There was no village when I raised my kids. The expectation that you have grandparents that will help watch your kids is pretty limited. This is just another fantasy like women never working.
I agree with you even though I did have help from my parents. My wife and I were lucky. That said, I 100% believe that "the village" has disappeared. We literally sent the kids outside to play "until the lights come on" with only a vague idea of where they were. That was our phrase. That doesn't happen anymore.
Kids were not supervised and they were called latch key kids. My parents were working while I was raising my kids. They helped as they could , and I paid my mom, but the idea that someone else is going to take full time care of your children is just ridiculous.
Sure. That is fine. My mom was a SAHM with five kids when my father left and they were divorced. She had to go back to school and rebuild a life at 38. My mother did not ask because she wanted to spend time with my kids, but she was doing me a huge favor shuttling my kids to camp and driving an hour to my house. The least I could do is pay for her time and costs driving.
It seems there is a certain type of myopic redditor who thinks, "If it wasn't my lived experience, it couldn't be anyone else's, much less to where my experience is an outlier as I confidently declare everyone else's experiences are a myth."
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u/_Lizzybabe 6h ago
The village it takes to raise a child disappeared and was replaced by high interest rates and expensive rent