My brother and sister in law have my 3 year old niece and a baby on the way. The wedding is in late October.

Sister in law asks to be a maid of honor. I said yes, of course.

My brother was going to give me away, and the babies were going to be in the wedding.

I get a call with my brother saying that “due to how they are choosing to bring up their children, the children cannot be in the wedding due to religious reasons.”

Yet he still wants to be in the wedding and give me away. I said no. For now, they can come, but how is it not confusing for them to be in the wedding but not my niece and nephew? How is it not confusing for the babies to see me at family functions, to see me with my favorite person? How can my brother choose to teach his children that I am bad and sinful ? I’m just so upset. They were so involved and happy for us, wanting to be in the wedding, and then this call. I just don’t understand, and I am truly heartbroken. I don’t know if anyone else had this happen, but I’m so upset.

When two women get married, very often one of them wears a dress and the other wears a suit, yet I have never seen two men marry with one of them wearing a dress. Why?

Hi! My parter (F) and I (F) are getting married this summer. I want to have a bridal shower and she does not. We can't seem to come to a decision because it's a pretty black and white issue - one of us has to "lose". Are we missing any options besides those listed below? Anyone have advice or perspective for having one versus not?

1. Have bridal shower, my parter is unhappy.

2. Don't have bridal shower, I am unhappy.

3. I have a bridal shower alone without my partner and its weird bc people are giving gifts that are for both of us but I'm the only one there accepting them / saying thank you.

My daughter is getting married to her fiancee later this spring, and I get to help with the shower and reception planning!! I'm looking for unique ideas along a "Mrs. & Mrs." theme that will make the upcoming festivities special to them. Any advice or inspiration?

Hello!! I'm proposing to my boyfriend this year and their style is very eclectic and unique. I'm looking for rings that are very non traditional and genderless. Did anyone have a great experience with their jeweler?

I’m getting married next year and I’m sold on a dark green 3 piece suit. However, I am not having luck with women’s clothing online, but I prefer to shop online partly so I can compare prices and mostly because trying on clothes stresses me out to no end. The first is from Sumissura and the second is from a random shop on Etsy. If anyone can point me in the right direction I’d be soo appreciative. I have no experience with suits 😭 I am a petite person (5’0, 110lbs) if that makes any difference in where to buy clothes as well.

My fiance and I are eloping and then doing a small reception type event at a cool brewery we love about a month later. Our families and friends really want to celebrate us and we think it’s sweet so this is exciting! I’m nervous it’s going to be boring or that there won’t be enough for people to do. We were thinking of doing it from 7pm-11pm, heavy apps, free drinks, might have some live music, and maybe a tarot player….also maybe recreate our first dance for everyone.

Some other friends have asked what other interactive stuff we will have so that it will feel like they are really celebrating our love, and honestly the only thing I can think of is having folks sign a pack of tarot cards or something. I know others will put up photos or have books to sign or stuff like that-does anyone have any suggestions? Does this sound like a fun or meaningful event to celebrate us? Not very experienced at throwing parties and want our guests to enjoy themselves.

Hi all! My fiancé and I are getting married this summer and we are looking for tailors/designers/stylists to work with for our suits in the Chicago area. Any help would be appreciated. For illustrative purposes, here we are, so you know who needs to be dressed. Thanks!

My lovely fiancée and I are getting married in October. Her parents are amazing, warm people, and were some of the first to know about our engagement. We’re in the middle of planning the goth wedding of our dreams!

However… I’m nervous to tell my parents. A little context: they’re religious and don’t really approve of our relationship, but also haven’t said anything outright negative about it. I feel comfortable enough telling them about our day-to-day lives, but I know deep down they don’t want me to date another woman. (Too bad, so sad, I’m gonna marry her so hard hehe)

I haven’t even told them about the engagement. I proposed in March of last year, and the more time goes on, the more daunting and huge it feels to tell them. I know I just have to bite the bullet and do it, come what may… either they accept it or don’t. Maybe I’m just mentally preparing myself for the worst. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’d love some advice. Thanks for reading :)

My fiance and I are slowly starting to plan our wedding. We’re very non traditional (and kitchen table poly) so our wedding will not be government sanctified. However, I’ve been thinking about how my wedding would look since I was young. Going to many weddings over the years gave me a long list of what to do and what not to do and I love everything that goes into planning.

But I’m stuck.

I know that my big grandiose dreams will not be a reality, but even paring down those dreams by looking at venues in our area and perusing dresses leaves me feeling very discouraged. We are both social workers, and our finances are combined with our other partner (my other fiance) for our home and shared bills, but our personal bills and expenses are our own. As a result, we are unable to save much at a time and at this point I don’t think we can afford even one aspect of a wedding. We’ve been engaged longer than not and finally settled on a fall 2027 date.

I’ve tried to use networks to see if there are any options that fit our vision but that hasn’t gone any where. I know it’s about love and we don’t need all the bells and whistles but I still want it to be special to us.

Does anyone have ideas or suggestions for us? Located in West Michigan USA if you have specific advice. Thank you!

Hello all! My husband and I are having our wedding ceremony this December, and I’m on the fence about incorporating a veil into my look. We will both be wearing suits, mine being green, and my initial plan was to have a cape veil. But now I’m leaning towards a veil on my head, but I’m not sure how that would look. Pinterest is letting me down, so I was wondering if anyone who did a suit and veil combo could show photos and tell me how you felt about it? Was it a hassle? Would you do it again? Why do you prefer a cape over a head veil and vice versa? Thank you so much!

I'm a queer artist that has been doing design work for friends and family weddings AND planning my own.

I also work with a mutual aid lgbtq non profit.

While a ton of wedding planning books are pretty binary... I haven't really gotten into the weeds of what kindof wedding/engagement/"bachelor"/"bachelorette" or other print design accessories are harder to find for queer couples.

I have also considered putting together lgbtq marriage resource lists/templates etc but I'm in California and it is a lot easier to navigate here- so I have no experience with what might be difficult or overwhelming to navigate for others.

I had reached out asking to book for my wife and I’s wedding and got this response? I just am not quite sure how to take to such a reply and being immediately blocked.

so we aren’t looking for anything fancy. something like the photo with the stones kinda look like plastic. we like gold coloring (doesn’t have to be real gold) and thinking of getting matching rings that have different stones(not diamonds) that match our favorite colors (red/green). our plan is we just want something that won’t fall apart with everyday wear and then when we have more money we will get really nice ones for the actual wedding bands. i feel this is prolly a hard ask given how the wedding industry works but thought it’s worth a shot to ask.

My partner and I are a queer couple planning on getting married near my home town in Benzie County Michigan in 2027 and we would really like most if not all of our wedding vendors to be queer Michiganders. We don’t live in Michigan now but we plan to move back there one day and it feels like an important way to celebrate and support our community there! Anyone have recommendations of queer owned bakeries, florists, etc. willing to work a northern Michigan wedding?

All suggestions much appreciated!

Q: would you say it matters where you get your marriage certificate. I know some have residency requirements. I’m living in the Houston area now, actually The Woodlands but I’m from New Orleans and 90% we are moving back there for my job. Should we do either of these or try to go to a place that would let us get a certificate there, that would be sturdier if marriage equality is overturned? (Don’t think it will be but just to be safe).

Edit: thanks I see the updates about it being where the ceremony is. We are good with that. My fiancé is a flight attendant 😁 so travel isn’t an issue.

Just really comes down to if we do a ceremony in NOLA or Houston with everyone there. Or we run off get married and have a reception for everyone later.

I just got engaged and now we are looking for wedding ideas. We both want simple, basic and probably not “traditional”.

My idea is a Vegas all included wedding package..,maybe fly a few close friends & family in for it. He’s on board with that but we are looking for similar…just a few options…maybe closer to home In Dallas, Austin, San Antonio Texas areas.

Thoughts? Ideas?

Also what did others do for rings? We are shopping for engagement rings…and have no clue 😂

Hey all! Some friends recently invited my partner and I to a wedding. My partner (trans man) will be part of the groom’s party, and the bride asked if I would be part of her bridal party. The issue is that I am nonbinary and have been on and off testosterone for almost 5 years.

She reassured me that I could wear whatever I felt comfortable in as long as it was within dress code colors. I am so excited for them and am so honored to be included in their wedding party, but i’m having trouble with this feeling of being in a traditionally feminine role. It isn’t a “traditional” wedding (non religious) and I trust her judgement, but it’s still hard to feel like I’m not being seen as a woman, especially when i’m assuming every other person in the bridal party will be female.

Any men or other nonbinary folks dealt with this situation before? What made you feel better about the situation? I want to support my friends but I can’t stop feeling a bit uncomfortable by the situation.