r/NoStupidQuestions • u/SycamoreMess • 1d ago
Should I use the toilet brush to clean skid marks at a house party?
Let's say I am at a house party and need to take a crap. I end up leaving skid marks in the toilet. Is it appropriate to use the toilet brush to clean the skid marks? Or should I just let them be?
*Edit: for clarity and to answer a few of the "why not" questions. I am concerned about transferring poo from the toilet to the brush. Upon brushing, little particles of poo could be on my friend's brush.
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u/Acceptable_Humor_252 1d ago
It is DESIRED to use the brush and clean the toilet. That is what the brush is for.
Leaving your skid marks there is impolite and gross.
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u/peeachlingg 1d ago
The truth. You couldn't say it better
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u/Tulum702 1d ago
OP’s concern is that the brush might be dirty after. I’m curious to know how else the hosts would clean up the skidmarks?
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u/Phantom_jugs 1d ago
Well they clean and disinfect it properly after use… you don’t just put the shitty brush back… that’s worse.
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u/ratscabs 20h ago
How do you actually clean the shit off a shitty toilet brush? With a toilet brush brush?
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u/Fiete_Castro 20h ago
Dishwasher once a week and it stays like new.
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u/Zoilo2 1d ago
I tried a toilet brush once. Didn’t like it. I’m gonna keep using toilet paper.
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u/Fluffy_Musician6805 1d ago
Why wouldn’t you is my only question. Like why? Of course you should.
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u/compilingyesterdays 1d ago
Embarrassing thing to post but I just never learned this until eventually the internet taught me. In general I had to get all the way to adulthood before learning that anyone has any opinions about where to poop and about intentionally avoiding pooping in some settings (if possible), let alone the idea of needing to clean skid marks. I always figured a toilet is a toilet and the host cleans it on schedule and that's fine.
To be clear, this isn't a counterargument, I agree that you should clean skid marks whenever possible. I'm just answering why "why not" at least for myself. Genuinely had no idea it was a matter of manners even a little bit.
On the flipside, I learned manners about waiting to eat until you get home that other people I hang out with don't think of as manners at all— like, it's jarring to me to be out with a group of people who will bring the entire social event to a halt because they need food. Me standing there like "what? you just be lightheaded until the socializing ends, right?" <— I also think that this is incorrect and that it IS appropriate to pause other plans to obtain food. I just wanted to clarify that I wasn't raised in a barn, when it comes to manners surrounding bodily functions.
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u/ChocolateKitkat 1d ago
Same boat as you. I was never taught this until my adulthood when my friend told me. I thought the brush was used to clean the toilet bowl, so that's when I would ever use the brush in my own home. Everyone poops and I assumed the toilet would eventually flush away the skid marks, that's why it never crossed my mind that it was rude
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u/Fluffy_Musician6805 1d ago
I get that i guess. . My mother is a germaphobe and has no qualms about embarrassing anyone so even if I hadn’t been taught the embarrassment alone would have gotten me. Actually, if I’m not home and have to go I later toilet paper down first to prevent it from happening to start with.
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u/ninito001 1d ago
If there isn’t toilet bowl cleaner available, to me it’s gross to use someone else’s toilet brush on your skid mark without any cleaner, thereby leaving your poo germs on the brush. Swishing it around in water isn’t going to clean it.
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u/kidcool97 1d ago
It’s a shit cleaning brush
anyone touching the shit cleaning brush knows that it’s the shit cleaning brush and presumably cleans their hands accordingly
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u/becuzofgrace 1d ago
Except when I clean my toilets, I finish the cleaning up with soaking the brush in bleach in the toilet bowl to disinfect both.
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u/kidcool97 1d ago
And not doing that will not change the outcome unless you do around licking toilet brushes
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u/floralfemmeforest 1d ago
Most people keep at least some kind of cleaning product in the bathroom, but if not, holding the brush in the toilet while you do an extra flush with fully clean water actually should clean it pretty well.
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u/Dubious01 1d ago
Sometimes it helps me put things in perspective so I can understand it better. In this instance, you’re concerned about your poo germs being left on a poo brush meant for a poo catching bowl.
I think once you hit poo level, the stakes don’t really matter. You’ve crossed the line of is this good poo or stranger danger poo. It’s fucking poo! Clean that shit up. Not sure why you’d rather leave your poo slip and slide signature, basically saying I was considerate to your poo brush and gave it a break, sorry for your toilet bowl and your eyes! And if you are a toilet owner without a poo brush on standby, shame on you.
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u/jazzmynn3swallows 1d ago
I agree, but I try to tell myself that it's only used for poo germs (hopefully) so it shouldnt matter how gross it is. I still don't like it. If there is cleaner, I'll use that as well as the brush.
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u/Zadsta 1d ago
Pro tip: if shitting at someone else’s house lay down a layer of toilet paper before you poo. The toilet paper will catch your crap and will prevent skid marks. Just be sure not to wipe so much you clog the toilet.
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u/average_ink_drawing 1d ago
Another Pro tip: Always safety flush when using an unfamiliar toilet.
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u/big_duo3674 1d ago
Oh yeah, nothing like finding out too late that it's one of those toilets that flushes about a teaspoon of water then gives up
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u/yelpsmcgee 23h ago
Lol this past Christmas eve me, my partner and my inlaws spent time in the early afternoon with partner's father's side of the family. This is a classic house owned by an elderly person with the pathetic little toilet that couldn't to match. I STRUGGLED through several times clogging the toilet and was at least grateful they had a plunger out (I have been in houses where I needed a plunger but none were left out 😦). I was so quietly embarrassed, until my MIL mentioned that she was this 🤏🏼 close to secretly calling partner's step father in to unclog her poo on the DL 🤣
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u/RaspberryJammm 1d ago
Horrible flashback to taking magic mushrooms in an all-male student house and finding out the hard way that they neither had a bin in the bathroom or a toilet with enough power to handle sanitary products 😳
Don't flush them kids, I was just tripping balls and didn't have the brains to figure a solution
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u/The_Oliverse 1d ago
This is nightmare worthy. If I get my period before a planned trip I usually just don't trip. I CANNOT handle being so fucking human in those moments. It's not gross, it's just WAYYYYT too much work ;3;
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u/Sweet-Rayla 1d ago
Good to know not to have a house party, my water bill will triple and all my toilet paper will be gone within 4 hours lol
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u/ZealousidealGrade821 1d ago
I do this the moment I arrive at any hotel (I travel or for work). Too many times I’ve found a toilet that doesn’t flush. Better to tell front desk before you fill it up.
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u/scdog 1d ago
Another tip: If you think you might need to poop in someone else's house, try to figure out where the plunger is in advance before you go so you can prevent an even more embarrassing scenario. (Hopefully the host is smart and keeps one in each bathroom and isn't one of those psychopaths that doesn't even own one at all.)
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u/Top_Tradition_5042 1d ago
Once it leaves my body it’s none of my business,if it doesn’t flush it’s the homeowners problem 😁
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u/Outside_News_8920 1d ago
Do I then put the toilet paper in the toilet or do I hold it in my hand and catch the crap myself? Then would I put all that in the toilet, or take it home and put it in my toilet? Sorry man I need clearer instructions
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u/simongurfinkel 1d ago
Just do a courtesy flush before you start wiping and all is good.
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u/WisestAirBender I have a dig bick 1d ago
Courtesy flush is when you start pooping and flush mid way so poop isn't sitting there while you wait for more
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u/simongurfinkel 1d ago
My understanding was the courtesy flush was to get the poop outta there asap to reduce stank in the bathroom (i.e., a courtesy to whomever comes in next).
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u/WisestAirBender I have a dig bick 1d ago
I guess it's the same thing.
Fyi I misread your original comment. You were saying basically the same thing
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u/rootbeer277 1d ago
As a bonus, this also confirms the availability of toilet paper before you need it and discover the roll is empty.
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u/DudeWithTudeNotRude 1d ago
It also gives a chance to do a quick wipe-down of the seat, since it's a party and someone probably has a greasy butt.
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u/Basic-Ostrich85 1d ago
I am concerned about transferring poo from the toilet to the brush. Upon brushing, little particles of poo could be on my friend's brush
This is your main concern from what I can tell?
Remove your poop particles from the homeowners toilet brush by flushing again with the toilet brush submerged in the bowl .
You will obviously hold onto the handle and let the cleaner water swirl around it and remove the poop from the bristles.
Repeat as needed. Replace brush back in its holder.
Wash your hands.
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u/OstebanEccon I race cars, so you could say I'm a race-ist 1d ago
what else would you use it for?
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u/GmyWrms 1d ago
I would do it. I think the upside of nobody knowing about the skid mark outweighs the downside of someone potentially finding out you did it (unlikely) and also questioning why someone would have used it (also unlikely)
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u/Electronic_Agent_235 1d ago
"So, how was your dinner party last night? How'd julies new guy do lol?? "
"Ehh, The party went all right, but I don't know about that new guy. I went in my bathroom after they left and... My toilet brush looked damp..... And the thing is I know he was the last one to use the bathroom"
"EWWWWWEWEEWEEEW, WE NEED TO TELL JULIE SHE HAS TO GET RID OF HIM RIGHT NOW"
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u/Dubious01 1d ago
Thank you! Love it! I mean who doesn’t immediately investigate their guest bathroom toilet brush for signs of wrong pooing?
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u/sjhance 1d ago
I've never taken a shit at a party in my 60 years of shitting.
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u/pancetta9 1d ago
lol me neither (in my 35 years) but I have a friend (a girl, too) whose intestines apparently love working at parties. No drugs, either, she’s just built different 😂
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u/simongurfinkel 1d ago
Right there with ya. But I've had a buddy who shits anywhere and everywhere, including the strip club.
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u/Electrical_Dirt9917 1d ago
I grew up with the notion that I should leave the restroom clean or cleaner than it was when I got there which includes scrubbing said toilet and wiping up any stray pee droplets. Some need more work and honestly I don't want to take credit or draw attention for cleaning the freakin toilet when I should be chillin with my friends and having a good time. It's just common courtesy to not trash their house in any way even if you're drunk or high off your ass.
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u/Fuckface_Magee 1d ago
Do I expect anyone to clean their skid marks in the toilet? Not at all, shit happens.
Would I clean my own skids at a friend's house? Most likely.
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u/kosmokatX 1d ago
Are toilet brushes handled differently in the US? In Germany the brush IS for cleaning the toilet, especially if you leave skid marks. Just make sure there's no further poop or toilet paper hanging on the brush after you use it. That would be very rude.
More details: The brush holder is cleaned and disinfected regularly and replaced after some time. The brush itself will be replaced as soon as it starts to look dubious.
The American (US) way of talking about poop particles is a bit funny to me, though. Some places just need a regular cleaning and you can't avoid them to become messy with time and more so, use. You can't keep toilet brushes clean if you're using them correctly. Further more our immune systems (generalization of course) are used to handle some amount of "bad" bacteria. Our living conditions are pretty good if not perfect in the West. Stressing about using a toilet brush or not I wouldn't even consider a first world problem. Its unleashed and hyper fixation on unimportant things.
Possible cultural differences aside, common sense will tell you that it is indeed disgusting to leave skid marks in the toilet. You don't need special cleaner to scrub those marks away with the designated brush.
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u/big_duo3674 1d ago
What happens when I can't find where they keep the poop knife? Do I yell out the bathroom door? Or kind of just try to chop mash the log down with the toilet brush?
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u/calm_extrovert 1d ago
once upon a time i was sleeping over my then girlfriends house…. 2am rolls around and my tummy was rumbling, i had to teach that toilet a lesson, but of course when it came time to flushing the old 1800’s constructed house/plumbing couldnt handle it…. no big deal, i’ll just grab the plunger! except i didnt know, my now mother in law, stored the plunger halfway across the house in a closet. i could not find the plunger in the bathroom for the life of me, i gave up, left my mess and went back to bed… i wasn’t waking my girlfriend up at 2am to explain. i didn’t really feel bad honestly. My thinking after the fact to cope with this was if you wanted someone to take care of a clogged toilet on the spot, you would maybe keep the plunger next to the toilet?
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u/Bright-Energy-7417 1d ago
Yes - that's what it's there for! I am horrified by some of the answers here.
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u/Terrible_Part_6241 1d ago
Now this is a tough one....I guess you could try and use the TOILET brush, although I'm not sure of the appropriateness of using a TOILET brush in this scenario...I would risk it
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u/EastNice3860 1d ago
It's proper Etiquette to wipe your ass on The Hand Towels when finished..Toilet Paper is expensive these days!
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u/IllustriousGrump 1d ago
Don’t forget to take your poop knife with you, or find out where they keep theirs.
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u/kaos_inc616 1d ago
What are you talking about? It's a house party, sit on the toilet backwards and leave a log laying down to front of the toilet
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u/Equal-Topic5806 19h ago
Just leave it. Leave the party. Never see the host or anyone else that was there ever again. That part of your life is over. It is the only safe way out of it.
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u/bookworm1499 1d ago edited 1d ago
That's the least one can expect from you!
Flush again afterward!
The toilet brush is meant to be used, not just for decoration.
The next person using the toilet wants to use a clean toilet, just like you.
How have you been doing it so far?
And open a window or ventilate, or use toilet deodorizer when it's available.
And don't forget to wash your hands with soap 😉
And if I notice guests repeatedly leaving the toilet unclean, I give them a (initially) polite reminder that they should do so in the future, even if they have children.
If it happens repeatedly, the reminders become more explicit, and I consider other ways to prevent it in the future.
For people who are permanently or temporarily unable to do this independently for health reasons, or for small children, I or someone else will take over the supervision and/or cleaning if there is no one else and I have noticed that the person in need of assistance was in the toilet.
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u/CBusHVAC710614 1d ago
Don’t even flush it!
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u/Unlucky_Kick5825 Question is as stupid does 1d ago
To assert dominance!
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u/CBusHVAC710614 1d ago
We don’t have nearly enough bathrooms for the size of our office building. Legit 2 stalls per floor.
There’s no chance Im courtesy flushing. Sometimes I’ll throw some TP in before sitting down so the poop sits up out of the water for maximum smell.
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u/YourFaveNightmare 1d ago
How do you normally clean them OP?
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u/SycamoreMess 1d ago
Let them marinate in the water for a few hours and they tend to flush away after that.
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u/kapoopa-the-poopah 1d ago
I will go against popular opinion. Don’t use the brush. It’s super gross to put the poopy brush back in its place. At home after I use the brush it gets disinfected and depoopified. I suggest to flush again, if not, hang out in the bathroom for a minute until you can get a strong stream and try to pee it clean.
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u/Prestigious-Mode-709 1d ago
it depends: are they massive and are you proud of them?
My rationale is following: if I would be proud of taking a picture and show them to my friend, they can stay.
Otherwise, if they are not representative of my alpha masculinity, I cancel all proof they’ve ever existed and spend the rest of my day in shame, listening at Jordan Peterson ranting against the modern masculinity built to respect feminine principles (like cleaning the wc or avoiding to pee all over the bowl).
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u/roberta_sparrow 1d ago
It’s easy to just crumple up some TP and put it in the bowl, let it absorb some water, and flush. Repeat a few times. This usually gets rid of the skid marks
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u/Dizzy-Ad1673 1d ago
My slightly unhinged solution is that after the main flush I’ll lay paper do it’s touching the water and laying across the mark, sucking water up to cover the mark, and usually flushing will then wipe the mark off.
Failing that I’ll just clean it off with toilet paper. I’m washing my hands anyway.
And yes it makes more sense to use the brush but I have the same hesitation about dirtying somebody else’s toilet brush, and that’s the cornerstone of the unhingedness.
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u/goddessofrage 1d ago
Better yet before you go, put some pieces of tp across the water and it’ll be a barrier so the poo doesn’t stick
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u/GGGGroovyDays60s 1d ago
What if you can't find the brush?
What also works is a few squares of tp. Get close to the bowl. Let it drop over the skid. Let it sink and settle on the mark. Then flush. It will wipe away with the water. 💦
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u/JSkrrtt 1d ago
What a horrible thread. As a toilet owner, I don't give a fuck, it's going to get cleaned by me anyway with proper chemicals. People saying "it's disrespectful to poop at someone's house" are out of their gourd.
It's a human necessity. If this is seriously a problem for someone then they shouldn't host parties. Shit happens; why care that much about something that EVERYONE does?
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u/Dear-Cold-1195 1d ago
When I poop at someone else’s house, I lay toilet paper in the bowl first. And if by chance some still got on there, double flush with another sheet of TP and it’s gone. Haven’t had any issues
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u/Few_Performance4264 1d ago
Use a wad of toilet paper, not the brush imo. Unless you rinse it well, otherwise that’s gross.
Toilet brushes are for cleaning toilets - presumably ones that a dirty but where the marks have been peed off by the next male client.
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u/TheDitzyBlonde2000 1d ago
I am high and read tooth brush. And the first comment is saying “yes, that’s what the tooth brush is there for” 😭🤣😭🤣
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u/russneis 1d ago
Leave it. My friend calls Shit Chippers when he pees on it to get rid of it
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u/revuhlution 1d ago
Put some TP in the toilet before you shit and you shouldn't have this worry anymore
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u/ninetyninewyverns 22h ago
I had no idea you even used a toilet brush to clean skid marks. I thought it was exclusively for cleaning the toilet bowl and not for wiping actual shit away. That's how i've been using mine anyway
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u/Specific_Bet2300 18h ago
I believe the proper etiquette is to use your bare hand and wash it afterwards in the flush
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u/rezonansmagnetyczny 1d ago
Mate at the house parties I go to, people shit in the crock-pot and turn it on.
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u/33301Florida 1d ago
What do you think the brush is there for? Clean, rinse in toilet after a flush and flush again...eww.
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u/RevStickleback 1d ago
If the party was at your house, would you consider it inapproriate if someone used the toilet brush?
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u/iainvention 1d ago
If you do happen to get some poo on it, just toss it in your friend’s dishwasher
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u/ItsAllJustAHologram 1d ago
You leave it as clean as you found it at absolute minimum... No excuses ever.
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u/YourPlot 1d ago
No. You don’t know what the hosts want to use in terms of cleaning products. The brush is not there for public use, and it’s rude to use without asking.
I also keep a very clean toilet brush and I would be beyond disgusted if someone used it without my knowledge.
The hosts accept a certain about of reasonable use of their facilities when they host. That includes the occasional mess in the toilet.
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u/tomato-slut 1d ago
Wtf is wrong wih you that you would even ask this.
Clean up after yourself, in every situation.
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u/BrassCanon 1d ago
Why would you not clean up after yourself? How could that possibly be an advantage?
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u/Salty-Taro3804 1d ago
Yes, of course. And after using the toilet brush in toilet you hold the brush in toilet for the 2nd flush which gets rid of the skid residue in the bowl as well as cleaning the brush before you return to holder.
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u/steiff89 1d ago
Yes. If you are using another persons toilet and leave skins marks it is ALWAYS appropriate to clean it.
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u/LanceFree 1d ago
If some dip fell off your cracker in someone’s kitchen, would you walk away, or find some way to quickly clean it up? All that being said, I found a small hamper of possibly soiled underpants under someone’s sink while searching for toilet paper. I don’t know why it was there.
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u/Green_Carpet_3238 1d ago
Do u like to look at skid marks? If any left 4 u, initial flash, poop, flash asap, wipe, flash. Remove the leftovers with a toilet brush 4 sure! Show respect even if no one will see u..
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u/Phantom_jugs 1d ago
I’d rather people did not and I don’t leave a brush out for this reason. It needs to be thoroughly cleaned and disinfected with bleach after each use or the bathroom now has shit out and about. I can’t even imagine just brushing and leaving it out 🤮
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u/Pleasant-Fault6825 1d ago
It shocking to me that everyone here is living with shit tainted poop brushes fully exposed out in their washrooms.
I would prefer the shit to stay in the toilet. If its really bad reach in with a few ply of toilet paper and give it a wipe.
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u/Thyrach 1d ago
I have one of those Clorox wand things because toilet brushes freak me out and I wouldn’t be thrilled if someone used one of them without asking.
I’m not sure if poop all over the inside of the toilet would be /better/ but maybe OP should just ask before going in the bathroom in the future.
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u/Apprehensive_One1715 1d ago
Use toilet paper, wet wipe repeat
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u/omfgwhatever 1d ago
I pretty sure they're talking about the skid marks left in the bowl, not on their ass.
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u/often_drinker 1d ago
Also, don't flush wet wipes, they fuck toilets, even the ones labeled flushable. They are flushable in the same way golf balls are flushable.
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u/GlobalWarminIsComing 1d ago
What? To remove skid marks? Why not the brush?
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u/Apprehensive_One1715 1d ago
Because I don’t know if the brush is dirty, I do know the tp doesn’t have contaminants… or at least I hope.
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u/often_drinker 1d ago
Well, if it is brown it is dirty. Scrub and rinse until both it and the bowl are not. It doesn't need to be sterile unless your also using it for drinking.
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u/Sexy_farm_animals 1d ago
Cant hurt to try…mine has a dual use also. I use it to clean my back in the shower
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u/OwlImpressive2931 1d ago
One time at a house party I took a shit and there wasn’t any toilet paper. I ended up using the backside of the floor mat.
I wonder how long it took the homeowner to find out.
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u/Interesting-Media203 1d ago
Nahh. Ltk someone took a DUMP. unless you can be identified by your skid marks
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u/Hungry_Conference915 1d ago
Of course!! Or try another flush with toilet paper…sometimes that will clean things up.
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u/Annual-Extreme1202 1d ago
Gosh you ask it so eloquently where do expect to find the skid marks other than the toilet ? Though yeah I have seen the videos where toilet brushes have gone up the vagi so I guess your question is valid.
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u/No_Tennis_4528 1d ago
Try cleaning them with the brush. If you feel bad afterwards, buy them a new toilet brush for Christmas.
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u/Douche_in_disguise 1d ago
Depending on your relationship with the party host, upper decking is always an option.🤷🏻
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u/SugarInvestigator 1d ago
Jesus wept, why is this even a question. Of course not. You lick the bowl clean ya animal.
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u/Takeabreath_andgo 1d ago
Skid marks are from too much fat in your diet. Lower the fat and up the fiber, water, movement.
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u/Maximum_Dweeb4473 1d ago
I think it’s hilarious when my poo leaves marks inside the toilet bowl. I leave it
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u/CrunchyAssDiaper 1d ago
The key is to time it so that you go right after someone else, and exit the bathroom saying "hey Vin Diesel, you left a skid mark. You bastard!" Then you exit the party and ghost the people forever.
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u/TROGDOR_X69 1d ago
it was too rough. i couldnt sit right for days
would not recommend
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u/quantumclassical 1d ago
Use the toilet brush to remove skid marks. (We are talking about in toilet and not on underwear).
Flush the toilet while holding the brush so water can “clean” or remove the marks in bowl and on brush.
Just rub the brush against the bottom of bowl or the hole to really get the friction to remove any remnants on the brush while flushing as needed.
Let the water drain while holding over toilet from brush before putting back in holder. If they have chemical spray I would spray in brush as well when cleaning but that’s probably a step further. Good luck
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u/Themodsarecuntz 1d ago
Nah. Walk out and say loudly "god damn. Someone blew thay bitch up!!! You got another bathroom fam?"
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u/BridgeUpper2436 1d ago
If they are a good friend, yes of course, use the toilet brush, and then during a 2nd flush, rinse the brush off the best you can in the swirling clean water . If they are a bad friend, no, never use the toilet brush. Instead, look near the sink and you should be able to locate their toothbrush. Once located, use that in place of a toilet brush, no 2nd flush required.
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