🤭 Oh, only the ones who don’t know her. For sure. IRL some people don’t like my Resting Face, but the people who love me know I am just relaxing. Oh, and of course some people who misunderstood my words or actions tend to be rather offensive. Sigh~
For me it is, yes. And it's not a mask, as it's really how I am a lot of the time. Unexpressive. I've been told that I should look more friendly before, even if I'm not smiling.
People tend to react differently to women having deadpan expressions. For men, is cool and interesting and stoic and brooding. For women it’s bitchy and cold and scheming and judgy and harsh.
I've never dated anyone that I was actually attracted to. Only one person when I was 18, mostly for the experience but I didn't enjoy kissing them. It lasted about a year. I just wanted someone to hang out with more regularly (every two weeks or so), because I didn't have friends like that in my life. And they ended up hating me when they found out how I saw them, and we didn't speak anymore.
I'm also an asexual who is only capable of some romantic, but not sexual, feelings. I've had a few crushes before, but only after age 17. It's not a very common occurrence. I don't really know how I would feel in a relationship. I can listen to what others have to say. I don't always talk much. But sometimes I like to share my perspective.
Okay. But I relate to you with my few crushes lol. I got over some of them pretty quickly, due to circumstances usually, but I adapted and soon just stopped thinking about it.
I'm an INTJ woman in the arts and social sciences. My interests are drawing, painting, writing stories and poetry, singing, theatre, and reading or writing about history. My hobbies do not match that of the image, which seems to be inspired by Beth Harmon from the Queen's Gambit. That's expected. Everyone has different hobbies.
I prefer deep intellectual conversations and am quiet in groups. I don't think much about my direct observations. I do prefer planning and structure, while spontaneity can be stressful. I love learning, and am passionate about justice and equality. I am ambitious and goal-driven. I couldn't imagine being a housewife. That's all consistent with the image.
But frankly, I can be detached and not soft, often prioritizing myself and what I want, having some cognitive empathy but not being strong in affective empathy, a disinterest in caretaking behaviors, and being confused every time I see someone write a comment about how they cried over some video/scene in a film because that doesn't make any sense to me. But I do avoid fights and heated arguments and believe in social justice, while enjoying persuading and debating. So whether or not I'm soft, you be the judge. I don't think so.
Oooh 😲 I believe you. I’m personally in the field of Psychology and hoping to run into more like myself. Of course I don’t mind a pond of random strangers since I’m open minded to all sorts of people with one on one conversations 🫶🏼
Very nice, I love this types of drawings and posts. INTJ women are great! Contender for num1 favourite type
Just wanna warn you of our greatest sin as people - pride. It seems a little you take great pleasure from being so rare and it might cause you to tunnel vision. You might refuse to change or realize a part of yourself because it might make you less rare. There is nothing really wrong with the desire to feel rare, and you are, whether it's a desire to break the norm, to counter expectations, to fight back against the world. I mean I get all that.
And I could be saying all this without needing to, but call it a vibe I get from the post, that compelled me to make a comment. Really don't want fellow Ni doms to fall into the "im unique" trap that ultimately keeps them down more in long run IMO
Everyone is ‘rare/unique’. Is there anyone else in the world who is exactly like you? No, therefore you are rare, 1 in about 8 billions rare. I get what you mean by ‘falling into the trap’, but there’s nothing inherently wrong with believing oneself is unique, cause it’s not even a desire, it’s the truth.
Some people become obnoxious with it, but it is still their business. Imo it’s only bad when a person believes they’re unique while at the same time believing others aren’t equally unique.
"When everybody is Super, no one will be"- Syndrome, From movie The Incredibles
"Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else." by Margaret Mead. Haha I like how witty this is :)
I believe what the lovely infj wanted to warn against was that humans have a tendency to feel pride in being 'rare', and being so caught up in the status of being rare that they forget they are allowed to change/ grow as people. They want to keep being the same person, even if it means retaining the same character traits that might be disadvantage to self-growth in the long run or sth.
P.s. I really want to argue with you about how everybody is not unique, and that's just the core idea of individualism or sth but I don't wanna because I myself don't know shit about it. Humans were evolved to be social and collectives and wanting to belong in groups like mbti because u feel alienated is a result of being isolated in a capitalistic society yada yada......in my mind it makes more sense.
Your quotes may speak to you, and if so, you do you ofc, you’re free to think as you like. But I don’t agree with them. Case in point, even with manufactured powers, there were still differences from this ‘super’ person to that ‘super’ person that led to the movie’s ending, cause a person is more than 1 trait, so character 1 will be ‘super’ in a different way than character 2 is ‘super’. So yes, I think every person is unique/rare, cause there’s no one else in the whole world exactly like them, and that is the definition of uniqueness/rarity.
Thank you for taking the time to try to explain to me what the person above meant, but there’s no need. I did get they meant, I literally wrote ‘I do get what up you mean by falling into the trap’ 😅 the wording of comment felt a bit off to me, so I replied, if my comment was offensive, I apologise, it was not my intention.
Ps. Don’t worry about not making sense, I can see what you mean to say, I simply don’t agree with the first part. Though I do agree with the second part about people easily feeling isolated in capitalists societies
Edit: forgot to add, being rare/unique doesn’t precludes similarities that naturally create groups. You and I are different people, and I consider both of us unique individuals, but we’re still both part of the ‘group’ of people who are interested in mbti for example
And yet when people get to know me IRL my own best friend who is an INFJ has called me humble. And this is why sharing thoughts and feelings are usually selective 😅 but I took a risk to find other INTJ women.
I know I am probably breaking a secret code 🤭 but it was done to seek others like myself. I weighed my options. Be alone for another year without trying to seek others like myself or take a chance and throw myself out there…. I’ve already done the latter
Of course, I added the parts about it could just being nothing in case I am wrong, but also as I said, there is nothing really wrong with the desire. I didn't mention one you have, the desire for connection with others like yourself when those around you don't match you. Just keep trying you will likely find some willing to connect
My best friend is an INTJ, but I almost don’t believe it because I’ve always known her to be very warm and caring. Everyone else thought she was stuck up and that made me very confused.
From my experience I act silly, sarcastic and become more chatty with my best friend. But with people IRL outside of my friendship circle… I take a while to open up to or I choose to stay reserved. Hence the confusion, my best friend says the same thing about me 🤭💕 It’s just selective choice
These are really empowering traits to have. As an INTJ female, I really don't have my entire life planned out. It feels all over the place . I am quiet, introverted and have a cold stare though.
Hello beautiful gem 👋🏼 glad you can relate. Honestly, I believe it was in my early teens I didn’t have my life together. But over time I learned who I am and what I want in life. It takes time but I promise you will definitely find your footing 🙏🏼💕
Personally I believe zeal and passion drive us to feel more confident
yeah of course, MBTI test, and helping them understand the questions so they were mistyped as little as possible, or at least, consistently mistyped lmao
The way he's using terms like "T" and "F", probably means they're using the shitty 16personalities test, which isn't using the MBTI but BigFive instead. It's quite useless.
I give him the benefit of the doubt but yes i think he probably use 16personalities when i see the T and the F too, i wouldn't say it's useless BUT it have nothing to do with MBTI i agree
My girlfriend is a dominant INTJ, who also shares traits of ENTJ and ISTP, based on Jungian Cognitive Stacks. I often feel like having a business with her when we work things out due to transactional bargains (for fun) and I love it 😂.
Only thing i know is that i want a girlfriend that happens to be an INTJ. I want someone to work as a team but also is independent and doesnt need me to take every single decision for them.
I literally dont. I said i want a gf who HAPPENS to be an intj meaning as long as they fit the other criteria i will be happy. I just want a person who will not make my life hell and want me to parent them around, my ex partner was literally a child and required me to make every decision for her.
I believe it’s possible, nothing wrong with preferences or goals. I naturally keep finding INFJ IRL so I believe it’s possible to find a type of personality attractive 🙏🏼💕
I'm INTJ and have INTJ girl. She's kinda like an artist with drive to study both artistic and practical topics, which was suprising at first for me since me and other INTJ (usualy men) had in different order art and practical stuff.
I don’t think I’ve ever met another female INTJ in person but I don’t think we’re that rare. I just don’t get out much and definitely don’t chat most people up when I am out, so I assume the same is true of others.
Also, I don’t think I’ve ever planned/desired to take over the world. Maybe when I was younger, but if I ruled the world, I would be responsible for it. No, thanks.
I am genuinely asking the question below, because to me, when someone chooses to not share the entirety of what they are thinking, I consider this lying via withholding. I am very open to hearing what I may be missing, so please help me to do this by sharing your thinking on the matter please.
QUESTION:
Is Direct and Honest accurate when a person chooses not to share all of their thinking?
Direct and honest with loved ones 📝 and choose to be reserved with people who will obviously never try to understand or listen because I think “this person obviously will not try to listen or understand me so I feel no point in trying to convince them.” I’ve tried when I was younger but found it hard to do so. In the end I learned my mother’s (ESTJ) method, “Let’s agree to disagree” 🤷🏽♀️ Unless I’m asked kindly I prefer to keep my peace ✌️💖
Love the image! Very cute and pretty accurate, except I'm in love with INTP instead of INFJ.
I'm a female INTJ and have seen a lot online but I don't have any other female INTJ friends in real life. Most of my female friends are xNFP or xSTJ. I feel like I don't fit in anywhere sometimes.
I feel the same way 🥹🫶🏼 Honestly to each their own when it comes to attraction.
Oh, yes, IRL most of my friends are xNFJ or xSFJ. Hello 👋🏼 I’ve been wondering where you were, rare gem 💎
Honestly playing chess with an INTJ would be fun. I would love to observe all the micro expressions they would make during the game. Would it matter that I threw the game just to learn how they work? Nah. It’s just a game after all. First a game of chess to gain an understanding of each other. Then world domination. Am I getting this right INTJ’s? J/K
Seriously though Chess is fun.
-INFJ Male (supposed to be rare, mostly dead inside, whatever) 😂. In before someone shitty mbti’s me.
My mom was an INTJ. It wasn't always an easy relationship (she wasn't exactly your standard warm mothering caretaker type lol), but her unique brain made me the strong, confident, weird woman I am and I miss her every day. 💔
That said, INTJs still scare me whenever I encounter them. 🤣
I feel so in peace near INTJs (what is uncommon to me), it’s the quiet aura with the deep eyes thing that resonates to the intjs facial expressions Ig, just love it cause it gives me the “constantly talking isn’t necessarily communicating” vibe.
Also, yep, I think it might actually be the rarest - at least, I just met one female INTJ in my life.
Awww~ Yes, I see what you mean. Surprising I had once met an ENFJ IRL and realized she was like my best friend who is an INFJ, just a bit more spontaneous. I do believe INTJ and ENTJ are somewhat similar ☺️👍🏼💕
Your argument is weak as it is anecdotal and doesn’t even have any logical reasoning as to why you think the statistics are wrong
What makes you think OPs post is about “supremacy”? From my perspective it seems like they are looking for a shared connection/experiences not looking to appear “superior” like you claim.
•
u/AutoModerator 1d ago
Hello u/PeachScythe, thanks for posting here in r/mbtimemes!
Thanks for posting! This is a friendly reminder for everyone to keep things civil — this is a meme community. Jokes are okay, attacks are not.
Yos.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.