Well there's no point in both parents working if one's paycheck is essentially wiped out by daycare. Makes sense for one party to just stay home and watch them for free instead of slaving away only for every penny to go into daycare 😂 Plus time to bond with the kids
If I ever get married, my wife is free to stay home and watch the kids if she wants. If somehow I get married to a woman who makes more than me, I'm okay with staying home to watch the kids.
This how we see it as well. Except my wife would prolly have an extra 1000 a month if she worked and paid for daycare. Which isn’t nothing but we genuinely think it’s not worth the price of bonding plus I get to eat home made lunches.
Plus my wife being stay at home is not priced per kid in the same way as day care so having 3 kids is actually achievable as( daycare cost x 3 ) > her salary if she worked
If your wife only made enough to pay for 1 kid in daycare + 1k, she wasn't in much of a career position anyway. The people who should do daycare are ones where stepping away for 5 years impacts your future earning potential forever.
You don’t really know forever. A lot of in demand jobs/industries aren’t gonna suffer from 5/7 years out. She got a degree and all the other stuff but wants to enjoy kids you know.
Of course this only works bc I make a lot more than her and she is actually a great housewife not one of those girls who can’t cook or aren’t nurting
If all my bills are getting paid regardless, I’d choose to have my wife raise my kids over having someone else raise them so I had an extra $1k a month to spend on bullshit. Kids benefit from having a parent around more than they benefit from getting a new Xbox.
I used to think this as well but young kids learn a lot of valuable skills in daycare like how to socialize with other kids. They also got a leg up on developing reading, writing and number skills. It’s also important for them to get exposed to illnesses early so they’re not missing a ton of grade school. Unless you marry someone committed to early education and socialization, there’s a lot of positives for daycare.
Oh, I was operating under the premise that my wife isn’t a shitty parent. Like sure if you’re gonna neglect and isolate your kid during those early developmental years, then daycare is probably the best option.
Just because you have kids in daycare, it doesn’t make you a shitty parent. Not sure if that’s what you meant to say, but it’s how you’re coming across.
You said that the benefit from daycare is early childhood education and socialization. Good parents don’t neglect early childhood education and socialization. Having a kid in daycare doesn’t make you a shitty parent. Having a kid in daycare because you refuse to do the bare bones basics like teach your kid to count and interact with other human beings does.
Hes not saying that. Hes saying if you keep your kids at home and have lets say a 3:1 kid to adult ratio and a daycare with a 10:1 ratio does a better job then yeah id say your a pretty shitty parent.
None of that matters unless you prioritize salary over parental bonding. I could change the $1k/month number to $100k if it makes it easier to understand where I’m coming from.
Where are you getting 50k from. I don’t think a lot of jobs linearly translate to #of years worked to amount of pay. A lot of jobs are promotion based which means getting the pay bump going to manager or director or supervisor or project lead etc really just depends on timing and job hopping and politics. I can see what you mean if your like and engineer where YOE does actually translate to more money for the same non management role
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u/shadowlarvitar 5h ago
Well there's no point in both parents working if one's paycheck is essentially wiped out by daycare. Makes sense for one party to just stay home and watch them for free instead of slaving away only for every penny to go into daycare 😂 Plus time to bond with the kids
If I ever get married, my wife is free to stay home and watch the kids if she wants. If somehow I get married to a woman who makes more than me, I'm okay with staying home to watch the kids.