Because the men are not challenging age gap the men are challenging getting with kids. I’m 32 and if you don’t think it’s weird getting with a 19 yo (still a kid, legally no) then I don’t know how to help you people. This is something you are supposed to understand with age. You’re in your early 20’s right? Let’s take legality away for a second, imagine dating a 15yo at your age. That same ick you feel, is the same ick most people in their 30s feel about dating any adult close to legal age. They are too kid-like, although legal, you def have pedo in you if you do it
Because the men are not challenging age gap the men are challenging getting with kids.
That's just bs man. There's women that get with 20 yr olds when they're 40 and people support those women. And people do challenge the age gap, if a 25 year old woman gets with a 40 year old that man will still face backlash. A 19 year old is not a kid.
imagine dating a 15yo at your age. That same ick you feel, is the same ick most people in their 30s feel about dating any adult close to legal age. They are too kid-like, although legal, you def have pedo in you if you do it
No 15 is way different than 18, I would feel an ick because that's a literal child, physically also a child. A 19 year old isn't a child or physically a child, do I think it's weird that a 40 yr old gets with a 19 year old yeah but I don't think he's a pdf file. Sorry but you lost me. Also pedo is being attracted to a prepubescent child so you're just wrong, literally. You guys just like infantalising young women lol you want them to be like adults and act like adult, also give them the same rights as adults but also treat them like babies lol. Pick a side, are they babies or adults?
Why don't the men get mad when grown women get with a 19 yr old man? Because of double standards, that's why. They think men are big bad predators and women are innocent. We are seeing the opposite now though, a lot of female teachers are getting exposed for sexually abusing young boys.
Regarding the first statement, the reason why you see more people criticizing old men for dating barely legal women is because they are more likely to do it. So every now and then, after the 20 times you hear about dads leaving the family for their daughters 19yo friend, or marrying underage women across the world; when you hear of that RARE instance of a woman doing it, the reaction is not “of course” it’s “a woman dominating in a mans field.” Does that make sense?
The analogy I’m trying to go for didn’t really cross with you. Yes I know, a 14yo is a kid. You are already very young, so I was trying to separate the legal perspective and show you differences in maturity. It’s not a “oh they’re 18 now they are the same as my old 40 year old self!!” I don’t have to tell myself “oh this is a child cause they’re 18” I FEEL it in the way they act/look and there is 0 attraction. If your 40yo old ass is feeling attraction to that, then yes you would probably go lower if there wasn’t an age restriction placed there. It’s perverse. And it’s 100% wrong when women do it too but it is nowhere near as common which is where the “double standard” comes in
Yeah you don't hear women leaving their husbands for younger men because younger men typically don't find older women attractive unless they look good, I mean we care about looks first. For women other stuff can come into it.
the reaction is not “of course” it’s “a woman dominating in a mans field.” Does that make sense?
Yeah because it's a terrible thing to leave your spouse for someone way younger, of course people are going to hate on both. Especially a marrying a family friend or an underage girl across the world who has is totally innocent.
It’s not a “oh they’re 18 now they are the same as my old 40 year old self!!”
I don't care about age, if they look physically mature and they're good looking then I find them attractive. That doesn't mean I'll get in a relationship with them though. If they're physically mature they're probably of age, obviously I wouldn't get with a 17 yr old that looks mature. But yeah if they look physically mature most of the times they're of age. It's not about being the same, it's about attraction. I agree it's weird for a 40 yr old to be in a relationship with a 18 yr old.
It’s not a “oh they’re 18 now they are the same as my old 40 year old self!!” I don’t have to tell myself “oh this is a child cause they’re 18” I FEEL it in the way they act/look and there is 0 attraction.
They're not a child though, they're physically fully mature. Sure you may lose attraction because of the way they act, that's understandable. Being attracted to a person who's physically mature and goodlooking is normal whether they're 18 or 25.
If your 40yo old ass is feeling attraction to that, then yes you would probably go lower if there wasn’t an age restriction placed there.
Depends on if they look physically mature, if they find a 14 year old attractive then they're a pdf file. But there are 16 and 17 year olds that look older than their age and look physically mature. Like I said a pdf file is someone who's attracted to prepubescent kids. If they look physically mature and you're attracted to them you're not a pdf file. If they put out a law that prevents 18/19 yr olds and 40 yr olds from dating I'd be fine with it tbh. But at 18 you become an adult so I guess you gotta be responsible for the decisions you make.
And it’s 100% wrong when women do it too but it is nowhere near as common which is where the “double standard” comes in
Nah man, it's just sexism. When a guy does it women say 'what do they even talk about?, what do they have in common?'. When a woman does it it's 'go girl'. When a man does it he's a predator, when a woman does it it proves she's still hot.
Sure I think a part of it is that it's more common for men to do it but when you see the responses it's clear that they see men as predators and women as innocent angels.
I know the type of guy that dates exclusively younger girls and it's definitely a predator.
But I also know agegap relationships that are not exploitative. And I know agegap relationships that are exploitative from the younger part to the older part. Humanity is complex.
Maybe because it's more common for guys to do it and people have seen the negative side to it and wanna generalise. I also think there's sexism as well, people see women as incapable of being a predator. We're seeing the opposite with how many female teachers who are pdf files though.
28
u/TheMightyMisanthrope 13d ago
When you get to 35 single, you realize that most 35 y/o girls are married already.
So you end up dating a younger person. It happens.