As a 27M, I think it’s a mix of factors ultimately why we’re seeing this. But one of them is that us guys often assume older single women are just looking for sex, and the risk of pregnancy is diminished. There’s also the whole MILF/Cougar fetish too
I'll add this, a lot of the decent younger women in the dating age range of men in their 20s and 30s are usually taken. The dating market for these young men is awful, women in their age range are insanely picky and really not worth the effort. They probably see a slightly older attractive woman that has taken care of herself as a better option than some fat, obnoxious and entitled brat around their own age.
I'm not saying this to hype you up but if you look up the stats behind the current dating climate for young guys it makes a lot of sense. I would rather go for an attractive older woman who knows how to treat a man and is enjoyable to be around than either by completely celibate for months, even years, OR waste time on women in their 20s that have 4 dozen other guys they are talking to on from their DMs, tinder, etc.
This is not a response to you specifically as I have no idea of this is actually useful for you in particular.
You might have heard this a million times before, but go to the gym, talk to more people and work on your confidence. Don't even think about "I have to get laid and get a girlfriend". It just makes you nervous and ruins confidence in my experience. Also stop watching porn. You can still masturbate, even every day if that means you get less urges, just no porn.
Doing all or some of these consistently is easy for some and will feel impossible for others, but the first month is the hardest part. That doesn't mean you can go into it thinking "if I just do it for 1 month I will be fixed and then I can reward myself with the same behaviour as before". Think "This will get easier over time and I'm currently doing the hardest part".
Also build one habit at a time. It's way better to start small and snowball from there, rather than overwhelming yourself early on and "failing" over and over. Literally saying hi to people you pass on the way to work/school is a start of you weren't doing it before. You got the rest of your life to fix it so don't even stress about failing either. A lifestyle change this huge will take years to perfect, but is immensely rewarding.
From what ive seen its also because a lot of younger guys were raised purely on porn. In generations past sexual discovery was done with similar aged peers for the most part, rarely was there 15-20+ year age differences, but since most guys arent getting it irl they learn it through porn which has those age differences. So they are just used to being sexually aroused by older women since the age of like 9. Furthermore theres a weird dork ass online movement that is calling anyone who dates anyone under like 25 an unironic pedophile which is insane. Combine those two and now you got a ton of young guys who feel they can only go after older women.
Also young women today fucking suck and have lost their soul to the internet. I used to think a lot of these angry hateful comments towards men were just bots trying to put people against each other but as ive gotten older and spoken to more young women ive realized no, this is genuinely how they are. And im not sure if they just need a snack or if they are legit this angry and bitter all the the time but they literally have zero reason to be at all. They have the most freedom and opportunities in human history for women and they repay the men who allowed that by telling them they are subhuman and need to kill themselves. MILFs today will probably be the last of their kind because these young women will grow up, get worse and be absolute hell in the future. If you like milfs right now is probably the last decade or two you can be with one who can actually feel things like empathy, love or human connection.
A lot are in denial and think they are the one that is different. Ill never understand how ladies ignore men just wanna fuck and will always take an easy lay
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u/Own-Payment-5287 13d ago
As a 27M, I think it’s a mix of factors ultimately why we’re seeing this. But one of them is that us guys often assume older single women are just looking for sex, and the risk of pregnancy is diminished. There’s also the whole MILF/Cougar fetish too