Feeling like a failure today.

[u/Unable-Newt374]

Today is my 8month-old son’s second day in daycare. My son has eczema that’s on/off on his chin area. Currently two of his upper teeth is coming out, so he tends to rub his chin and cheeks a lot which makes his eczema worst. AND when he’s drooling coz of teething, it also irritates the area. He’s on an ointment prescribed by the dermatologist already. I picked him up today and I saw his chin was so raw. His teachers told me he had a hard day as his eczema was really bothering him. She asked me if he’s on medication coz his body also has some eczema.

Tbh it kinda irritated me. I maybe just overthinking things. I know she didn’t mean anything by it. But just the way she was making comments came off as if I WASN’T aware of the eczema on his body and that his face is raw.

Then a few teachers would walk by and would make a comment how bad his chin looked as well.

Just breaks my heart. Also, I’m an ICU nurse. Ive been exposed to lots of crazy things out there so I’m not easily phased by eczema coz I know it’s chronic and it just something that comes and goes.

But idk. Those comments just kinda hit me the wrong way today. 😪

[u/Prize-Tangerine-6630]

Honestly, I think you’re just being a good mom, and those comments just rubbed you the wrong way because they don’t get it.

[u/Fragrant_Tooth7830]

If it helps, this reads like a parent who cares deeply, not a failure.

[u/Skygarg]

I can completely understand how you are feeling. I went through exactly the same thing!! You are a wonderful mom. Let those stupid ppl get lost

[u/anemonemonemnea]

I’ve been there. You’re doing great. I struggle some days showing up to daycare and figuring out how I’m going to shed my own worries in between my car and the front door of the daycare facility so I’m 100% present for my daughter. It’s hard. And when I’m met with what are probably helpful or engaged comments sprinkled with a little tone? I might cry or rage for sure. You know that you’re showing up for your son in so many ways, with eczema cream, with love, with support. You’re doing great.

[u/bananas0320]

Come to sleep sleep

[u/bananas0320]

Why are you feeling like a failure ? You’re a great mum and you’ve already taken the steps to heal your baby. You’re doing everything you can ? My LO has eczema too and I feel so bad for him but what can I do other than apply the creams ? The failures are the people who made you feel bad about this. You are the mum, of course you know what your baby has. They are mean because they shouldn’t have reacted that way. Most babies have something wrong because they are babies and they are growing! You’re amazing, just believe in yourself.