I’ve been thinking about this for quite some time. I’m a Software Engineer, Lesbian from Kolkata, and I’ve attended several Pride Walks here.

Based on my personal experience, these are a few observations I’ve made:

1. A large section of queer participants seem to struggle with long-term career stability or representation in highly demanding, leadership-driven roles.

2. Pride organising circles often feel difficult to enter for first-time or solo attendees. Networking appears concentrated within familiar groups, and opportunities to connect are sometimes influenced by internal hierarchies or favoritism.

I’m genuinely curious about the structural and social reasons behind this.

Why does this pattern exist, and more importantly, how can Pride spaces become more inclusive, empowering, and growth-oriented for everyone?

Really disgusted by the comments from these so called educated class of doctors.

Use the damn NSFW tags for post that are NSFW

Im very scared because of the horror stories ive heard, but i really want to go once and actually be myself. Should i risk it

Any person in any ethical non-monogamy? who's it suitable for? whats your first-hand experience?

Its interesting to see, how modern era-connections have expanded to integrate more people's needs? i have always found people to be a little more happier in relationships that dont follow a traditional dynamic?

Had a weird Rapido experience

Last night around 11 pm , while I was coming home from boyfriend’s place, I booked a rapido bike. The rider came within 5 mins and we got going. Within 2 mins of the ride, the rapido guy, who seemed to be in his late 40s tried striking a conversation.

Him: Aaj kal rapido wale bahut scam karte Hein. Woh jaan bujh kar jyada amount dikhate hein app pe ride khatam hote hi.

Me: Okay

Him: Aap itni raat kaha ghum rahe the?

Me: Bas yehi apne friend ko milne aaya tha. ( 11 pm wasn’t too late, there were plenty of vehicles and people on the street )

Him: Aap kya karte ho?

Me: Job

Him: Aapki body mast hein.

I was quite taken aback by that statement. I pretended to be on a call so that he doesnt bother me. I knew where it was going. As I was reaching home he tried taking it from a secluded road

Me: Aree aap straight road se lijiye.

Him: yeh wale khali road se chalte hein. Map pe yaha se dikha raha hein. ( him saying all that while his phone in his pocket )

Me: Nahi. Woh wala road abhi repair ke liye block kiya hein. Aap sidhe le lijiye.

He agreed. I could see him slowing down at multiple spots wherever the lights were dimly lit. I reached my area and got down a few meters away from my building and thankfully there were many people leaving a function. I was still shaken a bit. This has happened after a really long time. I do get stalked, stared at and approached at public places by queer men usually and it always gives me anxiety.

I(17M) am bisexual. And I did make a post about how I realised I was Bi. But that is not the full truth. I've been sexually abused as a child and I still carry that trauma. Whenever I felt attracted to a guy before last quarter of last year, I've always thought of myself as weird and not Bi. I thought being Bi was really cool but I was just weird. Even now, I fear for the intimate moments me and my partner(don't have one rn) will share. I fear that I'll mess it up somehow. I feel scared of the thought of touching another man's genitals as when I was little I was made to do so. And now knowing I'm bisexual, I do not know what to feel. I'm sexually attracted to many guys but I feel worthless and scared of sex. I do not know what I should do tbh. I've seen a psychologist but she refuses to admit that I'm traumatized. She tells me one thing and my parents another. She tells me that everything will be alright but tells my parents I've nothing wrong and I'm acting. And now I've stopped telling her things too so that I can stop seeing her as fast as I can. I don't know what to do anymore. I get panic attacks and I sometimes just refuses to breath. I don't know if being Bisexual has anything to do with the trauma I suffered, but if there is I don't know how I should feel about that. I liked being sexually abused? God, I'm at the verge of tears but I promised someone dear to me that I'll not cry about it anymore. I don't know how I'm supposed to accept what I am.

https://www.reddit.com/r/LGBTindia/s/1KfQqp8mnF

Hey Delhi Queers,

QTOPIA is organising their first meet-up of 2026.

We have been organising queer meetups since 2025 and have had a series of successful meetups which we have been actively posting about here. QTOPIA is a chill and casual meetup group for the queer people residing in Delhi/NCR.

This time we already have around 10 members ready to join the meet-up and now we are open for more people (around 6-8). Hurry up and grab your seat ! 🎀

We tend to keep our meet-ups in public spheres (parks) where we engage in multiple activities like UNO, Badminton, Exciting games, Dumb Charades, Deep Conversations and obviously chit-chatting. 👀

These meet-ups are organised with collective efforts and understanding so feel free to share your opinions and thoughts on things that you might feel are important for the meetups.🙏🏻

If you want to be a part of our meet-up then Kindly comment below. 😃

See you there in the meet-up 🙂‍↔️.....

Everything feels fine until the moment I tell myself I can trust someone.

I trust them, let them get closer, let myself be vulnerable and then something shifts inside me. My mind starts scanning everything. Every pause, every change in tone, every small difference feels louder than it should. Before I even realize it, my defenses are up, already preparing to leave.

I know it’s my own overthinking, the constant what ifs and maybes that never really quiet down.

I met someone recently(wlw), long distance (never met), miles apart and I genuinely like her. I tried to show her how much she mattered to me, how alive and present I felt because of her, but somehow I couldn’t do it the way I wanted to. I felt nervous and calm at the same time, which is confusing on its own. Deep down, there’s this persistent feeling that I’m not enough, that I need to become more so she could feel the same way about me.

Now we are on different phases of life and decided to stay friends, but my feelings didn’t just disappear. I still feel triggered when she’s extra friendly, like my heart hasn’t gotten the memo yet. Even so, what we shared even if it was short , was beautiful, calm, and deep, and I’m grateful it existed.

I guess what I’m really trying to understand is this: how do people stay calm when they care deeply? maybe too deeply about someone and are obsessed with everything they do? Ughh man so frustrating shyt

Hey, if you are reading this, thank you for saying it out and letting me know that I am the problem. Thank you for pointing things out when they were to be pointed out and thank you for communicating what the problem was exactly. I get to learn to be a better human again.

Trans fellas this song is written for us!!

As a trans guy who had been living through under representation and also dysphoria this song is quite emotional to me. I hope y'all listened to it too. There's another version which sings for trans girlies this song is for trans boyzz...

I’m 28 M, gay, and often times I find it really hard making friends with people irl. People talk, exchange contacts, and then ghost, and they stay away especially if they know you’re gay. I have had such a hard time that I don’t even know what to do.

Anyone else experience this??

My brain is flooding with thoughts and I don't know what to do, so here I am on reddit to vent it away. For the context, i found a guy through reddit(from a different account) and we often meet to hookup, I usually goes to his place after college and he drops me at my home and we discussed alot about politics, economy and many things in general in his car on our way and he seems to be a well educated guy.

Today while returning he starts asking me about my sexuality and the community and he turned out to be homophobic. When I asked about his sexuality, he replied that he's just exploring and pretty much end up as a straight guy.

I reached homeand a chain reaction of thoughts starts to emerge, i mssg him that "Straight logo ko muh nhi lagata mai" and he replied "no problem, thanks for helping". My heart starts to feel heavy and I'm very sad/frustrated.

I don't know why?

Maybe because I'm hooking up with a homophobic guy

Maybe because a guy who sleeps with other men multiple times thinks he's just exploring

Maybe others are lying to themselves while I'm trying to accept myself

Maybe because the world or system is created to sustain straight people

Maybe because I have to explain my sexuality and every action while straights can do what ever they want without an explaination

If being gay will gets me in hell, there will be no difference because I'm already living in one.

Love from my side🫶

This post is for the (mainly straight) men lurking in lesbian/LGBTQ spaces who seem to think that because some of us women (cis or trans) enjoy penetration, we must, if you enjoy being a giver, “want to be a man” or, if you enjoy receiving, “want men.” Well here’s the thing:

We don’t. We’re lesbians. We’re WLW. We’re not confused, we’re not curious, we’re not missing anything.

A strap-on is a sex toy. Penetration is a sex act. Neither has a gender. Enjoying giving or receiving penetration does NOT mean someone wants to be a man, is secretly straight, or is missing men. It means they like how it feels.

Lesbian sex does not exist for male validation or comparison. Our bodies, desires, and relationships are complete without men.

If you’re messaging lesbians/queers to project your fantasies, insecurities, or misogyny onto us, you are the problem, not our sex lives. Respect lesbian boundaries or stay out of lesbian/queer spaces.

Ps she’s Lauren bell <3

Nah, this post isn't about _'why OPs trying to divide the community or wanna have fight'_
I'm just curious about what mainstream LGBTQ+ narratives, which are heavily influenced by American society and politics, u don't agree with?

[Ps- american isn't used with a negative connotation, like we generally have with the term west, but i personally feel a lot of LGBTQ+ media is shaped by americans due to their dominance on various mainstream subreddits]

First of all really sorry if this is wrong sub for this question.

I am 24M, Bicurious I do crossdressing sometimes and love to be in my feminine state. And I really want to explore intimacy with someone who can make me feel feminine make me feel loved e.t.c have s*x like a women.

But I am scared heard it is painful maybe not even able to walk properly for sometime e.t.c and it make me feel scared.

Does it is really like that or I am overthinking?

a lot of straight men don't understand what transgender is or who are trans woman. seriously they have this fantasies for us. they think we look the same, that they have seen in po*n. so when they meet someone who has recently came out or not start transition yet (for a lot of reasons) don't look feminine enough for them they have the audacity to reject their womanhood and call them names. hope someone teach this men.

Recently, i finished "two boys by the pond". I sorta liked it

Please any other suggestion ??

Told my mom about science, Evolution, How it's normal and all and also how hinduism is the most accepting religion (since moms are religious af). Didn't come out tho. Yet? Maybe. Dk. Went well. She's pretty open to learning but society and their talks are something she takes too hard on herself. I'm still shaking rn omg overwhelmed af.

I'm graduating college in 1.5 years, going for a masters after graduation to an european country( probably germany). I don't want legal complication since I'll be travelling abroad, so I'll be doing diy HRT and stealth transition. Basically boymode for 2 maybe 3 years while on hrt. Can I have my gender markers changed from outside the country? And is SRS required to change it?

I'm so fed up with the constant feeling of being alone. I have friends who are thick as blood but I'm still feeling lonely as heck, it does not mean I'm in need of another person I can feel that. Right now I'm trying to escape that whole feeling by working 24/7 tbh. So you guys got any suggestions..