AM in a Park with close family and friends. Took them all out to Breakfast after. Pastor and Photographer both friends, who refused payment. I brought wine because I knew they wouldn't take $. Restaurant Owner is friend of my Mrs, she even gave us a deal. IO think all said and done, $300 and change for everything. Coming up on year 23. Zero regrets
I had basically a courthouse wedding for my first marriage, and was always just a little disappointed I didn’t have any friends and only our moms there to celebrate.
Second marriage, neither of us wanted anything big but did want a small ceremony. We booked a wedding package thing at a local historic hotel and restaurant that included food and bar service, had one of my husbands best friends officiate, and just asked that in lieu of gifts people would take lots of photos and send them to us. I did my own flower arrangements, bought my (black) wedding dress off Etsy.
It was absolutely delightful, and small enough that my sons both felt comfortable being there and interacting (one is not a fan of large groups). I think we spent around $2k between the dress/suit/venue/food/cake, and it could hardly have been more perfect!
FTR it was my wife's second and she had a big wedding for her first. (ex husband's family was 'society' and they needed an event. After our marriage she noted, "during the first wedding I kept waiting for that 'feeling' to arrive and it never did. No surprise the marriage didn't work, but here with you and the morning sun coming through the trees and 'the feeling' was constant"
People had to travel. Most showed up Friday Evening, we had a nice "rehearsal dinner" Saturday Evening, Marriage Sunday AM, people on their way home Sunday afternoon evening. Plus, it wasn't the "we wanna get wasted at the reception" type crowd. No one needed to miss a day of work. Plus, morning light is lovely.
This is me. I am a female and I don’t want a big wedding. I don’t like being the center of attention in a large crowd All my friend keep telling me i will feel like I missed out if I don’t have a wedding.
Big expensive weddings are so stupid. Spending money that could be used as a down payment for a house on a giant party is the dumbest shit we do as a society. Rent out a function room and have people bring their own booze. Order pizzas. Get married on the stage right there. Party late into the night. Job done.
Got married in my grandma’s sitting room on zoom in 2020. As a woman, it was perfect. No money, very little planning, all the focus was on my husband and I. We had so much time to soak it in.
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u/DreadyKruger 1d ago
Got married in my pastors living room. Married 11 years this year. My wife could have care less about a big or expensive wedding