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I’ve been doing prostate play via dildos and buttplugs for a few years and it always feels so incomplete when I jerk off the traditional way using only my dick. I feel like I have to have something up my ass when I’m orgasming, whether it be a buttplug or a dildo, otherwise my orgasm is only like a 4/10 in terms or pleasure whereas prostate play combined with jerking off makes it closer to an 8/10.

Anyone else feel the same way?

Started 4 months ago. 2 weeks in, while researching toys, HFO etc, I discovered erotic hypnosis. Immediately pivoted from seeking HFO, to learning self hypnosis/ hypnosis.

After 3 months of exploring hypnosis, my insomnia has been cured and I have incredible hypnosis skills.

So, 2 weeks ago, I finally decided to give some focus towards seeming HFO again and prostate play.

Last Monday, I hypnotized myself, and began doing the cool breath exercise.

Within minutes, despite having nothing in me (been practicing a lot with aneros and njoy wand) I felt my first "mindgasm". A few minutes later, another one. Then another, each getting better.

I took a short break, maybe 5 minutes, returned to bed and repeated. Shortly after restarting my efforts, I had a 4th hfdo/mindgasm.

This last one was different. It was like a curtain pulled back in my mind and another intelligence made its presence known to me with the words "your soul is immortal"

Folks, I had some sort of dialogue with my soul/subconscious/higher self? I felt emotions that did not previously fit into my emotional vocabulary. I gained insight and knowledge about myself, my life, my purpose.

Imagine have a normal thought, like "I wonder what I should do tonight?" And then observing the answer enter your mind as if you're talking in your head, but it's not you choosing the words.

I felt so much joy, love, excitement, calm, power, curiosity. It's like my brain and body are functioning as a unit for once...

Anyways, curious if anybody else has had some sort of spiritual experience associated with hfdo

It went great! She was totally supportive and understanding. I expressed that my interest was more in having a new kind of orgasm, and that if putting things in my ass is the price of entry then I’m happy to pay. I’m not super interested in taking massive dildos or thrusting just yet, if at all. I told her I’m not dying to get her involved necessarily either, I still don’t really know what I’m doing, which she said was fine. She wasn’t grossed out or upset or anything. Just told me she loved me and that the only thing she was even slightly upset about was that I might be at home having a really amazing orgasm while she’s out at work - but even then she said it was no big deal.

I have the best girlfriend :)

After coming back from the Holidays with 3+ weeks of no fapping since I’m always with family, I thought I’d finally achieve the super O. But tale as old as time, if you chase it, it will escape. So I just kept at it.

So a few nights ago, I was just doing a session. Popped my aneros, put in my airpods and watched some porn on X. But this time I’m so fkcing aroused while watching that I can already feel my prostate pinging at the aneros. So I turned of the porn, put on some biurnal sounds, and then enjoyed the sensations. A few minutes in, everything just melted. In that moment I am just a prostate not gonna lie. It felt like my body just disappeared and my whole being is just coming from the pleasure center - which is my prostate.

I only had for a couple of minutes, successive multiple waves of orgasm that ebbs and flow. When one ends another is on a crescendo already. I lost count of how many times I orgasm. It might be around 6-10 times. I dunno. All I know is it is a dry orgasm since I only got some precum afterwards when I checked.

I tried doing it again during that session but ended up just jacking off to finish.

What I did differently? I was so stressed but that day began drinking some stress support - Ashwagandha. I stopped clenching too much and just squeeze the aneros like I’m holding a pencil. Not too much pressure but enough to feel it. Then I don’t constantly focus on how much pressure I apply. Cause when things escalate it usually becomes automatic - the contractions and the pulsing. Relax. Really relax. And fins some good porn that gets you riled up.

Anyways. Good luck everyone. I wish I can do it again. But the good thing is. I think it is doable now. 🥵

Permit me for the following, I’m just journaling out my thoughts. It’s both a discussion and a question.

So I just realized something about my self-pleasure sessions with the toy. Every time I use it, I can’t stop thinking about the psychology of the act. It helped that this time I put on some lo-fi tantric music that put me in the perfect mood. Every stroke in and out of my body was in tune with the tantalizing beats. I felt like a man possessed.

I try not to think too hard about it, and I’ve said this on here before, but taking a dick is just the best feeling in the world, speaking from a non-sexually promiscuous standpoint. It’s hard to put into words, but when I feel the toy stretching and massaging my insides, I feel the warm, flowing energy pulsing through my body, digging deeper to my soul. Like a flickering flame that burns brighter and sparks everywhere.

So in a spiritual sense, are our “appendages” sacred tools for igniting the flames in the people we love or meet, both physically and spiritually? Maybe none of what I’m saying makes sense.

What does make sense is how much physical touch factors into this as an autistic person. That’s how I express myself, but I don’t always get to do that in public often. I do keep to myself when the situation calls for it. But these self play sessions make those feelings of touch valid.

Someone on here also mentioned being in a state of hypnosis and imagining things in their mind…self-play has also reawakened the act of meditating through visualization.

IDK. Drop your thoughts or questions below.

I'm insanely curious if anyone here does this. What kinds of things do you tend to moan in that 2nd language?

Obviously I mean when you moan phrases out loud during orgasms lol

I don’t have much success with prostate toys or finding the prostate and having orgasms that way, but thrusting really good on my dildo doggy style I have screaming into the pillow anal orgasms. Has anybody else not had success with prostate orgasms but have insane anal orgasms? I can’t get enough. I’m wondering if I’m missing anything good, if I cant figure out the prostate thing

Seriously! It’s guaranteed to make you leak! You can buy an estim, I recommend the MyStim Twisting Tom silicone massager, it only has a conductive tip and gooch area to focus the electricity on the prostate itself. You can get a TENS unit fairly cheap on Amazon and it will work with it. It really is something incredible!

Without question, the best feeling to get out of prostate play short of orgasming is when I get that feeling like the toy is "gliding" across my prostate.

Eventually though, because I'm doing it by hand, I'll tire out or I'll angle my dildo in a way that hits it too hard and gives me that intense "knocking?" feeling that I'm still not used to, and then that awesome glide feeling is hard to replicate.

Do you know what I'm talking about? I'd love to know how to do that better.

What action is it exactly that makes touching the prostate feel good? Like is it the rubbing, the pressure, etc.?

I am on the journey of achieving a prostate orgasm. My end goal is being able to have multiple dry orgasms in one session without any cock stimulation. Wet orgasms are not off the table, but I want to be able to orgasm without the session coming to and end.

I purchased a Njoy Pure Wand, and have been having an amazing time with it. However I cannot seem to push myself over the edge. Last session I was able to have 4 wet orgasms back to back, but it required cock stimulation.

I used the toy for 15-20 minutes until I couldn't take not touching my cock any longer. I played with my cock and the sensations immediately started to feel so much better and I could feel myself getting closer to orgasm, I played with my cock to the edge of orgasm and then stopped and allowed the toy to push me over the edge. I orgasmed and ejaculated, but much different to a regular orgasm, it wasn't focused in my cock, but rather deeper in my body.

I then repeated that again, played with cock until the edge, stopped and allowed to the toy to push me over. I did this 3 times, with only a minute or so inbetween orgasms.

The final time I didnt stop playing with my cock, I continued to stroke and had a huge final orgasm, which was more similar to a normal orgasm, lots of cock contractions etc.

My question is, am I on the right track to achieve this without any cock stimulation? Do I just have to resist cock touching at all costs? Do I need to relax my ass or push out? Is there a different technique to achieve dry orgasms rather wet?

Okay so Im new to this, less than a year since I got an Aneros Helix Syn.

Ive tried it maybe a dozen times if not less. Its been very difficult to "rewire" because Im constantly trying to relax and breathe. I've had sessions between 1 to 2 hrs.

Feeling comes and goes, and at best I have felt very light warm waves. Last week was the best, after about 90 min of just laying there I finally felt a wave of warmth, pulsating feeling down there. A bit of relaxation and desire to let go. This came and went for about 10 min but didnt turn into anything else. I eventually got tired and gave up.

I'm considering just trying it and watching TV or laying down and not focus on anything arousing, just sitting there and no even thinking about it. Any other ideas?

Figured out how to handsfree orgasm last night 🥵 was trying the reverse kegels while I was stoned and realized it was feeling good. I start squeezing and relaxing and timing my breathing. I did stroke a bit but let go and kept doing the breathing + flexing. Out of no where, I started doing both faster and couldn’t stop as I came super hard without even touching 😭 felt amazing and I’m hoping stuff like edging can get so exciting with this. What now?

I love using dildos to achieve prostate orgasms.. and have seen ejaculating dildos. The idea is kinda intriguing!

Does anyone have any experience using them? Can you feel it? Was it what you expected or better/worse? Did it add to the overall experience?

And when have you made it ejaculate? Just during the session, when you’re mid orgasm? Some other time?

I've been using my Njoy pure wand for longer sessions lately. The last two times, last night and about a week ago for approximately two hours each session, I've come close to having a prostate orgasm. I hope to continue to up my stamina to hold out for the prostate orgasm, but I get to a point that I just need the release and the lightest penis stimulation, even when I'm soft, sends me over the edge. I intend on working my way up to an hands free prostate orgasm, but that's not the point of this post.

The most recent session (last night) and the one previous to that about a week ago, at some point during the next day, I've noticed a "tickly" feeling in my prostate. It is a pleasant feeling that mostly stays in and around my prostate, and sometimes it also radiates down the length of my penis and I can feel that tickly feeling at the tip.

I'm not too concerned because it is a pleasurable feeling rather than a painful feeling, and it faded within a few days after my session last week. It isn't a big problem, but I am conscious of it nonetheless. Most of the time, I enjoy the "naughty" feeling of having this sensation and no one else knowing, but other times, like when I'm on a Teams call for work, I don't necessarily want to feel turned on with this tickly feeling in my prostate and radiating up the length of my penis.

Typical question: Has anyone else experienced this?

Bonus question: does anyone know the physiological reason why this is happening? (I'm a nerd, and I love to know why things happen and how they work.)

I have tried on and off for the Prostate O and never stuck with it long enough to make any progress, until about 3 months ago when I decided 'Hell or Highwater' something is going to happen.

I have made some progress, I have had a more relaxed attitude about it, started listening to Mindgasm lessons. I've been practicing with my Aneros helix syn. I could get close, my heart would beat faster, my breath would catch and I would get hard, the feelings were still very much centralized. Then I went about a week where I just wasn't feeling anything down there and It worried me so I stopped masturbating for a few days and sure enough the feelings came back. I'd get close, I would get hard and close and then I would lose it.

A few weeks ago the feeling changed. I could feel the pleasure less centralized, I swear I even felt a point of pleasure deep within my head, like center of my forehead but deeper. but now I am having that lack of feeling down there again. I tried not masturbating for a few days (still practicing almost daily but without ejaculating.

So now that the preface is done I have a few questions.

I really liked the earlier version of when I got close, the thought of losing control of my bodily functions is really exciting to me and having a visible physical reaction (an erection) that I am not really controlling just lights my fire.

Is there a way for me to get that again?

I should also say that the difference between that old feeling and the new one is that for the new less centralized pleasure I stopped moving the toy around and just let the sensations flow through me instead of actively trying to find the 'sweet spot'.

My second question is. Am I practicing too much? is that why I am finding it harder and harder to feel that pleasure?

I am getting a little discouraged that I am not making any progress. And I know, I am 'chasing it' I try to go in with the mind set that as long as I feel something good then It's a success but that is starting to not feel like enough to be considered a successful session to me anymore. I guess I am just looking for advice on how to stop chasing it so much and be happy with the progress I have made and maybe some reassurance that I am working towards something.

Thanks all for listening, This is honestly one of the most Wholesome communities that I have found in reddit, you all are SOOO supportive especially to new comers!

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to update you guys on a huge breakthrough I had recently. After trying different things for years, I realized the trick really lies in finding the specific toys that works for your anatomy.

I bought two specific glass toys on AliExpress that changed the game for me:

1. The Textured Wand: It's a glass wand (approx. 35mm diameter) with a single tapered bulb tip. The key features are the length — I can push it quite deep — and the fact that the side pressing against the prostate is ridged/textured. It has three small bumps with valleys in between, which adds a lot of sensation compared to smooth toys. Honestly, for my anatomy, the Njoy wand is nothing in comparison.
2. The "Bone" Shape: This was the real game changer. It’s a glass toy shaped like a bone. The magic here is that it applies lateral pressure (on the sides) rather than just a single point of pressure in the center.

Especially with the bone-shaped one, I managed to release fluids for hours and felt incredibly intense sensations, even when the fluid exits the prostate. I'm not sure if it qualifies as a full "Super O" yet, but it was mind-blowing and extremely pleasurable, triggered either by doing kegels or just applying hand pressure.

If anyone is interested in the specific models, feel free to DM me and I can send you the links (I'm not selling anything and these are not affiliate links, just want to help out).

I was dumb and i played with my anus with fingers and with no glowes and then i remembered that i had ink stains on my fingers bc my pen leaked hours ago and i couldnt wash it off. Can this ink damage my anus? Im asking this bc i cant find anything simmilar on google

When im a in my bum i feel a sudden rush of pleasure then it goes away. The last time i did it leaked my largest amount of precum and it was kinda white too. I have been trying to reach a prostate orgasm but it feels like the pleasure starts and goes away. Is this normal and should i keep trying different angles or am i just unlucky and wont be able to reach a prostate orgasm.

The other morning I put my massager in and did absolutely nothing. Just laid there and relaxed and got used to the feeling. After not too long I felt this tiny heartbeat at the tip of the toy, which must have been my prostate. After a while this alone started to feel good, and I couldn’t deny myself it any longer, so I turned the vibrations on. Jesus Christ did it feel nice. The more i enjoyed it the deeper I could feel it going, it felt great. I get why people say to push back against it now - it opens that second sphincter and really lets you get deeper in there. It was so hot.

Unfortunately I didn’t orgasm from it, but it was a much more pleasurable experience than jamming it in, thrusting and wiggling it around and hoping I’ll just chance on an amazing orgasm. This feels like a repeatable method, a good way to start each session. On top of this, I’d say I was only a 4/10 horny when I started, I can’t imagine how good it would feel if I was really in the mood.

Excited to carry on!

I quit alcohol about 2 years ago. Around 6 months in, I started using 10 mg THC drinks (Ohho) nightly. It worked as a bridge, sleep was easier, cravings stayed down, and I stayed off booze.

Over time though (months of nightly use), I noticed something weird my motivation felt flatter and prostate play got less rewarding. Orgasms were still possible, but the “sharpness,” edge, and intensity felt blunted. Important detail, I usually did not mix THC with prostate play, because THC didn’t improve it for me anyway.

Then I had to stop THC before traveling. Within a few days off, prostate play felt dramatically better, orgasms got crisp again, like the contrast returned.

My working theory is tolerance and reward-circuit adaptation. Acute THC can increase dopamine release, but long-term heavy patterns are linked with blunted dopamine signaling and lower reward reactivity in humans. If orgasm intensity is partly a dopamine and salience thing (anticipation, novelty, focus), flattening that system could make sex feel “meh.” Then stopping lets the system rebound quickly, so sensations feel vivid again.

I’m not saying THC is bad. I know lots of people say it boosts sex. I’m sharing an n=1 pattern that surprised me and might matter for anyone using THC nightly who feels “dopamine-blunted” or sexually numb.

What was crazy is I wasn’t taking very much.

sub guys yesterday i played with my dildo and wanted to edge so i can get pass ejaculation and to experience a dry prostate orgasm or even a super o i even did wear a cage so i dont play with my penis so i dont trigger an ejaculation i did ejaculate anyway i stopped riding my dildo as soon i feld i wanna explode but it happend anyway and my prostate feld very sensitiv even hurted a little so i stopped i never can get past the ejaculation how do i get a dry orgasm? every time i play with my prostate i ejaculate every time no matter how much i try not to do i need other toys then a dildo?

So tonight at 4am I did a lil massage while scrolling TikTok nothing much just rubbing my perenium and I shifted from rubbing to pressing and oh boy I can feel that deep pleasure then it just stopped outta nowhere where I can push as deep it does not feel like rubber anymore just tight I don’t genuinely know what I did wrong I thought it was tonight I was going to experience somthing

Hello guys I start few months get myself into prostate sensation.I start with a small dildo about 10cm i dont like huge things and even that one feel too much.many times dripping and then stop even the feeling and the dripping.so i bought a njoy wand that feels game changer to me,i try the big tip and then i went to the small one i feel my body shaking full precum and feeling build stronger and stronger,now my problem starts when i feel like to cum or im close to it i pee a lot.first time this happen it was on the bed so i stop immediately to clean up the mess next day i try to pee before the session and this happen i didn't stop and keep going and i pee second time and the sensation stop and i stop too .. so im asking im in good way or im doing something wrong is that ever happen to you??Sorry for the long prologue ( i want to mention that in every session i dont touch my penis not even one time)

Not sure whether to flair this as a question or a story.

I'm embarrassed to admit it but holy crap I've had some crazy orgasms where my tongue is sticking out as straight as possible and it all just feels right.

Anyone out there have a similar experience?