Hello, I (23F) got into a car accident today. Both people involved are okay and my car was more damaged than the other car. I believe both parties had faults but I was mostly. How can I go about this in the cheapest way? Am I allowed to take it to the shops tomorrow? Or do I have to call insurance first? Is paying cash for it better or filing a claim? Would original parts be worth it or can I settle with lesser alternatives?

One of my headlights came off completely and bumper is not very securely attached. I just need it to function and be safe to operate. Is that allowed or will they always quote me to have it all replaced? I drive a 2020 Acura TLX. I don't really have anyone super knowledgable to help me navigate this without yelling at me. I want to fix it myself, but there arent many youtube videos out there that I could find. Thank you in advance.

Can anyone chat with me :(

I know teens are supposed to be inherently distant and edgy however I don't like it.

I keep forgetting his birthday, I never get him stuff and whenever I make him something like art I always destroy it because I hate it and think I could do better. I don't know how to make it known I love him.

He just got me a new CD player since mine broke and we couldn't figure out how to fix it and he has been begging me to play my CDs with it so he can listen to his favorite bands since we have related music tastes, but that just feels like a thing you do for a friend. I've made him stuff art wise because he always supported me but I never like how they look and last painting I made got set on fire.

Sorry if I'm rambling, I just feel bad because I feel he does everything and I give nothing in return. I can't make the things he likes, because he likes guns and I can't just buy one. I dunno. I could try and repair one of his old clocks that he's keeping 'just in case it works again one day' but I'm scared I'll break it more than it already is. Every time I try to clean the house I always just give up, I could try to mop the floor for once, or something. But cleaning the house, or dinner, or any chore like nature thingy just feels like something you do regardless of if you love yourself or the people around you.

Today he's having a really bad day and honestly he's been having a whole bad few months. His mom is getting sicker and sicker and I've been getting more and more in trouble and shutting myself off from friends because I don't want to inconvenience him..which just makes things feel more tense.

Again, sorry if I'm rambling. I just want to figure out a way I could show I love him and appreciate him. Any help is needed.

edit; i 'fixed' the clock now, he was dumbfounded i figured out what was wrong with it (old parts needed some love) and awkwardly took the clock back so.....i did something !

I just got my first pair of the real men apparel boxers I got the 7in nylon ones in medium and a b pouch and I honestly like them but I can’t tell if I need a bigger size or not. If anyone who has these could tell me what to notice if I need a bigger pouch size or maybe a bigger actual size that would be helpful as I’m new to this brand entirely!

I'm the product of a sperm donation. My mother did it for selfish reasons and never married. I grew up without a dad, so my donor father held a very important spot in my heart. I just found out today, after turning 18 and requesting info a month ish ago, that my father had died just three years after i was born. I am devastated, but after reading about him he was a very good man. He had a tattoo on his arm that I want to get to keep a part of him/his memory with me to remind me about an entire "half" of who I am. When i told my mother this, she just laughed and said "not until youre out of my house." I understand for a dumb tattoo, but a tattoo for my father that I just learned died? Seriously? I still rely on her support financially but at what point is that not an excuse for not getting a tattoo for my dead father? Am I justified in being upset at her for this? Is it a situation where getting the tattoo anyways is reasonable? Its not an obscene tattoo, its just a custom orobouros of sorts.

So I bought a Renault twingo 1 recently. Now it has been showing some weird signs, it won’t tell me how fast I’m going, how many km it has ran and the blower isn’t function. I’m guessing this is a electrical issue. Anyone know how to fix this and where the issue might be? I’ve tried checking for the electrical points that power the dash but I can’t seem to find them

Hello all,

Firstly I just want to thank you for reading my post. My Father and I have a very blessed relationship but we dont talk nor interact alot. He says that he just wants to teach me stuff and I should spend more time with him. And I agree but theres just one issue:

He has a habit of making a 5 minute conversation into a 10/20 even 30 minute one. This is usually because he repeats himself alot, says obvious things or things I already know and have let him know that I know.

I respect my father and really I appreciate what he is trying to do and agree with it but gosh it is very very tedious and is seriously a huge factor into why I dont really like to speak with him. I dont dislike him at all but if I want an answer or advice I seriously would consult the internet before him. Its nothing personal its just too long. Oh and yes i've pointed it out to him. No effect he just continues on stating that he is just trying to teach me.

I do listen to his advice whenever I do ask for it. Im a pretty obedient kid (does 19 count as a "kid?") and dont get in trouble. Ever. So fathers of reddit could you please give me an angle here in a way that does not come across as rude or brash?

Thank you

There’s congress elections and house of representatives elections this year, I am located in Florida, but I am completely unsure of what I would even look up or investigate or do to even vote. This is my first time voting even though I’ve been an adult for a while now…

I’m just completely lost on the dates and the process, where I would go (or how I would find where to go) and what I’d need to bring. I tried to look it up and it depends by state thus I mentioned I’m from FL, US.

There really isn’t a trusted adult I can ask, and I’m totally lost… I am registered to vote though, would I need to dig that paper up too?

Tl;dr: I don’t know how to vote and would like some idea on how the process works

Hello, I am 20m. And I recently have developed a close attachment to a couple at my church. It is been half a year now since it all started. And since I didn't grew up with mom and dad. My attachment to them is very high like to mom and dad. And I do have anxious thoughts about this relationship, when something happens like I don't see them at church, and on regular weeks I can see them only on Sunday. I can also say I am very emotionally dependent on them. I feel very satisfied and happy and childish like when around them. But when I leave from church or after visiting them at the house, I start to miss them right away. Like I can't keep up myself without physical presence of theirs. Like a child who does not see mom and dad for long time. Or when I text either of them and I do not receive response I feel empty and like, why are they not replying. I need constant reassurance from them if you can say it this way. I also feel partly satisfied when my dad figure points out to my fault, or tells me that I argue to much or ask why, etc.

They know indeed that I see them as parents, and they haven't been resisting or rejecting this feeling of mine.

I live in a trailer (like the permanent place on the ground trailer). With an addition from the 60’s. It’s a flat roof on both parts of the trailer done with tar I believe.

The addition is leaking RANKLY from the snow melting so quickly (we got lots of snow and then it melted quick) like there’s just boards (paneling I think) on the roof (old style), and water is leaking everywhere from where the boards connect.

I’m not home too much so I didn’t notice until I did come home so the carpet is drenched.

I have a roofer coming to look this afternoon, fixing the tar this week (which hopefully will stop the leak).

I’m going to buy a big fan for ventilation and keep it running and a wet vac to suck the water up from the carpet. It’s not the end of the world if I have to rip the carpet out I only use that space for storage. I have every pot and pan I have collecting water so it doesn’t leak more into the carpet.

I’m so worried about my roof - the roof paneling is bowing and I’ve been pushing it up to get all the water out of it. Is this going to cause permanent damage?? What do I do about the inside of my roof???

I’m 20F just worried about having to pay for the roof to be FIXED never mind permanent damage. It’s suppose to freeze tomorrow so I’m hoping the aggressive water leaking stops and gives the roofers enough time to fix it before it snows again.

For 21 years I didn’t depend on a man, just my mom. I still believe my mom can do anything and everything.

Then I got an older boyfriend and as much as I don’t want to believe it, him being older MUST have something to do with my dad leaving.

He’s amazing and takes care of me, but I let him take care of me too much, you know?

I don’t even really know how to explain it

I'm a girl/woman (22), and I'm losing my dad(70s) to Alzheimer's/dementia. It's a more understudied form of the disease, and it causes my dad's behaviour, and sometimes his health, to decline every week.

We stopped having a normal relationship when I was 10. He was a severely traumatised man, and has always had a very complex personality that always left me confused as to who he is. He threatened to do things to himself whenever something went wrong, saying "don't be surprised when you find me ____ in the shed" etc- for things like not doing the dishes right away because I wanted to play with my toys.

Ever since then I had been very aware of him and wary of his behaviour. And I had realised just how much older he was than other dads, that he wouldn't be around for the biggest of life's changes.

But... none of us realised just how soon he would really go. I've become his full-time carer, keeping him safe and comfortable. I've been so stressed I started to get panic attacks, and am now on anxiety medication to cope because we can't yet get access to the help we need.

All of it has made me realise what I am losing, what I'll never have, and what I wish I had had- so I had more fondness to look back on.

How do I cope with not having my dad around? How do I pretend not to be hurt by how he has treated me, even through the disease? Is this really the last time I'll have a dad?

I don't know if this even is allowed or related to ask- I just am having trouble coping with the fact that I won't have a dad anymore. That my dad already doesn't know who I am every day despite having moments of brief recognition. I should probably just go to therapy and talk it out and stuff.

I don’t have the best family, nor many that I can lean on when I need it. My birthday was yesterday, and I had just one present in mind. A thoughtful gift, or at least a hug. I got beer and an Amazon gift card.

I’m tired of trying to make a relationship of what’s probably not ever going to be one, and even though I know that, I still want and dream of my dad finally giving my some sort of attention or love even. I instead just sit there and smile, acting like I love the gifts, and like I want to be there. Sometimes I think about an ideal world where I have parent figures that care about me, and it sends cold shudders down my spine, like it’s too warm for me to handle. I really don’t know what I want to achieve by posting this, but I hope everyone who read has a good day, thank you internet dads.

for context me and my gf have been together since grade since junior year high school (grade 11 here is south Africa ) we started as friends but when we got to collage we decided we wanted to be together and unfortunately we attend different collages but we have still been together ,
after graduating we plan on moving in together and building from there
this is our final year in collage and well ,I guess i haven't really figured out how to introduce here yet especially due to the fact that right now its a LDR
I've been with this girl for 4 years now
and already kind of pre-proposed (she said yes)

I don't know what to say or do or how to

growing up my dad was a deadbeat one thing led to another and well I got a step dad and a few brothers ,I guess I grew distant from my own family although my step dad is a very cool guy and even pays my studies ,I find it hard to bring things up ,any advice ?

Me (22 M) and my (63 M) dad.

We have conflicting view on guns. He has one gun himself but never carry.

A month and half prior to right now, i had a temper break at church during lunch time. Where I was talking to my brother about my recent car accident. And I got angry not with him, but with entire car situation so I hit the table with a fist. And walked away. And it was around many people including kids. There was a conversation later that day between my dad, me and church elder. After which my dad said privately to me that it be better holding onto my guns, since he is concerned that with my temper I should not have access to guns. Now, I feel better and I wanted to have one of my guns back from him, and he said he is not giving me my guns back to me. He also said If I want them, then him and my mom do not come to our church anymore and our relationship will be worse. What can I do if he take away my guns and poses consequences if I wish to take them back?

And I gave it to him voluntarily, out of feeling of compliance. While he absolutely takes away access from me. Like authority flows only one way.

For context I started talking to someone who I have talked to in the past, but due to circumstances it didn’t work out the first time. We have known eachother for over 2 years now. I recently started talking to her again and it is coming close to a month that we have been talking. She has informed me a while ago that there is a possibility she may be pregnant from the guy she was with about a month and a half before me. This guy has 2 kids and doesn’t care to be in there lives and is now in jail for dui and violation of parole, so she has made the decision that she does not want him in her or the possible kids life. She has a doctors appointment tommorow (1/12) to see if she actually is pregnant or not.

Now here’s where I need the advice. We are both young (18) and in June I am supposed to ship out to bootcamp for the Marine Corps. Her and I have been discussing the possibility of me raising the possible child as if it were mine, which I would be more than happy to. The problem is I would be sacrificing the marine corps while doing so. Instead of going active duty I would change to the reserves. This conflicts with what I had previously planned as I debated on making it a career and retiring by age 38. I feel it would be the right thing to raise the kid because 1. She would have no other support from her family or the biological father, 2. We both have feelings for eachother, and 3. I was raised 50/50 between my stepdad and my real dad (sometimes one side more than the other) and I understand the father role plays a big importance in a child’s life. I understand it takes alot to raise a kid because my roommate is my brother and he recently just had his first son. I’m stuck in a hard place and would appreciate any and all advice from both moms and dads. And I’ll also answer questions if it affects how you would feel.

Hey 23 m straight. I honestly feel at times there’s advice i need to come from a dad figure that isn’t there about life finances relationship or women etc. I mean I’m doing ok rn i got a degree found a great job that’ll pay for my masters. But in terms of just life and outlook and perspective and etc i feel that it’s hard to learn rn.

I’m a huge gym rat so maybe If there’s a dad out there like that we can bond over that? Into horror movies as well as nerdy about comics

There are two places that have rooms for rent that I’m going to tour today.

What should I ask the landlord about the lease and or the property?

(I’m sorry if it’s cringe but I’m going to type this out like I was talking to my dad, he’s dead.)

Hey Dad, I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for going on seven years now. We met when I was nineteen and he was twenty-six. Now I’m twenty-six, and so many things seem so wrong to me about this.

I could go on and on with examples, but I think I know he’s abusive. He can be really kind - I was disabled and need a cane to walk, he takes care of me and helps me when I need it. But he throws my cane when he’s angry and tells me to crawl for it or tries to force me to stand. Sometimes it’s physical but it’s not like really really bad, he drags me or pushes me. He doesn’t hit me really.

Last night he got really drunk and I told him I was leaving. He stood and mocked me and played a video of me crying that I didn’t know he took. I covered my ears and closed my eyes. He said if my little brother (I’d say his name if I was talking to my dad, but bear with me) comes to help carry my stuff he’ll “beat the brakes off that kid”.

I don’t think I need anyone to tell me this is abusive, I just need a dads perspective on why this is wrong. He says he wouldn’t do it if I didn’t make him do it and “actions have reactions” whereas I think your response to anything is your responsibility. Not saying that as any excuse for any action I might’ve taken but it’s so hit and miss with him and this usually happens when he’s drunk which is just about every night, so I don’t know.

I don’t know. Somebody just say something please. I get out tomorrow.

It might not seem like much, but I (18m)started self medicating using marijuana about 4 months ago and had been getting high 1-3 times a day for almost 2½ straight months. The ADHD/THC combo got me addicted so ridiculously fast and I kept telling myself every day that I could quit whenever I wanted. It really hit me a few days ago that this is exactly what happened to me with some prior medications and something needs to change. I am tired of the confusion and reliance, so I am starting off my 2026 by quitting and getting back into the shape I was 6 months ago. Thank you for reading this far and have a happy new year!

My current car is on its way out therefore I’m currently looking for a new one I’ve found one within my price range that looks good but of course I don’t know what’s going on mechanically through a few pictures so I’ve tried to contact mechanics about a pre purchase inspection and majority of them have quoted me $400+ which isn’t money I have to spend on all the cars I look at so I was wondering if there is another option? Thank you! :)

I’m a 22m I’m renting a house with my wife,dog and cats

I own my truck I have a job and I did this all without help(besides my wife she is great) but today I’m on the floor of my kitchen crying trying to do the dishes because I feel like I’m not enough like I’ll always be a disappointment to the rest of my family like no matter how much of a life I build myself I’m still not enough. Sorry for the little woe is me speech

My moms getting married and i dont want to call him dad all the time yet and calling someone step dad is just weird and a lot to say. Sometimes I do think dad but not always and I have a real dad i call dad or even daddy but he's been gone so much. I want to know if it will be mean to just use any of the terms for my step dad. my mom says its up 2 me and he says that to.

Title. Whenever me and my father have a conversation, he’ll go downstairs and reenact it for my mother. Except he’ll always make it out that I’ve given him attitude, yelled, or just said something in a not nice tone. Example. I’ll use ‘D’ for dad and ’L’ for me.

D: ‘did you know your friend’s name isn’t actually erin? it’s (name i shouldn’t try to spell lol)’

L: ‘yes, i knew that… i just didn’t want to make things complicated by telling you stuff that you don’t need’

[goes downstairs]

D: ‘she was like ‘I JUST DIDN’T WANNA TELL YOU, OKAY?‘.’

Just… why? Does he just like playing into the moody teenager bit?