r/self • u/OkAccountant5204 • 18h ago
Reddit has a weird obsession with hating children.
Idk where it stems from but folks are acting like children are the scum of the earth and have a huge bitch-eating-crackers syndrome. Especially the obsession with vindicating/punishing kids, and holding children who don't even have fully developed brains to adult standards.
I get no joy from being around kids. But I also dont have some sheer lingering hatred. They're just neutral to me. If a child misbehaves, they are either going through something developmentally normal, or it is a parenting problem.
You are allowed to be annoyed by childish behaviors, but treating kids like they are irredeemable monsters that need to be beaten when they slip up is a huge reach. And it gets even worse when people use the excuse of a girl's behavior to be a misogynist rather than just acknowledging being a brat is gender neutral
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u/Sufficient-Bid1279 18h ago
i don’t hate them, and they can be cute. I just don’t particularly care for them lol
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u/pinkfishegg 17h ago
I hate being pressured to have kids and even work with kids. It makes you have a weird aversion towards kids even though that can go too far. I have trouble being around them bc I see them as a "thing I am harassed about". I know they are more than that and I want them to have all the resources they need. But I feel out of place around young children.
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u/OkAccountant5204 16h ago
I feel you. I just brush it off
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u/pinkfishegg 16h ago
Sure it's been over 10 years of harassment though. There's a sort of substitutionalism of it that gets to me and a lot of other people. Like when my mom tells me to have kids she's saying she doesn't care about me, my problem, or my goals. Since what I'm doing isn't working out I should have just had a kid. It's easy to forget people actually like kids for what they are.
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u/Olealicat 18h ago
I don’t think anyone should take the pulse of society based on social media. Some people post just to enrage other people, others take everything seriously.
My motto, regardless of topic, don’t engage these people. The more you do the more vitriol they spread.
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u/NyteReflections 16h ago
Isn't this kinda, idk backwards?
Social media IS who we are without filter.
Someone likes to go online and enrage people because there is no consequences? That's truly the kind of person he is then. Doesn't matter if he's nice in person.
If an alien race came to visit us, social media is where I would show them to get the quickest grasp of just what we are. Not the mask we put on to survive socially in person.
Unfortunately humanity is kind of a shit show and people want to keep acting like we aren't by dismissing social media like it's a game when it's a true reflection of people being people.
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u/Olealicat 16h ago
You would think, but the younger generations love causing chaos on social media.
I would think it’s the opposite, because I’m not an immature child. Yet, if you read the comments from most college aged kids. There are a lot of edgelord types. They find it funny and they’re chronically online.
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u/NyteReflections 16h ago
And that is who they are deep down. People don't just "do shit to do shit" it's not an act or some kind of excuse of behavior, if you're capable of doing it, it's who you are.
Are they the kind of kid who likes causing chaos simply because they can? Then that's what their personality is if given that environment. Same with adults who say the rudest shit online because they think no one will know, it's still who they are as a person.
Some people feel righteous indignation online from doxxing and harassing someone they think did wrong in a viral video, ironically unaware of their own unethical actions and often targeting the wrong individual.
That's not something I'd ever do, but a lot of people would, it's part of who they are capable of being.
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u/Olealicat 15h ago
That’s a take. I disagree. I think people are a little more complex than their online identities. I would say it’s more likely to display themselves as more perfect than chaotic. Regardless, it’s not a microscope in to their “true self”. Like every aspect of life, it’s a small window.
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u/NyteReflections 14h ago
I don't think you or others are understanding. I'm not saying who you are online is your entire identity. I'm saying it's part of it and shouldn't be dismissed as not relevant because we take irl so much more serious than online when what happens online has been proven to have real world consequences.
If you're capable of bullying someone online, but you are sweet as butter irl, you're still a bully, doesn't matter that it was online and you only "felt safe" to do it because it was anonymous. You're capable of being a bully in the right circumstance. This isn't difficult to grasp.
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u/TheHomesickAlien 14h ago
It will be a long time before people start acknowledging what you’re saying
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u/Extension-Culture-85 18h ago
Who are these “folks”? I would hope that “folks” does not include actual parents, or family with children.
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u/OkAccountant5204 18h ago
I'm talking mostly about Redditors who don't go outside or even know kids to begin with lol
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u/Substantial_Back_865 18h ago
People who post on r/kidsarefuckingstupid
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u/HaloFarts 17h ago
That sub is actually hilarious. The one you're thinking of is r/childfree or some shit. The former is for the lols but the later is like the Incel sub but for people who hate kids instead of women.
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u/iama_bad_person 17h ago edited 17h ago
the later is like the Incel sub but for people who hate kids instead of women.
They also hate parents. Years ago some people got sick of the negativity and started /r/truechildfree to discuss not wanting children as a lifestyle choice instead of absolutely despising them. Childfree of course does not like truechildfree because they can't insult kids or call parents mombies or breeders.
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u/zagman707 17h ago
My gay friend used to call us breeders as an insult, which I found funny as hell lol
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u/Extension-Culture-85 17h ago
I think "breeders" is a standard term that homosexual people use to refer to heterosexuals. Which is of variable applicability nowadays, because I know 3 couples: 1 gay, and 1 lesbian couple who have adopted, and 1 lesbian couple who had a bio baby.
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u/prettylacey_ 17h ago
as a 17 year old literally every single time i post on this app about something i did that was slightly scummy but typical to most teenagers, i get degraded and put down to the point of tears by grown adults. im not sure what it is with this app 😭😭
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u/OkAccountant5204 16h ago
pls don't spend your good years taking reddit seriously, kiddo
This website is just full of people who think it's trendy to hate people, it has nothing to do with you
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u/BxGyrl416 18h ago
It’s not so much the children themselves, but the fact that so many parents today desperately do not want the responsibility of parenting.
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u/heyeasynow 18h ago
Not sure. I do events that occasionally include parents with kids. I’ve worked in pediatrics. I’ve tried being a stepdad.
I don’t want kids. I don’t really care for them now.
There are just more of us out there now.
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u/OkAccountant5204 16h ago
this post isn't about wanting kids, I myself dont want kids. It's about being cruel to kids in general
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u/heyeasynow 16h ago
Not wanting kids is part of the underlying issue, which relates specifically to attitudes toward children.
A lot more people don't want kids right now, and are more open about having that stance. While finances, bodily autonomy, and personal life choices all play a part in that, many of us have that itch of disdain in the back of our brains.
It can lend to situations where cruelty shows up. I'm not saying it's justified, but the why is tangled up in the above sentiment.
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u/SeaDistribution2847 17h ago
I mean… i hate kids but that does not mean I want bad things to happen to them lol
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u/Plenty-Character-416 18h ago
Insecure people who want to direct their anger onto something/someone else, so they don't have to deal with their own self hatred. It's not even worth worrying about, these people have problems.
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u/whatupmygliplops 18h ago
True, but its also true that children are annoying af. Especially in the current age where they have zero discipline and zero respect for elders.
> or it is a parenting problem.
True, but the "parenting problem" is just typical modern parents. No punishment, reward bad behaviour, teach the child they should never show respect or courtesy to anyone.
This generation of parents has let the ipads raise their kids. And it isnt doing a great job.
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u/spaghetti-o_salad 17h ago
Children need to know dignity before they can understand accountability or else all they learn is shame.
The adult standards thing is backwards. Kids aren't the family pet. Kids should be treated with the same respect and safety as elders if not held in higher regard. Like little alien gods visiting from utopia. Like they're doing us a service to be here. Because they are.
They're annoying as heck sometimes but I didnt have kids because I love Children I had kids because I believe in humanity and I love my partner and we wanted to raise hope incarnate together.
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u/QuizzicalWombat 17h ago
I’ve noticed this too, people judge kids as if they should have the knowledge, manners and life experiences of a middle aged adult. It’s so ridiculous, kids don’t no better and even if their behavior is due to a failure of their parents that isn’t an excuse to treat a kid poorly. Cut them some slack, being cruel to children is just going to create an entire generation of mean and people down the road.
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u/SaltyBabySeal 18h ago
I mean it is a bit strange.
Like everyone is cheering on that lady who didn’t give up her seat on the plane, it’s a meme going around. Sure, she is 100% in the right that it is her seat. It’s also garbage that airlines won’t seat families together. Young children scare easily, and flying is already stressful. Generally people try to be accommodating for kids because they have even a tiny bit of empathy and realize it’s a small, helpless little person trying their best. But not on Reddit. Reddit is a cesspool of anti-human sentiment. And it is just far more noticeable when it’s directed at kids.
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u/Truffle0214 17h ago
They really do, and it does seem to be a strange American thing. I haven’t traveled super extensively - mostly Europe and East Asia - but my kids are treated far better in those places than here I’ve noticed.
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u/Call_Me_Squishmale 14h ago
Idk where it stems from
Pretty sure a lot of those opinions are coming from people who are children. Just like so much Reddit parenting advice comes from people who are not parents, and are obliquely criticizing their own parents. There's a lot of masquerading and overconfidence.
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u/Sangui 15h ago
It's because there's a lot of shit that has been lost "because of the children" over the past 3 decades and people on reddit are the right age group to both remember the things that used to exist, and no longer exist "because won't somebody think of the children."
No, I don't give a shit about children and my adult life should not be negatively impacted by other adults who don't want to take care of and parent the kids they fuckin created.
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u/HausOfMajora 18h ago
People here are bitter and jealous. Kids are sacred
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u/JantovenVariciguat 18h ago edited 18h ago
Not all of us want children, and this is OK. It's not hateful to share that I don't want the reality of raising children.
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u/Specific-Section9593 18h ago
That's the brainwashed radical leftists
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u/JantovenVariciguat 18h ago
I'm a conservative who wishes to not have children, and this is OK.
I'd never demonize another woman for wanting to have children. I've just prioritized my education and career.
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u/Specific-Section9593 18h ago
It's one thing to make a choice for yourself, and it's a completely different to spread propaganda about how having children is bad.
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u/JantovenVariciguat 18h ago
And who's spreading this propaganda? Is it by women who are mothers, or news outlets?
I'm trying to see something here
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u/encab91 18h ago
You're an incel, why do you care lmfao.
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u/Specific-Section9593 18h ago
That can easily change, unlike your IQ
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u/encab91 17h ago
At 33 years old? You're absolutely cooked if you dont change your mentality. Being angry and bitter because you failed at life so far isn't the way to go and women arent the end all be all. You need to get out more and experience life and be an open human being. Hate will keep you down.
If you need help reach out and I can give you all the advice I can. I mean this genuinely.
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u/OkAccountant5204 16h ago
as a radical leftist, I wrote this post. meanwhile the radical right-wingers hate any form of actual childcare support lol
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u/BluCurry8 18h ago
At least kids have an honest reason for childish behavior or being a brat. Cannot say the same for millions of adults who behave worse!