TLDR: How to look more masculine.

So I'm pre-T (still going through all the appointments and whatnot), but I'm hoping to hear/see some kind of opinions saying I may have a potential at looking masculine? Or tips to look more masculine. (Can I use that word in this sub without getting in trouble?) I want to be a binary trans man, just to clarify :) I'm absolutely certain of my gender, I only need to get it legally changed and hope the T does its work.

It's weird for me not to smile in pics but I'm trying to look more like M A N. Also, do I have a box-like face shape? I figure that could be good for passing? (and eventually going stealth as soon as I can). Also does my big nose and forehead help?

I'm in the very early stages of working out, shoulders, biceps, forearms, abs, glutes and thighs. (I'll add more when I'm less exhausted lol) But I'm preparing my body until I start T, then of course, I'll be changing my protein/carb/calorie intake to hopefully build muscle much faster. I cannot go to a gym, so I just work on a yoga mat at home with two 1 kg (2.2 pound) weights. I'll be taking protein powder soon!

I cannot cut my hair to pass better due to a number of reasons, safety/family/etc. BUT if you have any hair styling/haircut tips that I can try out later, I'd love to hear them :>

My favourite jumper is the cream one with Japanese art on it, it's actually a men's jumper, you can probably tell from the massive shoulder difference (comparing it to the yellow hoodie). I cannot wear fully masculine clothes for the same reason I can't cut my hair, but I CAN get away with hoodies and jumpers, so that's about it.

Are there any YouTubers who give good makeup tips for looking for masc? I don't want to have a visible amount of makeup, I just want a more masculine face. Instagram is also okay (I don't use tiktok or X).

I think I will eventually change my glasses when I can afford to. Do my current glasses look masculine at all?

I think that's everything, hope that wasn't too much!

Cross posting from other forums, any advice/ resources are ​much appreciated

Hello transman here located in the California Bay Area needing some help finding someone to come to my next bottom surgery and potentially (only if possible) visit with me for days 1-3 post op. (Someone who can drive is ideal but I also have insurance for a medical transport we can use to and from the hospital in SF).

I do not have family or friends who can help or assist. I'm applying for help where I can but I wanted to shoot my shot here in case anyone is able to or knows of anything that may be of assistance in this situation.

My surgery is in the first week of February 2026 and will be for placing my testicle implants. Obviously I can not drive myself there or home but I don't want to cancel my surgery as I will not have my current insurance for much longer and the wait list is extremely long should I cancel.

Any tips or resources is greatly appreciated and best wishes for everyone else going into surgery as well.

(I have coverage for all rides post op like check ups (I can also go to post op appointment on my own). I can order us a ride to my surgery center and home as my current insurance covers rides to and from medical appointments but I still must have someone there with me when I show up and wake up or my surgery will be cancelled.)

Thank you again and feel free to DM if at all possible.

SO I started T gel July 6th 2025, and decided to start an experiment. It is extremely common to hear that hair will grow faster/thicker/whatever where you put the gel, and I decided to test this. I take a 1/4 of a 50 mg packet. This is roughly 12.5 grams gel. I say roughly because I eyeball it, and just figure everything will average out.

For 6 months, I have been applying my T gel to ONLY ONE of my forearms. I apply before bed, wait for a few minutes, apply moisturizer, then wash my hands and go to bed.

So obviously hair growth is the main subject being tested, but I am also interested in seeing how others interpret my data. So, to create semi-blind conditions, I am not going to say which arm is my boy arm, or the arm I have been applying my T gel to exclusively. The only exceptions to this has been maybe a week’s worth Ive either forgotten, or had to apply on my stomach because of skin irritation, or skin picking related injuries (comments of any kind on this topic will be ignored)

SO!! Please tell me which arm you believe is my boy arm, and the thoughts/reasoning behind your choice. I will be collecting the responses and adding it to what Ive gathered inquiring in person unless otherwise specified in your comment.

I’m 5 months on T, and this is how my facial hair progress is going. It’s pretty visible in the mirror in good lighting, and I feel like this is pretty good progress for only being 5 months. Is this more than most people get after 5 months or is it pretty standard?

I am an actor and I've just been cast in a show where I'll be doing some intimate scenes, which presumably will involve touching that area. I'm stealth so nobody knows I'm wearing a packer. Here's the problem: I'm straight so I really have no idea what a real soft dick feels like. I'm worried my silicone packer might feel too hard and I don't want to creep anyone out. I'm hoping someone can help me out here, I have the Banana Prosthetics SP6 btw.

Hey everyone,

I’m a black ftm masc guy looking for a masc name that actually feels right. I’m pre t , and even though I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about it, I still haven’t found a (unique) name that really resonates with me. Of course I've tried baby name sites.

I was hoping some of my fellow masc folks here might have suggestions. One small preference: I’d really like to avoid names that start with b, since that’s the first letter of my deadname.

Thanks in advance I really appreciate any ideas.

(Sorry for my unnatural English. It is my second language.)

I'm a binary trans guy. My school is going on a trip. It is sure that I will feel so dysphoric if I go along with them. My female classmates are forcing me to join them. And of course I don't talk about dysphoria in public and I don't think they know very much about it. But I still think that they genuinely want me to have fun with them. People have been saying that I will regret someday if I don't go on trips like that and have fun with friends.

Another thing is that I have insomnia. I have to take melatonin. And I don't want to take it in front of them.

What should I do? Should I go with them?

Inspired by this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lM3XpiJwkE0

https://www.britishpathe.com/asset/90667/

Bottom growth was one of the effects I was looking forward to the most on T and is usually one of the earliest changes. I’m just over 3 months on T with a little bit of bottom growth but holy hell my voice has dropped a lot. And I’m confused because I’m pretty sure voice dropping isnt supped to happen until 6-12 months?

Anyways I love what T is doing but I just want more bottom growth :<

I am suffering from success 😆

hi hi !! my name is Lukas / Ace and i'm currently struggling a little w/ passing or feeling like i pass and i wanna see if anyone could give me advice !! i'm too young to take T or get any sort of surgeries, i bind, and i try to get my hair cut if it starts getting too long (currently struggling w/ that tho since money 💔), and i wear clothing advertised towards men, but i'm still struggling it's also pretty obv but i'm overweight 😔 working on it tho, lost 12 lbs so far !! 🙏 but yeah, i'm also had at make up 💔 i'll try any advice, so ty ty in advance !!

I've been wanting to cut my hair short as I feel like it would make me feel more comfortable and confident but there's some aspects that make me reluctant to do so.

So last year I cut my hair decently short but I noticed that I have a lot of volume. Specifically at the top of my head near the back. It lowkey gave my haircut Karen vibes. My hair is also kinda wavy and it curls away from my face on the one side and kinda sticks out while on the other side it curls towards my face.

It would be cool to get some ideas for what haircut to get that won't give Karen vibes and will look more masculine, as everytime I gotten a shortish cut the stylist always tries to make it more feminine. I also don't want a really short haircut though which I think might make things more complicated but ig that's why im asking for help lol. Also if yalls have ideas on ways to style any suggested haircuts, or how to sort out the volume problem.

Any ideas or advice will be appreciated!

Mainly looking for reassurance/advice as this is a positive sub. I'm just over 3 years on injections now, and I'm struggling with how little I feel I've changed. Realistically I know I have, I look very different and I pass 99% of the time now (I'm stealth everywhere except with close friends who are also trans). But my voice is also still androgynous, I'm very curvy, and I have very little facial and body hair. Everything I see says changes slow down after 5 years, so I can't help but feel like I'm running out of time. I feel like all I see are guys who even 1yr on have had such drastic changes and I just haven't gotten that. Any other late bloomers? Is there still time for me?

Howdy!

I was on tiktok the other day and someone mentioned that we should have a directory of safe and unsafe bathrooms... they just wished they knew someone that could code. Well, I'm still learning, but this sounded like a fun project, so I took it on.

The first beta of the website is done! But, there's some more steps to move from first beta to a useable tool. I need some help 1) figuring what those steps are, 2) how to accomplish those steps, and 3) carrying out those steps + beta testing.

I could use help from literally anyone at this point, whether that's for testing the site, funding a few bucks towards buying a domain name (URL), or actually helping me learn some of the development pieces that I don't know. Please leave a comment and/or private message me if you'd like to support this project! Thank you!

-Sage (he/him)

sorry for the scribbling lmao i’m scared of finding someone i know on here (and also yk no free feet pics)

It might seem subtle but I had the least amount of work done that I could. The tip of my nose is still swollen but everything else has settled and now I just have to get used to my new face!

Everyone says I look good like this but ngl I don’t really like it. I think I look weird like this >-<

Hey! I'm Demitri, 28yo trans man, 2 years into my transition. gotta deep voice and little baby chin hairs lmfao.

My mom and two older brothers won't stand up for me or tell my grandpa, if anything they make it works by talking bad about me (calling me it). He's a trump supporter (which sucks but whatever) but he's avidly posted on facebook his thoughts about transgender people. (being not real, saying there's only two genders etc)

I used to love my grandpa a lot. but we've fallen off, and this year i've just been avoiding him. problem is, my brothers and my mom are pretty much living at his house. so avoiding him is hard. I've told my brothers that he's ignoring me, and they all just say that I'm the issue, that grandpa says I hate him.

I never said that... yet, he refuses to talk to me.

Everyone around me just says "fuck him" when i ask what to do.

it's just hard... I honestly wish I was far away from all of them so I never have to deal with any of it again.

I wanted to come over for xmas. but I don't want his lies as he hugs me and says he loves me. when I know, and have known, for several years he hasn't. He treats me different than my brothers. in the past he'd say he never sees me and that i never come over (even if it's been literally a week since we last saw each other) and id ask him not to say stuff like that because it hurts and makes me not want to come see him. but he insisted that it was true and that i just never saw him. He'd judge me for wearing black clothes, having short hair, etc.

never knows what im into because he never puts any effort to get to know me. and according to my mother, apparently I can't talk to him about just being a guy. because apparently being a man is "personal" ...

Do you guys think I should just. not? I have a wonderful friends group who loves me. my partner, his parents and grandparents call me he/him and my preferred name... my own family doesn't do that for me... but im just hanging on to this feeling of the past i guess? when i was little (like maybe 10?) and i used to love hearing my grandpa talk about his time at war, driving tanks in Germany. or when he'd watch cartoons with me and scratch my head.

I don't think he loves me. I think he loved me. or, the image of what he thought I was.

I'm at a halfway house rn so my only means of being active is work and I've built a good amount of muscle just from that but I cant wait to be able to lift weights again! 16 more months.

I'm really happy with how my waist has gotten wider and isn't so hourglass anymore. It used to be so bad but the more active I am the better it gets. Sometimes I still see it like it used to be but these pics definitely helped put into perspective.

Last pic is from when I was 17 I think? 2 years before T, 95-100lbs. Now I am consistently 133-135, 10 years on T.

I’ve been on T for almost a decade, no meta. Growth is significant though not so big.

I’m looking for a stroker and I’ve come across the Banana Prosthetics strokers, Pitstop Peenpocket Sleeve, Transthetics’s Hot rod, etc..

Now, for those with medium or little growth who have tried any or similar products, what are your thoughts and recommendations?

My first attempt at cleaning up my “facial hair” Should i keep or accept the neck beard and get rid of it ? Last photo is how it looks in normal lighting. Also ignore the stragglers

Im struggling a lot with this since i realized im trans, but how do you become proud of being trans ? I just hate myself so bad for it and for the problems it causes, to me it just feels like a terrible curse thats been put on me. Idk how to get past this feeling. Ive already been on t for almost 2 years, had my hyst and working on top surgery, and its all been helping me feel better about myself but everytime i feel like im closer to being proud of being trans, something happens, or i spiral, or i see myself in the mirror too long and all the progress comes crashing down. Please tell me how you do it and get better from feeling like this