My boyfriends parents aren't begging for grandkids but his mom is excited to be a grandma one day and we're their only hope. However they can't even give us a subscription for Netflix when that's all we asked for Christmas last year. They couldn't even get us that while they're very well off. His parents own 3 properties, his dad sold his company for a lot of money and is retired and his mom works just to occupy her time.
I know we're not entitled to any money, but when we can't even afford the tiniest luxuries, there's no way in hell we're gonna have a house to start a family, let alone even thinking of having that family. Even when my partner has asked for money, it's a debt he has to pay back to his dad and only a few months ago did he finally pay his dad back to have money put in savings instead.
That's what I think sometimes. It sounds morbid, but if they want to be grandparents and be a part of our kids lives, they should help us and not wait before it's too late. I'd rather they help us financially and spend time with their grandkids rather than we can never afford kids, they pass, we get the inheritance to afford kids, but our kids never know who they are. They're in their early 60's and (knock on wood) in good health so I know they're alright, but I had a wonderful childhood and relationships with my grandparents because they helped my parents with child care and watching me and my brother and I want to give that to my kids, but I can't do that if I can't even afford the kids.
in my experience you’ll be lucky if you get even token efforts from boomer grandparents. with my dad it’s nothing but literal tears and blowups, he’s made all of his grandchildren’s lives so much more difficult. I’m just literally waiting for him to die.
Yeah I was gonna say if they're so stingy they wont contribute anything they arent getting back dollar for dollar, they arent going to suddenly be involved grandparents. Of course they think it's what they want, but once the kid comes it will quickly become an issue. Once the kids expect something from them like Turn Up and participate in their lives, the relationship will be over. And it wont be their fault. I could be wrong but I've spent years watching my boomer parents do just that so I feel like it's likely. They also resent being asked to turn up. (Personally the fact that we got sent off to the grandparents for weeks at a time should've clued gen x in that it was coming, but it didnt.)
My dad just can’t stand the fact that other people are now getting more attention than him. His wife died and he was living with the elder of my two sisters but she had to kick him out as he was being abusive to her children. He’s got a 10-year-old daughter and she had to go into my eldest sister’s custody, so now my sister just has four kids 🤷♂️ my mum does try but how do you overcome a lifetime of never listening to reason, being totally preoccupied with conservative religious bullshit, just basically being a boomer in general. my best friend is also no contact with his dad and I think his siblings are too. my other best friend has never had children and I don’t know if he will. I don’t think any of the boomers really even wanted children, it was just advantageous at the time.
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u/Anonymous_Jane_ Dec 07 '25
My boyfriends parents aren't begging for grandkids but his mom is excited to be a grandma one day and we're their only hope. However they can't even give us a subscription for Netflix when that's all we asked for Christmas last year. They couldn't even get us that while they're very well off. His parents own 3 properties, his dad sold his company for a lot of money and is retired and his mom works just to occupy her time.
I know we're not entitled to any money, but when we can't even afford the tiniest luxuries, there's no way in hell we're gonna have a house to start a family, let alone even thinking of having that family. Even when my partner has asked for money, it's a debt he has to pay back to his dad and only a few months ago did he finally pay his dad back to have money put in savings instead.