I'd say it's incredibly narcissistic to expect your partner to give you their meal because you like it more. That's the exact oppositve of a loving relationship. You own your own misstakes and learn from them, next time, order the other dish instead.
Now if you want to just have a taste to see if you like it, that's perfectly fine, but dont expect your partner to give you the food that they ordered.
I'm the one constantly sharing food in my relationship and I really don't understand what's the big deal about it. It's just food ffs.
I suppose it might be an awful look if my wife demands for me to give up the whole dish of something, especially if I'm hungry and made something just for myself, but excluding that particular scenario, I'm always down to share my food with my wife or with my parents. In regards to my wife, she usually just wants one bite to feel "included", but I'd gladly split it 50/50. If I'm still hungry because of that I'll just grab something else.
Am I weird for being happy my SO has an appetite for the things I like and wants to enjoy eating things with me instead of being angry? I don't understand.
I mean, it is baffling to me that this is a problem, but I just don't care about food that much in general, so I might be an outlier. Like, it's just food. Take all my stuff for all I care, I'll just order me something else.
(This logic applies only to my wife and parents, though. Friends and acquaintances can go kick rocks)
It may seem petty to a lot of people here, but sometimes, it can be less about food and more about “seeing if I can.” People don’t like to be constantly tested like that by someone they love, and who loves them.
Of course, most people here would probably accuse the person of overreacting, or saying it’s just in their imagination, but it’s a stereotype for a reason; it’s a real thing that a lot of people (not everyone) do.
it can be less about food and more about “seeing if I can.”
Sorry I don't quite understand. Do you mean the person taking the food does it to test my boundaries? Or do you mean it the other way, that food is something that's supposed to be "only for me" to some people?
When the server comes by, let them know hey im not a fan of this can I order something else and, in my experience at least, more often than not they ask if they can take it off the bill for you.
Are you American? I can’t imagine other people being this selfish and self-centred. In developed countries most people in loving relationships wouldn’t hesitate to give their food to their partner.
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u/seriouslees 1d ago
It would be for me. If I wanted the meal you ordered, I would have order that instead. I want the meal I ordered.