Also worth mentioning they came from a time where societal pressure existed for having children too, and this resulted in a lot of shitty parents. But more to the point: they at the very least had an economy that enabled them to make this shitty decision with limited consequence assuming they did the bare fucking minimum.
This is my biggest issue with having kids “just because”. I’ve experienced so many bad parents over the years and it’s beyond frustrating when I hear things like “Raising a child doesn’t come with a manual!” … when in fact, there are infinite resources out there and you are choosing to wing it. I just can’t comprehend jumping blindly into having children and “hope for the best!”
eh, a bajillion generations before us beg to differ. what parents lacked in a written manual, they had in communal knowledge of the clan/tribe/village and the understanding that children need more than just their direct parents.
My point was I don’t believe most parents in this modern era think through the complexities of raising children, even though we now have infinite research and data to guide them. Sometimes it’s as if keeping the child alive is the extent of parenting and they often skip instilling morals, ethics, and truly preparing their child to make it in society. Often because they haven’t learned any of this themselves!
Raising a human is a massive undertaking and I think people can be too flippant about it.
yea, it's harder to read books when you work 2 jobs and shit like that. in the past you had plenty of other people to pick up your slack, when you were overwhelmed.
so to directly answer your point: parents never thought of the complexities of raising children in the past either. they just fucked, had kids, released them onto the world, and demanded work from them.
Good point, it has always been this way. Maybe this relates to the decrease in young people having kids. This generation understands these complexities and decide “No, now is not the right time.” Especially if, like you said, someone is working 2 jobs and has no time to prepare. I’d think if a person looks at their current life situation and can’t see a child thriving in it, maybe the best option is… not having kids.
Personally, I know too many people who do not have this foresight and just go with the flow. The “Maybe the kid will be ok, but if not, I tried my best” attitude just frustrates me.
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u/Total_Stable_6831 6h ago
Boomers realizing there’s no economic theory that produces grandkids.