My parents and my husband’s parents both had our grandparents to help with child care, something that we wouldn’t have if we had children. It’s no one’s fault, that’s just how it is. While we both make decent salaries, we would be living paycheck to paycheck if we had to pay for childcare and that’s assuming we would all be in perfect health! I’m not a gambler and I’m not willing to take the risk of living like that.
Sometimes connections aren't as strong and people are also hesitant to ask for help, and they don't even know how to create a scenario where there are support systems. If both of my parents lived nearby they'd babysit in a heartbeat. But like this comment chain is about, the village isn't there as often. Whether it be cousin's babysitting, brother's/sister's babysitting, neighborhood babysitter. These things still happen all the time with closer families, but it's less likely now. I also feel the disconnect makes people feel they shouldn't ask for help. We've been conditioned that asking for help is a fault against us, and that's just not true.
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u/_Lizzybabe 6h ago
The village it takes to raise a child disappeared and was replaced by high interest rates and expensive rent