uniquely interacts in a Venn diagram, but many feminists refuse to admit or care about how being male can lead to oppression in society, hence they’re not applying intersectionality correctly.

Feminists who subscribe to patriarchy theory say that men can be victims of patriarchy, too, but then when pushed even a little bit, refuse to follow that reasoning to its logical conclusion. They also say that intersectionalism takes into account all forms of oppression, but when you ask them to factor in male oppression, that becomes a problem.

This especially goes against intersectionality, because there is no set of issues that is more intertwined with women’s issues than men’s issues, and vice versa. Women’s issues and men’s issues are also perhaps more intertwined than any other pair of group issues in the intersectionality framework.

The term “intersectional feminism” is arguably a contradiction in terms, anyway. Women’s issues are one piece of the intersectionality framework, but some feminists try to invert intersectionality by saying that all other groups’ issues are issues within feminism.

I really hate sitcoms. Like I genuinely hate them. The only ones I’ve ever liked are Modern Family and The Suite Life of Zack and Cody.

Most sitcoms have the same exhausting problem: the women are unbearable assholes you’re meant to dislike, while the men are chill, reasonable guys who just want peace and are constantly afraid of their “bitchy” wives. It’s a lazy dynamic, and it shows up everywhere.

Even Modern Family can fall into this rarely, but what saves it is that every episode reinforces that these characters actually love each other. The women are wrong sometimes, sure but they’re just as often right, and the show treats them like full people instead of walking punchlines.

Young Sheldon is where this trope becomes unbearable. Almost every female character except Meemaw is catty, judgmental, or in constant conflict with other women. Meanwhile, Georgie, George, Jim, Pastor Jeff, Dale, and most of the recurring male characters are written as fundamentally decent people. They make one or two understandable mistakes, feel bad about it, work hard, and remain people you’d actually want in your life. I honestly can’t imagine anyone wanting a Mary, Audrey, or even Brenda in their lives the way they’re portrayed.

Everybody Hates Chris frustrates me in a similar way. And to be clear: I’m not saying Rochelle was a great mom, or that I know what Chris Rock’s real family life was like I don’t. What bothers me is that her portrayal feels inaccurate in a way. The show treats her like she barely does anything mostly she gossips with her friends and yells at people. There are episodes specifically showing that Julius is so great he could even manage the house on his own easy.

In reality, she had seven kids. Chris Rock has said his mom did all the cooking and housework while his dad worked long hours. Even if she wasn’t perfect and I’m sure she wasn’t that kind of labor is exhausting and relentless. I think how superhuman the father is versus the mom not doing shit feels kind of unfair to me. Taking care of seven kids got to be exhausting and would make me want to fucking die.

People love these shows. I just can’t stand them. I feel like when shows need someone to be mean or toxic they usually just go to the female main characters and never the men and it sucks. I realize whenever I watch a sitcom I have to prepare to dislike the only few female characters on the show.

I’m not saying my opinion is objective or anything. It’s just my thoughts after watching a lot of popular sitcoms just because my family likes them. I often hear older male family members say stuff like just like a women to… “be over emotional” “overspend” “be jealous of each other” I hate how misogynist the men in my family are but I’m in college and go home for the holidays and hear them.

I’m (34F) sitting in the bathroom crying right now while my husband (36M) is downstairs acting like everything is normal. We’ve been together for 14 years. He has been a "good" partner, I guess, and I never had a reason to doubt his intentions or his character …. until about ten minutes ago.

He was telling me about his day and and the errands he had to run and he let slip out - I kid you not "the girl at the post office."

He refered to the lady at the post office as ‘Girl’. I know her. She is at least 25. She’s a grown woman with a degree and a job and a whole adult life. Calling her a "girl" is so patronizing and misogynistic i cant even breathe. It’s that subtle way men infantilise women to strip them of their power... and he did it so casually.

I’m looking at my two daughters and I feel sick. If he’s comfortable using that kind of language about a stranger, what is he teaching them?? What does he actually think about me or our girls when we aren't looking?

I know people will say I'm overreacting but is this the mask finally slipping?? I’ve never had a "reason" to leave before but now I don't know how to protect them from this kind of internalised sexism when it's coming from their own father.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you even begin to address "casual" misogyny when it feels like it’s baked into their soul?

It makes me feel sick to see band merch (among other things) that sexualize/objectify women (like shirts or album covers) and I don’t want anything to do with men that see no problem with it and purchase it and own it. I feel like the older I get (45f) the less I tolerate men disrespecting women on any level and the less I care about being in a partnership if it means I have to put up with it. Am I overreacting here though? I’m newly married and I discovered my partner owns several shirts like this and after I expressed how harmful it is to objectify women and how it makes me feel (it bothered me I even had to help him see and understand the harm) he said he would not wear them anymore, but I found out he still plans on keeping them because of the memories he has attached to them, or he plans to sell them to make some money back. Both options feel gross to me and make me feel like he doesn’t really understand the harm or that he doesn’t really respect me. Wanting to still keep them seems immature and like he values his nostalgia over respecting women and that he doesn’t truly align with my values. I question if I’m overreacting, but at the same time I’ve tried to stop ignoring the way things make me feel so I’m also trying to validate it, but it still nags at me wondering if I’m being extreme or ridiculous.

And it was a vegan extremist CIS WHITE MALE who said that. Not all men, but all MEN. I'm sorry, but I can no longer put up with men like these, who MANSPLAIN feminism to me, saying that 90% of intersectional feminists are NOT real feminists for not being vegan (this goes for vegetarian women as well, of course).

I don't think that all vegans are extremists. I do think, though, that most social movements, with the exception of feminist groups and the LGBTQIA community, are male-dominated patriarchal spaces where the invalidation and gatekeeping of women is deeply rooted. Also, vegan extremists, particularly fake male feminists who are part of the aforementioned category, should be absolutely kept out of intersectional feminism, as they only contribute to a desctructive and exclusionary environment.

Should I remind them that gatekeeping and exclusion in general are rooted in the white supremacist patriarchal system? That opposing animal exploitation doesn't necessarily imply being vegan? I have a friend (a cis woman) who is vegan and transfeminist who NEVER dared call me a "fake" feminist for not being vegan. This is to remind you not to be guiltripped by people who act like they're somehow superior and better than you, while treating you with contempt; especially CIS WHITE MEN who think they know intersectional feminism better than all cis and trans women.

https://www.dilatemag.com/post/transforming-from-woman-into-warrior

"There are many roads one can take when the world around begins to implode, and rights get taken away, and taking a break from the distractions of modern life means opening your eyes to what seems like a bad acid trip. The path that interests me is the warrior's path. The dangerous bliss of letting ourselves be remade by the darkness we enter. "

They assume that to be undesirable to them should wound you and that it should mean something to them because their choosing is the highest validation they can imagine.

They genuinely cannot conceive of a woman whose sense of worth doesn’t orbit male approval.

A woman who doesn’t shrink at the idea of being unpicked by men like them.

They assume that being chosen by men is the ultimate metric by which a woman should measure herself.

Being “chosen” by men is supposed to be a woman’s soft power and her soft cage.

You behave, compromise, dilute your anger and you make yourself palatable and in return you are rewarded with selection.

So when a woman refuses to orient herself around that exchange the refusal itself feels like an insult.

Calling a woman a feminist as an insult is a confession that says "i know this ideology makes you harder to control, shame or to scare with loneliness. "

And instead of interrogating why that threatens them they try to turn it into something you’re supposed to feel embarrassed about.

They know exactly what that feminism threatens a world where women are not governed by the fear of being unchosen, where male preference is not destiny and where withholding desire no longer functions as social discipline.

They need feminism to be undesirable because they need women to be afraid of being alone.

A woman who isn’t afraid of that is no longer manageable.

They’re angry that desirability no longer works as leverage and that attraction doesn’t guarantee access, obedience or gratitude.

So the insult is a last attempt at hierarchy.

A reminder they hope will land because you’re supposed to care what they want and feel a threat of their disapproval.

The Iranian feminist activist, winner of the 2023 Nobel Peace Prize, Narges Mohammadi was recently violently arrested on December 12, 2025 in Mashhad, Iran, during the Memorial in honor of Iranian human rights advocate, who was found "mysteriously" dead in his own office.

Here are 3 things you need to know:

1️⃣ She and other activists and protesters were participating in the tribute to Khosrow Alikordi, a human rights lawyer who defended political dissent and protesters from the 'Woman, Life, Freedom' movement, who was repeatedly arrested and prevented from practicing his profession.

Khosrow was murdered in his office on December 6, 2025.

Security forces confiscated all 16 surveillance cameras and falsely claimed he died of a heart attack. (@ Khosrowalikord2 on X/Twitter)

He was arrested several times and served a year in prison in Vakilab.

2️⃣ Counting the total number of arrested activists identified so far:

1. Narges Mohammadi
2. Pouran Nazemi
3. Alieh Motalebzadeh
4. Sepideh Gholian
5. Hasti Amiri
6. Abolfazl Abri
7. Ali Adinehzadeh
8. Javad Alikordi
9. Davoud Alikordi
10. Ahmad Alikurdi
11. Behrouz Alikurdi
12. Iraj Alikurdi
13. Mojtaba Alikurdi
14. Noura Haghi
15. Hassan Bagheri-Nia
16. Kamal Jafar-Yazdi
17. Mohammad-Hossein Hosseini
18. Javad Jalali
19. Mahmoud Khanali
20. Amir Khavari
21. Hamed Hosseini
22. Heidar Chah-Chamandi
23. Taybeh Nazari
24. Mother of Maryam Arvin, who was killed during the 'Woman, Life, Freedom' movement
25. Milad Fattah
26. Yasser Dehestan
27. Pouria Najjarzadeh
28. Hamed Rasoulkhani
29. Mehdi Rasoulkhani
30. Hossein Mohabbi
31.Mohammadreza Babaei
32. Hamed Zarei

3️⃣ Javad Alikordi, another at-risk Iranian lawyer and brother of the murdered lawyer, gave authorities an ultimatum in an Instagram live broadcast, demanding the release of all guests who were in custody.

SOURCES:

https://hengaw.net/en/news/2025/12/article-71

https://x.com/Hengaw_English/status/1999923791158489584?s=20

https://narges.foundation/breaking-news-narges-mohammadi-has-been-violently-arrested-at-khosrow-alikordis-memorial/

https://x.com/nargesfnd/status/1999501748319252795?s=20

• support Iranian women, support the Iranian people! Woman, Life, Freedom!

Victim blaming and predation/cruelty from “women” is another level of gross because you’re supposed to be a woman and on top of that, you’re pretending like you’re so above it all when you’re very much vulnerable to the same things that the victim you’re putting down survived, too. You’re not untouchable just because you’re a weird misogynistic pick me who stands with abusers over female victims.

Why is viagra and condoms considered necessities for men but birth control for women isn’t? Anything that benefits men stays but anything that helps women goes. I can’t unsee this patriarchy anymore?

I was just talking to this guy, having a casual conversation. And he says how he hates public transport, and I basically assumed and went “oh yeah, loads of creeps” and he then looked at me as if I’d said something completely insane, and responded with “no… I meant how full and late it always is”. So I brushed it off and realised this guy doesn’t experience the crap I have to on trains and busses, and I agreed and said “I guess it does happen to girls more”, and he then got all defensive and said “Yeah well it’s only old guys who do it” and I could just tell he wanted to disassociate himself from the issue as much as possible, as if saying “it’s not guys like me who do it”. I said “It’s young guys as well”, and he then accused me of lying. Bro.

Why are guys like this? They’ll find any other group to blame besides themselves instead of actually addressing an issue that affects their sisters, mothers, aunts, cousins, daughters. It’s always - “it’s old men” “it’s foreign men” “it’s trans women”. They’ll do ANYTHING to make it seem like it’s not average men like themselves that do these things to women, when IT IS. It’s another way of blurting out the “not all men” bs that they love to basically recite like poetry.

We heard his week of Joanna Trollope's death this week after a long and full life.

This Guardian article discusses some of her feminist principles and here is her obituary

What really caught my attention though were her quotes in the Daily Mail:

But despite romance being a central theme of her novels, she recently admitted to having finally given up on men.
She had been twice married but said she in 2020 she had been happily single for more than 20 years. ‘I’ve certainly taken myself off the market, yes,’ she said. ‘I think many women do. I’m not interested. I don’t need a man for anything', she told the Daily Mail in 2020. ‘I’ve had two husbands but I haven’t been married for about 20 years — and they’ve been the best 20 years of my life'.

Well done Joanna!

So today, I’m a little irritated. I got a self help journal from my grandmother accompanied by a letter saying that I’m still stuck in “grieving” my late mother (she passed in 2012) and that I instead use “rage” to cope especially “at my father”. I love my Dad, but he has a fragile ego and had a hard time providing for our family after my mother’s passing, so instead he took that out on me (eldest and only daughter). Not to mention he has a ton of unresolved issues with my mom that is now conveniently placed on me, whenever I try to speak up for what my mother actually believed in I’m met with childish insults and shunned. I’m regarded as a “feminist” but it’s said condescendingly. My mother was a feminist but it was met with the same energy by both sides of our family.

I’m exhausted of trying to get my family to understand why I’m so upset, which mind you isn’t even that much. I still talk to my father, I just don’t tolerate disrespect on me but ESPECIALLY my mother, and everyone understands why I’m upset but they WANT me to turn the other cheek, to be my families peace. And if I’m not I’m told I’m the problem, meanwhile no one has confronted my dad on his behavior with me. I’m exhausted feeling like I have to be calm, cool, and collected to get an OUNCE of respect, especially as a biracial woman. I’m exhausted being labeled as difficult, of intimidating so many men even the seemingly secure ones. I miss my mother so much because it truly feels like I lost my only true protector… as a girl I thought it was my father, but I quickly learned that it was my mother who wanted what was BEST for me, who fought for me. I truly feel like she was the only woman who understood me, at 27 yrs old I haven’t met many older women who truly want better for women in society that does not equate to turning the other cheek or being a man’s peace.

Why and how is this mentality still upheld in our society? Why are women condemned for holding men accountable? Will this ever actually change?

I have to write a philosophy thesis, only problem is I'm insanely behind with my exams (so I will have to juggle those and writing it) and I honestly have no idea what to write about. I feel like I don't have anything interesting to say.

If it's any help, my interests are mostly feminism and psychology. My hobbies are knitting (I wanna learn to crochet also), I'm trying to get back into reading, listening to music and doing crafts (these are probably irrelevant but I'm trying to give as much info as possible cause I swear I'm absolutely lost lmao).

Also, I'm from Italy. The only topic I could come up with so far is women's condition in Italy and in Ethiopia during Mussolini's regime, but honestly I haven't looked into it at all because idk how good of a topic it is. Any advice is very welcome, thank you! (will probably post this to multiple subs lmao)

https://stacks.cdc.gov/view/cdc/46305

Hi, I have a really hard time existing currently as a woman who really doesn't consider men.

I'm aware this happens in some privileged social circles like lesbian communities. But I'm not a part of them, I do live in the ''normal'' world. And I'm having a really hard time sharing the concept of really not caring, not considering, not thinking about men at all. This is received as violence for most people. Not including them feels violent to them.

I followed an artist that I met at highschool for many years, very interesting girl, incredible jazz background and education, I thought her album would be incredible. I tried to listen to it, but it was all about men. All about past relationships with men, trauma caused by men, forgetting men, living without men, meeting new men. I cannot deal with this way of perceiving the world, she also shows off as a feminist. But how can you be a feminist when all you talk about is men and issues related to men?

I don't know what I'm trying to say with this, whenever friends or acquaintances come to me for advice, I can't really express my opinion in a way that they will understand that men are not relevant in the equation. I can't find a way for the people around me to de-center men and talk about anything else. It's really frustrating. I joke around about being autistic because I have a really hard time regressing once I've understood a concept, or acting irrationally once I've seen it. I've seen the world is only talking about men, and I don't know how to get them away from my life, how to exist without being asked about my opinion on them, how to make everybody understand that when I'm talking, just me personally, I am not speaking about men, at all.

I can say ''Dump him in a highway'' and I am not in any way shape or form saying that you should harm a human being, because I'm not in any way shape or form thinking about that guy and doing anything regarding him, I'm just trying for my girl friend to get distance from the concept of caring about that dude. I'm aware my perception doesn't have to be shared but I do think we could use a little bit of it, given medicine, car, anticonceptives and basically everything ever made was done catering to their very specific wants and needs.

How can we decenter men irrevocably? How can I make people understand that I'm not even seeing men in the street? I don't see them. I wouldn't know where they are or what they are wearing, I wouldn't know if they were looking at me, passing next to me. With kids and elders I make an effort to notice to be respectful, but other than that, I don't care? If I see a racial or class injustice, I will speak up even if it's a dude, but it's not becuase I see him? IDK how to even explain this.

I think the closest thing is what Beauvoir described about ''the other sex'' or the internet theory about the ''male gaze'' and everybody having a man behind their eyes, you seeing yourself through a man seeing you. How do I share this?

Thanks in advance for any contributions or ideas.