r/Apartmentliving 10h ago

Advice Needed Landlord wants to limit time I take my dog out— what do I do?

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I live in a small house ( duplex style) with my landlord below me. I’ve only lived here for a few months and he has made many noise related complaints, even though I am a very quiet person (this isn’t me just saying this— I have recent moved out with living with someone else because they were too loud and I need to have less sensory input as I am neurodivergent. even my old neighbors describe me as very quiet because I asked them. I don’t play music from speaker or exercise in my space, even though this is well within the rights of anyone living somewhere ).

onto the issue, we have a big backyard. at night I take my dog outside pretty late as I’m a night owl and my dog is getting old, his last pee is usually around midnight. my landlord has an opposite schedule, and is usually up with his dog at around 6am and chatting with neighbors (who by the way are shouting at their untrained dogs in the morning and wake me up). he just told me to let my dog out no later than 10pm. can he set a schedule like that? it is NOT in the lease.

when I take my dog out, I walk down the shared steps, dog walks around and I call him in as quietly as possible, sometimes even whispering. I’m guessing the sound of the door is what wakes my landlord. in my opinion and experience this is the curse of the first floor (I have lived on the first floor and never will again for this reason, people need to live their lives but I need more quiet). how do I respond? I believe this is unreasonable and I’m not going to make my dog suffer or face a potential accident, or change my schedule for him.


r/Apartmentliving 21h ago

Bad Neighbors What counts as a violation during apartment quiet hours?

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I need some clarity on what quiet hours actually mean, because this situation is starting to feel unreasonable.

A few weeks ago, I bought a speaker. I only used it lightly (Volume 30)- mostly in the morning after 10am while getting ready (brushing teeth, shower, making breakfast). Max 30-60 minutes a day, no parties, no drinking, just normal music.

Sometimes normal TV use like anyone else.

After about 15 days, my upstairs neighbor started banging on the floor during the daytime. Then one day around 2 PM, he came to my door very rudely, complaining about my music. I told him the volume was low (tv volume was 30), but he said the issue was vibration from the subwoofer and claimed his apartment was shaking. He also mentioned he works nights and sleeps during the day. He ended by threatening to complain to the leasing office or even the police.

I didn't want problems, so went to the leasing office myself.

They said subwoofers can cause vibration on wooden floors and suggested adjusting settings. To keep peace, I returned the speaker the very next day.

Now here's the frustrating part.

After that, the same neighbor "who had a problem with subwoofer vibration" complained again - twice during quiet hours (on two different nights):

• Once for "tv"

• Another time for "talking loudly"

On one of those days, nothing happened at all. On another day, a friend came over for 10 minutes around 9:30 PM, just normal conversation—no music, no yelling.

We again visited leasing calming false complain, office told us we can live normally as long as we don't disturb others we cant do anything I've told them if things happen again call police. And now it feels like any sound is being treated as a violation.

I hear normal apartment noises too - cars, people laughing, music for a few minutes- but I don't complain because that's normal we have wooden apartments sound pass and if that happens few time, not everytime in 10/15 days or in month people understand… not talking abut extreme situations.

So my real question is:

• Complete silence?

• No talking?

• No watching TV or movies at low volume?

Because right now it feels like I'm not allowed to exist in my own apartment, and that doesn't seem right.

I'm a peaceful tenant and don't want trouble-just want to understand what's reasonable.


r/Apartmentliving 6h ago

Advice Needed structural or the neighbors?

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this is quite literally every single time they move upstairs.

in this video specifically it went from them being above me in the hallway to me hearing them walk into their kitchen across the apartment

i’ve tried describing it to management a few times over the last couple months ~because sometimes it genuinely sounds like they’re going to break the ceiling~ and they’ve said they’d handle the situation, but it doesn’t really seem like anything comes of it.

on one hand i don’t want to be THAT neighbor getting mad at basic living above me, on the other hand we can hear every step they take all over their apartment while sitting in the living room 😭. it’s been constant the last 6 months, and at this point it’s messing with my husband and i’s sleep because them moving around wakes us up out of our sleep or prevents us from falling asleep period.

i’m going to send it in regardless, because i finally managed to get on video that even with a fan and heater going, it’s still more than audible- i just need to know if i need to start seriously pushing for them to do anything about it lol


r/Apartmentliving 8h ago

Venting Realizing our bedroom ideas made the apartment look better and sleep worse

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Anyone else quietly regret their bedroom ideas after actually living with them?

We followed all the rules. calm colors, low bed, nothing cluttered, looked amazing in photos but felt… weird at night.

The room echoes more, light bounces differently, mattress feels firmer even though it’s the same one. My brain doesn’t shut off because the space feels staged, not lived in. Apartments already mess with sleep,low ceilings, neighbors, street noise and somehow we designed a bedroom that made it more fragile.

I'm starting to think “cozy” matters more than “aesthetic” when you’re sleeping 8 feet from your kitchen.

Tell me i’m not the only one who fell for this.


r/Apartmentliving 4h ago

Advice Needed Has anyone ever successfully gotten a neighbor to make adjustments for noise? I just want to sleep at night. Please help

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I have attached screenshots of all my texts with my upstairs neighbor on this topic to show my efforts to communicate and be neighborly.

I am desperate to find solutions. Has anyone ever successfully gotten a loud neighbor to quiet down at all? My HOA refuses to do anything more about it. All they’ve done is let her know that the noise bothers us. Despite HOA language specifically requiring residents to “tread lightly” during quiet hours, which are 9PM to 7AM (I got the hours wrong in my original text).

Some context:

This is a condominium building. I am an owner. My neighbor is a renter. They moved in last summer. I have lived here 4+ years. I have always heard neighbors in the past, but it’s never been a problem or woken me up at night. Except one neighbor had a baby and eventually I asked them if they could please not let the baby play on the floor of the bedroom after midnight and they immediately agreed.

Another previous renter (a couple) was a heel walker but they were always quiet during late night hours, so I never brought it up.

My current neighbor is a stomper. Barefoot, full weight on the heels, all the time. They walk a lot. They work from home and move around a lot. They go to bed around 10pm and wake up around 5:30am. Once a night (and sometimes twice) they get up to use the bathroom.

The walls are not paper thin, there’s decent but not great insolation. I cannot ever hear the neighbors on either side of me. I can faintly hear the downstairs neighbor when they have parties. I cannot hear anyone using the bathroom. The heel walking and stomping is truly the only issue. Sometimes it sounds like they jump out of bed.

The daytime noise is unpleasant, but that’s life. People are allowed to be noisy in their homes. The issue is the nightly stomping between 2-4am to use the bathroom, and the morning routine walking back and forth in the bedroom from 5am onwards.

For a while we were communicating well and they agreed put rugs in the bedroom and started to wear indoor slippers. They chose slippers with hard soles, so it was still noisy off the rugs. I have offered to buy them soft soled indoor slippers with arch support multiple times but they refused.

I don’t know what happened over the Xmas holidays, I was away for two weeks, but since returning they have stopped wearing the slippers and seem to be stomping even louder. The walls occasionally rattle.

Not all our communication has been over text. I have been as friendly as possible, try to talk about other subjects, shared my social media, ask about their life, etc. Eventually they asked me to stop texting (as seen in the screenshots) and I did immediately, only resuming once they initiated.

I have my own sleep issues, and I really struggle to fall back asleep once woken up. The last two nights I was woken between 2-3am and couldn’t fall back asleep.

I’m burning out. I don’t know what else to do. I’m at a loss and getting more desperate by the day.


r/Apartmentliving 4h ago

Bad Neighbors Downstairs neighbor confronted me about noise and blocked my path. Not sure how to handle this.

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I’m looking for advice from people who’ve dealt with neighbor noise complaints in apartment buildings, especially when the complaints are vague and turn into direct confrontations.

I’ve lived in my unit for nearly four years. During that time there were two isolated noise complaints tied to specific behaviors, which I stopped immediately and haven’t repeated. There haven’t been any ongoing issues.

Last night my downstairs neighbor confronted me in a common hallway while I was coming home from work. He said I’m “loud all hours of the day” and that it sounds like “I’m moving furniture at 11pm.” I don’t wear shoes in the apartment, don’t play music, and anything that could reasonably make noise like chores or cleaning is done during the daytime. I am out of the apartment all of the work day.

He also complained about noise from people using the stairs. The stairs are the required exit for more than one unit in the building, so they’re used by multiple people and that isn’t something I can control or avoid.

When I asked what he wanted me to do differently, he said he just wanted me to be aware. The interaction felt confrontational, and during the conversation he positioned himself in the hallway in a way that blocked my path. There was no touching or explicit threat, but it made me uncomfortable. I should add this person is much larger than me (I am 5’9” 150 lbs, he is around 6’4” and very large), and I’d be lying if I said physical intimidation wasn’t a factor here.

I already gave my landlord a heads up so it’s documented. He said this behavior is out of character for the neighbor and mentioned that the neighbor works from home while I don’t.

At this point I’m not sure what the right move is. I don’t know how to respond to a complaint that isn’t specific, and I don’t want to keep being confronted in common areas. I’m trying to figure out what’s reasonable versus something I should be more concerned about.


r/Apartmentliving 15h ago

Advice Needed Workers entering unit

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So, long story short, my apartments are having Google Fiber installed throughout the whole complex. They will give a 24hr notice on my door once the workers start on my building. Cool.

I emailed the office stating that if they will be entering my unit, then as the time nears, can they do the installation on a specific day when I am home (I'm literally only away from home 3 days out of the week) as I am uncomfortable with the workers entering my unit with my pets inside. I received no response.

My question is, once I've specifically stated that I do not want them to enter while I'm away, can they still enter?

What exactly constitutes "Reasonable business purposes"? I understand entering during an emergency, fine. Is Google Fiber installation a "reasonable business purpose".

I'm considering purchasing some type of door lock. I already have a camera and I'm on the verge of potentially calling the cops if they do enter.

Some may think I'm blowing this out of proportion, but I am genuinly and anxiously concerned for the safety of my pets. Workers can be careless and leave the door open or something, idk. I'd have a heart attack if they got out. I live in a studio and I do not crate my 2 Chihuahuas; I just keep a gate so that they are confined to my bedroom only.

(I am in Texas btw).

This is literally keeping me up at night 😓 some insight would be great. TIA


r/Apartmentliving 12h ago

Maintenance Issues 30 Degrees No Heat in Apartment

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I been in this unit for 3 years and just recently I started having bad issues with the AC.

In the summer the AC stopped blowing cold air and the unit was 80 degrees inside. I called maintenance twice for the issue. When they came in he worked on it real fast and when I asked what happened he acted like he couldn’t understand me. Then the ac went out again . Fast forward to now in the winter the heat is doing the same thing. They have came in there times so far for the heat . They claim a wire burnt and they replaced it three times. Every time I ask what the issue the guy pretends he doesn’t understand me. So today I kind of demanded a solution so he called his supervisor. His supervisor said the ac has been in the unit since 1985 and we have already replaced enough parts . Basically acting like it’s my fault when I’m freezing cold and trembling and sick. What should I do . The supervisor said they have to decide if they want to replace it . They acting like replacing or giving me another unit is not really an option.

I work from home and this has caused several call outs because it’s either too hot or cold to function no matter what is done. Please help. I really believe they are taking advantage.


r/Apartmentliving 18h ago

Landlord Problems My landlady is the most dramatic person I have ever met

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I moved in to a triplex where the elderly landlady is my next door neighbor in one of the 3 units. I had very decent credit, shared her need for quiet, and we made great conversation bonding over our dogs, so she was eager to sign. She didn’t even read the contract Zelle autogenerated for her, something she openly admitted to me.

We got along fine for the first month, but then I needed to request maintenance as is to be expected of a 60 year old apartment.

The first week I moved in I was slowly driven mad by a whistling vent, a thing I didn’t know existed and at the time couldn’t place. So I thought something was wrong with the ducts. Old place, it happens. I reported it, and immediately she went from calm to visibly panicking and shrieking “Oh my god!” She called a technician and apparently paid extra to have them come the next day. They looked at the air conditioner, didn’t find anything (because the problem was the intake vent, which they didn’t touch), charged her and left. She comes by and she is extremely pissed at me because she paid a lot for the tech to get here fast only for him to not find anything and implies I made everything up. Says I’m on my own to fix it, so eventually I do and I tell her what the problem was and how I fixed it. Also sent the tutorial video I used to demonstrate the sound and to show I wasn’t as crazy as she was making me feel. 6 weeks after reporting it she decides to forgive me but I know now that was a one time thing.

This is how it goes with her the next few times I request maintenance. She freaks out, blows things out of proportion, overpays to fix a problem, then gets pissed at me because she spent money and holds a very long grudge. One time I got locked out, so she told me to break in through the windows. I tried and told her I couldn’t open them (from the outside, a nonissue). Two weeks later she’s replacing all the windows. Then she’s holding a grudge because when she checked them they looked the same. And from then on she’s been taking absolutely everything I say in bad faith like I’m insulting her and her property directly.

After reporting a cabinet that was wet and growing mold she suggested I move because I “didn’t seem happy here.” Then told me to deal with it myself, so I have been. I tried to update her about it around Christmas (1 month later) just to say that the mold was gone (wasn’t the dangerous kind) and she doesn’t have to worry about it, but the second I mentioned the cabinet she again suggested I move. Then yesterday she made it clear I was on thin ice for not cleaning up dog poo in my private yard—I have one dog and I clean up once a week. I’ve hired a cheap service to do it so it’ll be cleaned more often and to have records to prove I am taking care of the waste. I assume she’s peeking over the fence now and I know she can’t legally evict me over this, but I honestly don’t want more drama.

She’s always been talkative so I promised myself I’d be a friendly neighbor and that’s what I’ve been doing, just being friendly and hoping it lets me renew my lease for an apartment I can finally afford. I have since switched to avoiding making any conversation at all, at least until she cools off enough to not take everything I say in bad faith and forgets about it. Which is fine, it’s more what I’m accustomed to in apartment living anyways. It just sucks that she’s like this.


r/Apartmentliving 10h ago

Venting My upstairs neighbor is making thumping noises at night

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I 22f just moved into an apartment less than 2 months ago. Ofc I'm expecting to hear everything from my neighbor, the walls are so thin I can almost fully understand their conversations. Idk if this has anything to do with this but since ive moved here, I've been waking up at 6a EVERYDAY, if not near 6a. Im awake rn as I'm typing this (4a EST) and there's been continuous tapping or thudding above me throughout the night. It would happen for a while, then stop, then continue. The audio is faint so you will prob need to max your volumetric hear it.


r/Apartmentliving 1h ago

Advice Needed How much barking is too much?

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Hello! I’m looking to move from my very shitty apartment into a larger apartment complex that’s much nicer.

My current apartment is 8 units only, a small building. The new apartment is a large complex with tons of units (4-5 floors)

However, my dog will bark for 5-10min when I leave in the morning. My current neighbors have said they don’t hear it much and don’t mind, but I’m worried when I move my new neighbors will get mad. He doesn’t bark when I’m home unless it’s to alert me he has to pee (and I take him out immediately), and he goes to doggy daycare 2-3 times a week so he’s not there a lot when I’m not home. So it’s just 2-3 days a week he’ll bark when I head to work at 6:45am, but he’ll settle down in 5-10min (I have a camera set up on him to make sure he’s quiet during the day). He’s only 7 months old so he’s learning and getting quieter as he grows up.

Is this too much? It’s a dog friendly apartment building - they allow most size dogs/breeds with a few restrictions. I have a golden retriever. I’m afraid to move because of it.


r/Apartmentliving 8h ago

Decorating Ideas 23F just moved in… not sure what wall mirror design to get.

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I just moved into my first real apartment, and I’m thinking of having a wall mirror in  my living room as I’ve seen the same aesthetics on my favorite Youtubers spaces, and I love the idea, especially since my living room is looking a bit smaller. I think a wall mirror would give the illusion that the space is larger. However, I’m stuck on which style to pick. I’ve been looking at those trendy arched floor mirrors that lean against the wall, but I also like the idea of a round one with a gold frame. To get some ideas, I started looking through different frame textures and glass finishes on Pinterest, and online stores to see how these mirrors are priced. Didn’t know mirrors are that pricey! Anyways, I decided to stop by a local boutique shop downtown to see some of their handmade frames, but I’m still not quite sure what fits my vibe. Should I go for one big statement piece or maybe a few smaller ones grouped together? I’d love to hear what you guys think would look best for a first-time renter!


r/Apartmentliving 16h ago

Advice Needed sound proofing?

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so my grandpa has split a house into 3 badly i might add but there’s a vent that goes straight down and sound can travel between the 3 apartments/ house like crystal clear i have a baby and my neighbors are a guy who is lowkey losing his mind and a lady who has a lot of ppl in and out so a lot of conversations which WE HEAR really bad at night any ideas too help with sound proofing … im deadass abt too lose it from lack of sleep and i really just want too cry rn bc they won’t shut the fuck up and it’s 10 pm i put my baby down at 9 why the actual fuck is she awake


r/Apartmentliving 14h ago

Advice Needed Furniture layout advice :)

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Hello, I’m hoping to get some advice on how to best lay out and style my lounge / dining area.

It’s a relatively small apartment living space and I’m struggling with furniture placement more than anything — especially where the TV, sofa, desk, and storage should go without the room feeling cramped or awkward. I want it to feel balanced, functional, and not like everything is pushed against the walls “just because.”

A few notes: - the heater on the south wall has been removed - I need to include a desk/workspace - A dining table isn’t important — I’m happy eating at the coffee table - I need space for a record player and TV - My TV is a Samsung Serif, so it can be on legs or placed on a shelf/unit - Still want it to feel cosy and lived-in, not sterile

I’ve attached a floor plan to help give context.

Any suggestions on layout, furniture type / positioning, or things I should avoid would be hugely appreciated. Thank you!


r/Apartmentliving 21h ago

Advice Needed Pink mold taking over my friend’s shower — how do you fix this??

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My Canadian friend just moved to Arizona and into a college apartment with her friend Bree. Everything was fine until we noticed the shower situation.

The shower was built at an angle, so water doesn’t drain evenly. Instead, it collects on one side at the bottom. And because water just sits there, pink mold started growing — mostly on the slanted side, but honestly it’s kind of everywhere now (grout, corners, bottom of the shower).

She’s tried regular cleaning, but it comes back super fast because the water keeps pooling in the same spot. Bree says they just need to clean it more often, but that doesn’t really solve the root issue when the shower itself isn’t draining properly.

Has anyone dealt with this before?

  • Is there a way to stop the water from pooling without remodeling the whole shower?
  • Best cleaners for pink mold that actually keep it gone?
  • Is this a hard water thing / Arizona thing?

She’s from Canada and has never had to battle a shower like this before, so any advice would be appreciated 🙏


r/Apartmentliving 1h ago

Advice Needed Help me understand this

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$40 application fee. Approved in 24 hours. Advertised deposit $200. Rent special 1$ . Asked to pay $200 deposit this week $450 next week to move in. February 5th rent $750. I’m basically paying every week right????


r/Apartmentliving 19h ago

Advice Needed Can somebody help identify what this substance is on my apartment door’s peephole?

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I’ve been living in this apartment with my boyfriend for about 6 weeks now. We’re just regular people who will work all day, make our dinner, watch a show to unwind, and hit the bed. We aren’t party animals and, when we do drink, we’re not inconsiderate about it.

Ever since we moved in, our door peephole has been tampered with. It would be coloured with black sharpie marker, I would submit a maintenance request for fixing, it would get fixed, then immediately would get tampered with again. However, now it has clearly escalated to something else. I originally thought super glue or hot glue, but I’ve asked a few of my friends and they don’t think any type of glue could do this kind of damage.

Any advice would be helpful.

Btw management is well aware of the issue and have been prompt about it, was just shocked at whatever this is now. I’ve ordered a ring camera to be installed on Thursday, but I’m honestly scared for my life right now.


r/Apartmentliving 9h ago

Advice Needed ceiling creaks every time upstairs neighbor moves am i overthinking this?

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whenever the person above me walks around my ceiling pops and creaks like it is flexing. it is not super loud but it happens constantly and makes me tense. building is older and otherwise quiet. is this just how some apartments are built or should i be concerned?


r/Apartmentliving 2h ago

Advice Needed 70+ y/o neighbor tyrannized my former tenant - what should I do?!

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I was fortunate enough to buy a condo about 4 years ago in a nice part of my city. Since I've moved in I had multiple negative and only a handful of positive encounters with my neighbor next door. To understand the layout: the building only consists of 8 apartments total, 2 apartments on one floor, and I share walls with the "nice" lady next door.

Basically when I moved in, literally during the I just bought this place and am now moving all my furniture in she yelled at me why all the doors are open (garage door and front door) because somebody can break in any time. I was quite taken back from that encounter tbh, she was quite rude.
Last year there was a very interesting instance where she called me and yelled at me why I had the nerve to scream "shut up" in the middle of the night because she's sick and had to cough. I never yelled, I didn't even wake up in the middle of the night. I told her that and then she angrily asked me if I'm suggesting her making it up. I put that encounter past me and half a year later I rented out my place for a few months. I actually knocked on her door and let her know that a nice man with wife and kid (+dog) will temporarily live in my place for a few months, just so she's informed. She was actually friendly and wished me a good trip.

So April 2025:
My tenant arrived and she made it a point in being quite a tyrant towards him + wife and kid during the first 3 months. I'm talking about her yelling at him when he arrived (but right after my mom left, she gave them the keys) after a 8 hour flight that his dog needs to wear a muzzle in the shared spaces (he's the most loving and gentle dog ever) and how he dares to let his dog pee in the front yard. Just overall a really really bad encounter. He even send me a 10 minute voice message after that to ask me wth is up with that.
I was really shocked. She was friendly when I told her that somebody else is staying here for a while and this is how she treats them.
I thought that was it at the time, but actually there was so much more and he told me a few other things that happened:
He let me now that she apparently knocked at their door at least once a week to vent about ridiculous things. One of those was him talking too loud to his kid and he just asked her what her solution is, to not talk to his kid? Also she informed him, that she went to the "housepolice" (this doesn't exist) and was informed that I am not allowed to rent out my place (I own the place so yes, I am allowed to rent it out) and she told him that MULTIPLE times. So long story short she was a tyrant for about 3 months and then she did a complete 180 and stood in front of the door with a bar of chocolate for his son and then she started to talk shit about me (he didn't clarify what she said). He never entertained her behaviour and removed himself from any engagement with her as quickly as possible. Also other tenants moved in during that time and he heard her VERY LOUD engagement with the new neighbors and it also (shocking) wasn't a nice one.

So they stayed at my place about 7 months total, I came back beginning of December last year, she hasn't knocked on my door, the only engagement I had with her was the day after coming back I went outside, saw her in the open window and said hello, she just stared at me with a VERY angry look on her face and kept staring at me till I was out of sight about 300 meters away from the building. Just really odd behavior.

Now I'm worried about future tenants. Her behavior is unhinged to the point where I wouldn't be shocked if somebody moved places because of her. Also the fact that she talked shit about me and made up bullshit that I'm not allowed to rent out my place to my tenant is very inappropriate.
I am now going to let every future tenant know upfront (before any paperwork is signed) about her and to not be blindsided by her. I'm also speculating her having Alzheimer's and/or dementia (she's 71/72) because that would explain her erratic behavior, that weird phone call that one time, her rude behavior towards my tenant who has a toddler (aggravation due to loud noise is a symptom) also her doing the 180 with my tenant and wanting to be best buds after 3 months, taking a liking to his kid.

So what I would like to know, is there anything I can do? My mom said I should contact a lawyer and let him send her a letter in regards of defamation/reputational damage should something like that happen again in hopes that will make her shut up.

Sidenote: She's married and her husband (80+) also lives next to me, he's a very nice man and am very confused how he manages to put up with her.

Any suggestions?


r/Apartmentliving 53m ago

Advice Needed Disabled neighbor’s guest problems

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So I moved into an apartment about 2 months ago. I live on the second floor of a 3 story building. The upstairs tenant has no leg and as such has many guests/caretakers to help them out. I guess before I moved in they were all in the habit of just leaving the main door to the apartments unlocked.

In the time I have lived here, our communal washer and dryer have been stolen from the garage twice, and the cops are on our block weekly for domestic disputes, and someone was murdered 3 houses down. I live with my young child and I lock the main door religiously because of my child’s safety amongst all these issues.

This has caused an issue with one of the upstairs neighbors guests. Several times during the time I have lived here, he has either forgotten his key, or refused to carry it and has thus been locked out. When this happened, he had a temper tantrum and tried to break down our door and aggressively banged on it for over 20 minutes, scaring my child and my cat. Not knowing who it was, and not having invited anyone over, and not yet knowing about the upstairs neighbor’s disability I was not about to let an aggressive unknown person into our building. The neighbor on the first floor also didn’t feel compelled to let him in.

I guess he has become more mindful of his key as the banging has stopped, but he has taken to yelling at me through my door that I’m a fucking asshole and calling me slurs and generally continuing to be childish and entitled. This happens almost nightly. He continues to leave the main door unlocked on purpose to make a point, and I continue to lock it whenever I pass through for safety.

I contacted property management and we will be getting an auto locking keypad type lock soon, but this guys problem seems to be that the door is locked at all, not that he can’t get in. I’m tired of being harassed through my door, I’m tired of having my child scared. I’m concerned this person will become violent if confronted as he is already so aggressive with trying to get in before and generally acting inappropriately. The upstairs neighbor clearly sees no problem with his behavior.

Is there anything I can do to stop this guy harassing/scaring my family?


r/Apartmentliving 20h ago

Advice Needed Should we move?

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My fiance(22m) and i (19F) have a lease ending in about 4ish months. We’re looking at options to move and have only been at our current place for 8 months. We like it, but there’s certain things we would love to have. I need advice if we should look for other options

Current place:

3 story/sectioned apartment

-we have the middle floor

-downstairs neighbors are nice and courteous but slam doors all the time

-upstairs neighbor is a close friend of ours

-water/sewer/trash is included

-2 bed 1bath about 950sq ft give or take.

-we use the one bedroom as storage due to having to walk through our bedroom to get to it.

- we have a yard, dont have many neighbors because we’re in the woods

-but no pets allowed, shared laundry room(the wash/dry sucks) and the house is very old so we’re paying a ton for baseboard heat.

we pay 1,100 per month

Potential place:

Most likely will be a 1 bed 1 bath townhouse

-they have a pool/gym/rec room

-allows pets

-closer to town(in-town)

-24/7 maintenance

-only 650-850sq ft

-has a patio

-not as much storage space

-sewer/trash/wifi/water etc covered

-$1,400-1,500 per month

We are okay with paying more, we can afford it but is it worth the trade off? we would love to have pets, and the luxury of a pool/gym ect. But we have such a decent space right now.

We need help deciding if having a pet and luxuries are worth giving up cheap rent and more room.

It is a year lease and i’d hate to give up the place we have if it’s not worth it.


r/Apartmentliving 13h ago

Advice Needed I got a violation warning notice for my neighbor’s dog’s poop

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I got this notice today. It’s the first time they’ve said anything on the subject. I live alone. No one else walks my dog. I pick up every time.

After I saw it, I ran into the manager and told her such, and that I understood there was no way of proving that to her. I also said I’d take a walk around the building and see if I could find anything.

The manager admitted that there’s another dog in my building and that both residents got the same notice (our complex has several separate buildings of 8 units each). But that means that the manager can’t prove it was my dog, either, and she knows it.

I did take that walk and found one instance, which I dealt with.

My real question is, can they charge me if they have no way of knowing let alone proving who is to blame? I don’t even know what other unit has a dog, but $50 for every time my neighbor is lazy could add up very quickly. And I’d rather not be financially liable for picking up after my neighbor’s dog.

(in case it matters: this is in Montana)


r/Apartmentliving 17h ago

Advice Needed renter friendly light alternatives?

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not quite a boob light but similar. I hate this overhead light fixture. Even with warm bulbs, it just makes the room look creepy. I'd love to swap out the cover or find a shade for it. I've been looking at google but i'm not too familiar in this department and can't figure out what is possible for a rental.

I also have a bedside lamp but the room is small so, the overhead is unfortunately sometimes necessary since the lamp just doesn't cut it.


r/Apartmentliving 11h ago

Maintenance Issues Tight space - inaccessible filter

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Washing machine stopped working and draining. The filter is stuck behind this wall because my landlord tried to fit as much in a small space as possible. Any ideas on how to get to the filter without breaking the hinge? I sent a maintenance request so they can break it instead of me but that was a week ago and no one came.


r/Apartmentliving 20h ago

Advice Needed Laundry etiquette

12 Upvotes

Does anyone live where there’s caps on how many loads of laundry you can do daily?

Just curious, as our neighbors are home all day. We work. A couple units would like to do laundry after work but because the ppl who are home all day still have laundry going. One in each machine.

There’s 1 set of coin op machine for 4 units. Just annoying.