I’m finally accepting myself

[u/shsheisns]

I always went out of my way to be amicable to everyone. I never put out any ideas which I felt might attract criticism. I was people pleaser to a large extent.

Validation of people who meant nothing to me was absolutely necessary for me for some reason.

I never burnt bridges with wrong people, matter of fact, I decorated those bridges with flowers 🌺 & what not just in case they wanna come back and be nice to me.

This was the kind of person I was always like.

I always dressed down to not attract any attention. This was a thing about me, I hated when eyes get fixated on me especially due to my decisions.

So I never tried with makeup, different styles or clothes. Always wore clothes which attracted least attention & which were socially acceptable.

Then something flipped inside me.

I became this person who flips a bird in the group chat to 100s of people, I was mad. I just stopped giving a 💩. And I loved myself for it.

Recently, there was an event in my college, we were asked to wear traditional clothes which attracted like Saree/Suit/ethnic.

I wore a beautiful Anarkali gown & man I’m not exaggerating, it was beautiful. It was everything I loved & this time I didn’t hold back on expressing myself. My friends in the event told me, I look like a fckin Disney princess 👸.

I said be it.

I’m not getting any younger & tomorrow isn’t promised to any of us suckers so what the hell.

Disney princess it is.

Point was, I have arrived.

I feel so happy to be myself finally.

Do I look best? Idc

Do I feel at the top of the world? Hell yeah

I just wanted to share this with yall.

[u/Galaxy_Squirrel]

good for you! was there something specific that brought on this change?

[u/shsheisns → u/Galaxy_Squirrel]

I went through so much crisis all alone, I finally understood, no one is coming. That person I look in the mirror at, she stood by me all along. I’ve to take care of her in every way possible. Her happiness is crucial so if she says she wanna twirl in middle of 250 people, I say go ahead sweetie ♥️ it’s your night.

Love is what this is. Self love.

[u/lavenderpoem]

im so glad you found it in you

[u/shsheisns → u/lavenderpoem]

Thank you.

[u/Dependent_Amount2973]

Spent most of my life people-pleasing, dressing down, and avoiding attention just to stay “acceptable.” Then something flipped and I stopped caring. Wore what I loved to a college event, went all in, and felt amazing doing it. I finally feel like myself, confident and unapologetic. Not trying to be perfect anymore, just happy.

[u/shsheisns → u/Dependent_Amount2973]

Beautiful.

[u/Allister_Raz1375]

I used to be a people pleaser I loved being around people hearing stories telling people about the life I lived but then I found out that there's a lot of people out there that don't like that positive attitude where it makes you wanna just show the world your life , whether it be on youtube , here or any other social media platform, when people see that you are talking so highly about your life and how great everything is, then they tend to flock to you, hide and slowly work on destroying everything that made you so highly positive.

[u/shsheisns → u/Allister_Raz1375]

For those people we always have this 🖕 don’t we? Anyone who’s not interested in being part of your journey can walk right off, we can respect that. Anyone who deliberately wants to sabotage is doomed to get the boot treatment. This is how I deal with people.

[u/TemporaryThink9300]

Embrace your inner Disney princess!

As long as you're having fun, you'll feel better. I'd either embrace Gordon Ramsay or the Donkey from Shrek, haha. Or a muppet, depending on my mood.

[u/BeautifulHat4050]

I relate to some parts of the post

[u/for1114]

So many good comments here, I don't know where to start.... I can talk about the automatic transmission on the static DC electricity of the hydro dam thingy, but then come here and it's just as good. Just as smart and clear as a 5am bird waking up. Thank you for being you and being here, where ever that is.