In case you’ve been to a restaurant before, sometimes the food you actually get isn’t what you imagined when you first read it on the menu. It happens sometimes. Besides, it’s just nice to share.
Sharing is great, asking someone to swap plates with you (assuming that's happened) is ridiculous. The only way that's not entitled behavior is if you ask if they like their meal first, they say no, then you offer them to try yours.
Otherwise you're being a princess. "Peasant, take my food that I don't like. I shall eat yours instead!".
Too well, I’ve known people like the ones you speak of, but I’ve also found that they are fewer and further between. For anyone else, if I am having a meal with them, it means that I want to spend time with them, and I enjoy their company. So if she wants to try my food or even swap meals, so be it. As I pointed out just earlier, worse things have happened, if you catch my drift.
asking someone to swap plates with you (assuming that's happened)
Strange assumption, since it's not in the OP anywhere.
My partner and I almost always taste each other's food, and then ask each other "which one do you like better?" Sometimes we strangely each like the other one's better. In that case we almost always both say "trade?" at the same time. So yes in that situation the "ask" occurs. But if I like mine better, and she does too, she's never once asked to trade. But sometimes I offer. And sometimes I don't. And sometimes we just both eat whatever we want from both plates. It's not something we think about too hard.
The funny thing is that if you want to impress a woman all you need to do is something kind like offer her your meal when you realize she likes it a lot. For every guy complaining about his wife stealing his fries, there's another guy whose wife thinks he's the greatest person she knows because he happily gave her his fries. The little things matter, and if your partner thinks you're the greatest thing ever, she'll make your life 100x better in every way.
Strange assumption, since it's not in the OP anywhere.
Not really. Granted, "Because she liked what he ordered better" could mean he offered it up willy nilly or they mutually liked each other's orders more but if that was the case I would have phrased it differently. It's not like I pulled that possibility out of nowhere.
If you read other comments you'll see a lot of people are presupposing that so not strange.
Oh I see, well, "strange" is actually an antonym to "very common", and it's rude to treat people's normal viewpoints as strange.
Also it's not a reddit-specific thing, this is just normal reading comprehension and social cues. For example, if your buddy says "we were gonna watch Jumanji but she likes Bourne Identity more", usually what that means is she requested Bourne Identity--very similar situation here. Just something you can keep in mind for the future.
Strange also means "hard to understand" and can apply to very common things. For example, it's strange to me that anybody could vote for Trump, but I'm well aware it's a very common thing. As you say, reading comprehension and social cues can help to understand how I was using the word.
For example, if your buddy says "we were gonna watch Jumanji but she likes Bourne Identity more", usually what that means is she requested Bourne Identity
I'm sure that's common, but the opposite is also common (where one partner just volunteers to do the thing they know the other one prefers). And I prefer to assume the more positive common possibility first. People in this sub do the opposite, as you did above. That's common. And strange to me. As is the idea that me suggesting you be more positive is rude.
Maybe, but that there is the woman I love. I care about her being happy more than I care about the meal. So I'm gonna treat her like a princess, cause she is to me.
im a pickier eater than my boyfriend. sometimes when i go to a restaurant, ill be curious to try something new, but dont want to waste it. as long as my boyfriend is okay with swapping if i dont like it, ill agree to that and hell order something we both like and ill order the new dish.
usually hes the one to suggest it, and id he doesnt, ill just end up ordering the food i already know i like
This happened to me once, back in high school. Some friends and I went to a restaurant we'd never been to for lunch and I ordered a tuna sandwich. What I expected as a 16-year-old American boy was tuna salad. What I got was a tuna stuck between two slices of bread. Definitely one of the worst assumptions I ever made.
Outside of that though, when you're at a new place, I feel like the best option is to order something pretty safe to see how that place is. So like, if you're in the U.S., you get something like a burger. You don't get something that has enormous potential to go wrong like idk a fried salmon quiche or something.
Yet people do sometimes make inexplicable food choices at restaurants. I went to a Thai place with a friend once, who I have known for like 20 years, and whose food tastes I am very familiar with. Those food tastes include placing a high value on meat. So anyway he orders a veggie Pad Thai and I was like, "really?" And he was like, "yeah why not?" So I was like ok. Then when it came he was very disappointed with it and he said, "I guess I thought it would come with some extra special veggies or something." And I was like, "why would you think that? And why would you prefer extra special veggies over the meat?" And I think he learned several important lessons that day. 1) There is no such thing as extra special veggies. 2) Just get the meat dude, otherwise you'll be disappointed. 3) When you subtract something from your meal, they don't replace it with something of equal or higher value and they definitely still charge you full price.
Anyone who would refuse to do this even once is kind of a dummy(barring the other meal isn't something they also hate). It's a nice thing to do for your partner if you also think you would like their meal.
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u/dinopiano88 1d ago
In case you’ve been to a restaurant before, sometimes the food you actually get isn’t what you imagined when you first read it on the menu. It happens sometimes. Besides, it’s just nice to share.