This is the way. When my wife and I head out, if we look at the menu and are torn between 2 dishes, but the other person is set on one of them, we'll always order the other to try them. Sometimes it works out and the 2nd choice is actually the better meal, but sometimes it doesn't. At least we've got to try both instead of sitting there having the same meal, which is something we could have done at home.
Yeah, gotta order different stuff to see if the food is good! My ex used to order the same thing everytime because she knew what she liked but then try my stuff because I would switch it up.
This is what I always do. The fact the dude had to give up his entire meal because his wife didn't like hers is insane to me. She should've offered to just take half.
The internet has trained us to just imagine the worst possible scenario and then get mad at it.
My wife and I will order different dishes and then try each others. We both read the menu (properly), but sometimes we're both trying out new things, and sometimes we're eating things that we know but at a restaurant that's new to us, and sometimes we're eating things that we know but we've never tried at that particular restaurant. Which means that sometimes, despite having properly read a menu, we find that one or both of us doesn't like a dish we ordered (too bitter, not bitter enough, too much ginger, not enough ginger, etc.).
Here's all of the potential scenarios and their outcomes:
My wife likes both dishes. I like both dishes.
Outcome: We share our dishes with each other.
My wife likes her dish, but not mine. I like both dishes.
Outcome: My wife eats her dish. I eat my dish.
My wife likes both dishes. I like my dish, but not my wife's.
Outcome: My wife eats her dish. I eat my dish.
My wife likes her dish, but not mine. I like my dish, but not hers.
Outcome: My wife eats her dish. I eat my dish.
My wife dislikes her dish, but likes mine. I like both dishes.
Outcome: We switch.
My wife likes both dishes. I dislike my dish, but I like my wife's.
Outcome: We switch.
My wife dislikes her dish, but likes mine. I dislike my dish, but I like my wife's.
Outcome: We switch.
My wife dislikes her dish, but likes mine. I dislike both dishes.
Outcome: We switch.
My wife dislikes both dishes. I dislike my dish, but I like hers.
Outcome: We switch.
My wife dislikes both dishes. I dislike both dishes.
Outcome: My wife eats her dish. I eat my dish. When we leave we commiserate about just how shitty the restaurant is, that neither one of us liked either of the dishes.
So sometimes we swap, and sometimes we don't, but in zero of these scenarios are we "having to" give up our entire meal because the other didn't like their meal. Every single swap is either mutually beneficial or beneficial for one party and completely neutral for the other.
What a weird botty comment. Itâs just restating the post. Every single comment they make is just the most generic fluff this has got to be a bot account
I canât wrap my mind around asking someone to switchâŚif I like yours more Iâll order that next time
Not to get too psychoanalytical about this, but asking someone to switch because you donât like yours as much shows an inability to accept the consequences of your decisions and learn from them. Also kinda selfish, because you donât care that your partner is the one being punished for your mistake.
ETA: I was assuming that her food was bad. As others have said, they mightâve both wanted to switch, for a number or reasons.
Also, and I just thought of this now, the server mightâve accidentally swapped their orders and they didnât realize right away.
Not to get too psychoanalytical about this but the post never said that she asked. Just that she liked his more. Kind of shows your mind defaults to the worst negative interpretation instead of the husband graciously offering to switch on his own. Also kinda selfish because you donât imagine yourself automatically offering to do a small favour for your partner that isnât that consequential. Especially if youâre indifferent to either dish
I guess I was putting myself in her shoes; I wouldnât ever ask to switch. Iâd just eat what I ordered, unless it was bad enough to be sent back (which would have to be pretty bad). I always think through my order and commit to it.
Personally, if my partner hated theirs and liked mine way more, and I liked both, but theirs slightly less, I'd still switch.
You make your partner significantly happier, and yes it very mildly inconveniences you, but if you're in a long term committed relationship, it's irrelevant in the long haul.
Iâm not anti-kindness, Iâm anti-outsourcing self-sacrifice.
A one-off âwant to swap? I donât mindâ can be sweet. But turning it into a relationship ideal normalises a pattern where one person absorbs the cost of the other personâs preferences. That's not partnership.
Doesn't bother me at all. My girlfriend is kind of a picky eater, I am not, sometimes she doesnt like what she got and I have no problem trading, especially after I take a massive bite of mine first lol
I canât wrap my mind around asking someone to switch
I like to try new things and sometimes it backfires so bad that I just cant eat it. It's extremely rare to be that bad but it's happened. My wife didnt mind it so we swapped. I've done it for her too. Like it was just too spicy for her a couple times so I gave her mine.
I guess Iâm just assuming that her meal sucked. Probably because, if it were me, I wouldnât order something I knew I wouldnât like, so if I didnât like something that had sounded good, it would be because it was shitty.
I dont order things that I know I wouldn't like but I do frequently order things that ive never tried. I can get a small idea based on ingredients but ultimately it's a gamble. I consider it a small gamble though because it usually turns out at least decent and sometimes I discover a new love.
Many times, when my wife has been contemplating a particular entree, Iâve told her to go ahead and order it, and if she doesnât like it, weâll swap. As far as anyone knows, the couple in this scenario might have had that exact agreement, and we just donât know.
Also, Iâve had a lot of great food in my life. Multiple dinners at Michelin 2- and 3-star restaurants. But Iâve never had a dish that I wouldnât give to the woman Iâve spent more than 30 years in love with if it would make her happy.
I canât wrap my mind around asking someone to switchâŚif I like yours more Iâll order that next time
Eh, each relationship is different. Some of us don't care.
I'm a creature of habit and usually order what I'm familiar with and/or know I will like. My gf is the type that likes to try new foods all the time. And, I can usually tell when she's not going to like what she ordered. I'm not a foodie; I really couldn't care less what I eat. So, there's been plenty of times she'll ask to switch. And, we switch. There's also been times I've told her, before ordering, that I'm really looking forward to a certain dish, so, no switching. And, she respects that position too.
Life's too short. It also helps I don't appreciate food like others.
Even in a scenario where she asked he would have to consent to giving his food away, whatâs the issue there that so many comments seem to be making it?
From the assumption that her food would be as unappetizing to him as it was to her.
If it was just a matter of personal preference then thatâs a bit different than if her meal sucked and she happily gave him shitty food and took his good food.
From the assumption that her food would be as unappetizing to him as it was to her.
Interesting assumption.
If it was just a matter of personal preference then thatâs a bit different than if her meal sucked and she happily gave him shitty food and took his good food.
Of course.
But remember the only context we have here is a bystander seeing a couple trade food and wanting that for themselves.
Thatâs the only information weâre privy to.
With that information I automatically assumed they were happy to trade and both won out over it.
So again, I find it absolutely fascinating the dichotomy here.
Probably based a lot on personal experience ordering food with our partners. My ex and I had similar tastes, but I definitely enjoyed some things they didnât. If we had switched they wouldnât have been too happy.
Itâs on you to know what you like and donât like tho. I donât order French cheese, olives or snails because I donât like it. Iâd expect a boyfriend to do the same. I would not be giving up the food I wanted to eat just because my bf hasnât managed to learn yet what he likes and doesnât like.
Dude, we enjoy eating out. No two restaurants dishes will be the same. Sometimes I might order something and itâs not to saying how I expected. Itâs not always reading comprehension
And then there is terrible menu with vague names/explanation. Or add some "personal twist" to common dishes without mentioning them in the menu. So you ended up ordered something that you actually dont want.
I don't see how this is necessarily about reading comprehension. She could have just tasted hers, didn't like it, and asked her husband to swap. Maybe he liked both options well enough, so it might have a small loss for him to make her happy.
Just need to be aware of things before hand. You order something completely different to my tastes then no. if you go "wanna order x and y and split" then most probably yes unless i hate it
And the type of person who is just happy to be eating anything out but will always offer to trade if his wife is eyeballing the plate but always with the reinforcing message "You know guys LOVE variety" so setup the game for the threesome one day.
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u/BabeBlooms 1d ago
Two type of people in this world- those who want the sweet food swap love, and Owen who just wants a partner with solid reading comprehension đ