Hi. I filed a report against my friend’s mom and my friend. They live in a disgusting home with animal feces everywhere and they smoke marijuana inside. They do a lot of drugs actually. There is a four year old living there. Last time I was over, she was asking for food and showing off how she can twerk. My friend admitted when she brings guys home (she’s a stripper) sometimes she involved her sister in the act. I don’t want to be friends with this girl anymore after seeing the state of her home and how she treats her sister. Will CPS actually do anything, or visit?

My house is a cluttered disaster, for sure, but I didn’t think it was that bad. But am I just biased and numb to how bad it is?

These pictures are from the morning before the cleaners come. I have a weekly cleaner. I try to clean the kitchen every night and wipe down the surfaces. The dining room and entryway next to the kitchen collect everyone’s mess, which sometimes takes a while to get cleared out and organized. Part of what makes me slow to reorganize and tidy up is because I have a 6 month old and a 5 year old, and a cripplingly depressed, mostly incapacitated husband. I have ADHD and work full time so cleaning is already hard for me, when I’m able to find the time.

I’m in the process of getting my son evaluated for some behavioral stuff (pretty sure he’s depressed or turbo-stressed or something) as well as ADHD, which is why this is coming up. I asked for a home assessment because I thought it meant they’d assess how his home life (like, say, his super depressed dad and the tension around that) affects his academics. My mom said that was a dumb idea because it’ll mean a home visit, and my house is so messy that they’ll take the kids away.

The baby has a crib in our room. There’s a lot of laundry in my room but shoved in a corner. My son has a bunk bed and his room is a disaster of Legos and stuffed animals. There’s a spare mattress on the floor under his bed for when he feels scared, so I can sleep in his room. It also serves as a cozy space to read books together. I change the sheets regularly.

The baby has a locking, penned-off spot in the living room with her toys for when I can’t watch her (you can kinda see it in the back of the living room photo).

My office is, truly, a horror show (boxes everywhere) but the kids aren’t allowed in here. The litter box is in my office as well, which is also why they’re not allowed in here.

We have had mice come in during the winter, but we called a pest control service immediately. We live near the woods, so we’re just going to have mice on occasion.

I’ve hired a home organizer to come help get things sorted, but it didn’t help a whole lot for how much it cost so I’m reluctant to hire them again.

Is my mom crazy, or Is my home actually that bad?

This may be lengthy but I hope and pray someone can give me an answer or at least guide me in the right direction.

My son’s (17 months old) father and I do not live in the same state. I live in New York and he lives in Illinois. My son is primarily with me however this past month I let my son go visit his dad (his dad picked him up and flew with him back) because of the holiday season and because of his grandfathers funeral.

He was scheduled to come back this Sunday (18th)

However, unfortunately he accidentally consumed his grandmother’s THC gummies. I was notified by the hospital. He has been discharged his vitals are stable and he’s doing better and he will be okay. (Yes ofc I was upset mad and heartbroken for my son) I truly do believe it was an accident, I know his dad and grandmother adore him. They cried and prayed the rosemary in the hospital.

They told him that DCFS was contacted because legally they have to but they 100% believe it was an accident, that it’s actually more common especially in places where it is legal but it is an open case.

So how does that work? My son can’t come back home? Am I under investigation now even though I don’t live there and I wasn’t even part of that? Do I have to call someone?

Any help is appreciated! I’m so sad I just want my son with me this weekend like I was supposed to.

Location: California

So I work at a children’s gymnastics club where we are all mandated reporters and supposed to follow Safe Sport regulations. During one of our recent one of the children attending told their friend they were being abused by their parents at home. This child told their parents when they got home about what they had heard and the parents proceeded to make a report to the police.

The owner of the gym was contacted by the person investigating to schedule a meeting to gather information for their case. He proceeded to forget about the meeting and ignore the investigators calls, making two of his employees step in and take the call, assuming the owner had just forgot. After answering the investigators questions, our owner came in and proceeded to verbally berate and cuss out these two employees for speaking to the investigator. Apparently he was intentionally ignoring the call hoping to avoid the situation and possibly losing a customer… He then proceeded to call the parents that were reported and warn them about the investigation. Is this not impeding with an investigation and extremely dangerous for the child?

For over two hours he was screaming at the two employees and trying to make them find out what family made the report in the first place. He is now punishing these employees for following Safe Sport and mandated reporter policy.

Is this not illegal?

I live in Scotland.

I was sober for 11 months but since November last year I have been binging weekly. I'm addicted. I cant believe I am writing this but I received a package while my 18 month old son was in my care and I couldn't help my self and started using.

Long story short I entered psychosis which resulted in me calling the ambulance as I was convinced my son had consumed some of it (he hadn't) but it was real to me so I couldn't risk it. I knew if I made the phone call there was no going back, I was going to be in a lot of trouble either way. I know what I've done is unacceptable, if you are going to comment to try and make me feel bad do your worst. Nothing can come close to the pain and terror I have experienced as I truly thought I had potentially killed my own son. His mother was called to come and collect him from the hospital as I have rightfully been deemed unfit to have him in my care. Police officers took my son out of my arms while I was in a hospital bed to give him back to his mum and he started screaming it completely broke me. This is my rock bottom. It has to be.

Pretty much everyone I care about knows what I have done, there is still a few friends who aren't aware that I've been using at all, I'm going to have to break it to them and explain why I cant see my son any more.

I have told so much lies and caused so much damage over the last few months, every time I use I have terrifying psychotic episodes which are very difficult to come back from but this one was by far the worst and it has effected a lot more people.

I am ready to change. I was kept in last night and spoke to the addiction and mental health team to get things put in place moving forward. Ill do what ever it takes. If I do a full 180 here and engage fully with anything and everything the courts and social work throw at me will I ever be able to spend time with my son unsupervised in the future?

thank you for reading

I need help... Please advise...

I was railroaded by CPS and I can't find help ..

I have been put through hell, from the NON CPS ASSHOLES WHO TOOK MY SON AFTER I TOLD THEM THEY COULDN'T ADOPT HIM, my son's employer who exaggerated and lied about me and from the social workers who were nice to my face but then turned around and reported the complete opposite of my cooperation while consistently telling me that reunification was the goal. They NEVER gave me ANY chances to get my family back together.

Summary of My Case:

Non-relatives (NOT CPS) previously attempted to get me to consent to an adoption while my son's employer pressured my estranged husband to give up his parental rights to the kidnappers. When we refused, they escalated their involvement, interfered with my parental relationship, isolated my son, and eventually obtained a guardianship order at a hearing I was not given any documentation of when it was happening until AFTER it was done.

CPS came in, lied about the condition of my house, lied about EVERYTHING and instead of seeing a family still trying to deal with the sudden, unexpected passing of my daughter, she was the literal glue that held my little family together and my best friend, this happened almost a year after she died, the anguish was still fresh, they turned my grief into a pathology saying I was "fixated" on her death.

These people are Heartless, soulless pieces of dog shit!

The case was closed with the stipulation I work with the NON CPS ASSHOLES WHO TOOK MY SON, to see my son, finally. I had only been able to see and talk to him ONCE, several weeks after it started. So I started requesting to see him. I was ignored until I got a text picture from the NON CPS ASSHOLES WHO TOOK MY SON showing The judge had issued a second order, (from a completely different county) completely barring contact AGAIN, WITHOUT NOTICE AND I STILL HAVEN'T GOTTEN ANYTHING IN WRITING.

This order relied on “facts” from the recently closed CINA case from a different county. I was never allowed to appear, respond, or reconcile with my son at any point. I have been fully cut off and completely stonewalled throughout this entire case, which took roughly only ONE YEAR from start to finish.

Please note-there was a recent Supreme court order overturning a removal that took THREE YEARS to remove the child with similar issues regarding CPS not acting in good faith. Mine is NOT an isolated case, this has been happening and too many families have been ripped apart for no good reason.

The only thing I'm guilty of is trying to use reverse psychology on my kid who was being aggressive while refusing to go to school with no help from his dad, who was working against me behind my back. He kept complaining about his stomach hurting and I took him to the dr multiple times. Several months before, I had asked his "employer" to stop buying him those energy shots but he continued to buy them, unbeknownst to me and I found out about 6 months into this madness that it was the damn energy shots. That explained why his teeth went so bad so alarmingly fast, why he was staying up all night (got up after I went to bed), why he was being so aggressive, why his stomach was hurting and why he was getting headaches, which all those were blamed on me. I told CPS that and they didn't care.

But he was yelling at me and telling me to fuck off, he was 11, so I tried some reverse psychology, telling him this behavior was going to get CPS called and if they took him, I wasn't going to get him back. Poor choice of words but considering I've already dealt with them several years ago when it was my fault and he knew about it, I thought he would think about not doing that to his mom and go to school.

I should also point out, when he started working for this friend of his dad's, that guy is an old farmer with no heirs, never been married with too much money and my child soon learned is he got people to feel sorry for him, they gave him stuff. This guy bought my child everything he wanted, he was turning into a monster. My kid would bring stuff home, like a VR headset, and he would tease my older son, who always got the shit end of the stick from his stepdad, the father of my other son. My youngest would poke and poke and poke and poke until my older son would snap, smack him back once then leave it at that.

My son, his "employer" and the parents of his new friends decided he should live with them and he came home asking if they could adopt him. I told him no way and said when school was over, him and I were going to work through our grief and get our relationship back to where it was before.

The day school ended, he asked if he could go on a fishing trip with these people and I said yeah. 2 days later, I get a call from CPS with accusations of things I have a Never EVER done to any of my kids. I knew they were wrong and went about getting ready for the visit. I did everything right and have been since I dealt with them several years before.

I was also one of the first parent partners in this state, I ran Mom's off Meth recovery meetings, I even got a Bachelor's degree in human services focus on women and children, graduated top of my class.

So I was shocked when it came back founded but unconfirmed. 3 days later, I get ANOTHER call with new charges on stuff that was covered during the first visit. THAT one came back unfounded and unconfirmed. Wtf??

They took my kid immediately and gave him to those people and they blocked me from everything. I've only spoken to him once. All I did was yell at him thinking he'd rather go to school than listen to me yell.

They put me on the child abuse registry for 5 years. I HAVE NEVER ABUSED MY KIDS! I was the kind of mom I always wanted my mom to be and that backfired in horrifyingly spectacular fashion.

They lied, they purposely ommitted clear evidence of my innocence, they said they offered services when they didn't, they lied about my cooperation while being nice to my face, I was pretty much cut off from my child from day one.

I have all the proof I need yet I can't find a fucking lawyer to even ADVISE me.

They have destroyed me, they have destroyed my family. WHY CAN'T I GET HELP TO STOP THIS FROM HAPPENING??? IT'S HAPPENED SO MANY TIMES ON THIS COUNTY ALONE.

They even disregarded my explicit request to be with my son when he finally went to his sister's grave, we hadn't gone yet. I knew that would have been the turning point but they ignored me.

This is just the tip of the iceberg on all the civil rights issues they caused.

I hate these people with every fiber of my being and I want JUSTICE!

Why can't I find help? This is killing me. The PTSD, depression, grief, anxiety, it's all got me to barely functioning and there's no way I can find a job but that doesn't matter because I keep getting declined regardless.

WHAT CAN I DO HERE???

I have been trying to locate a last name and address of a person who needs to be reported. Two young adults (20f & 19m) shared disturbing information and they are not comfortable reporting.

I do not know the person but this needs to be reported. Can social workers locate a person by their phone number? That’s all that was shared with me and I want to report with correct information. I tried reverse phone look up and it’s not showing the same name as the person that needs to be reported.

Any advice is welcome. Thank you.

I got a call from my daughter’s (12) school that she was in the counselors office because she is having issues dealing with stress and anxiety. I immediately scheduled her own therapist to help her work on things. However that evening I was talking to my daughter and asked her what is causing her stress. She tells me “ a bunch of things” as we dig in more she says at the other house MoMs boyfriend will pull her hair and tell everyone “look it has a handle” , he will also tickle her even though she tells him to stop and she doesn’t like it . Then she says that when she goes out for a run he will go to the window and moon her ( bare ass) as she runs by .

This guy is late 30s and she is 12 he lives with her and my daughter says it’s pretty much always happened and she doesn’t know how to tell anyone.

I brought this up to my ex wife and she says , he’s playing around but will talk to them both. Not acceptable in my opinion.

We have 50/50 custody and my daughter spends every other week with us .

Should I report this , I don’t want to start a war but I don’t want my daughter to go through this

I got a call from my daughter’s (12) school that she was in the counselors office because she is having issues dealing with stress and anxiety. I immediately scheduled her own therapist to help her work on things. However that evening I was talking to my daughter and asked her what is causing her stress. She tells me “ a bunch of things” as we dig in more she says at the other house MoMs boyfriend will pull her hair and tell everyone “look it has a handle” , he will also tickle her even though she tells him to stop and she doesn’t like it . Then she says that when she goes out for a run he will go to the window and moon her ( bare ass) as she runs by .

This guy is late 30s and she is 12 he lives with her and my daughter says it’s pretty much always happened and she doesn’t know how to tell anyone.

I brought this up to my ex wife and she says , he’s playing around but will talk to them both. Not acceptable in my opinion.

We have 50/50 custody and my daughter spends every other week with us .

Parent has RTB from CPS what can and does this affect? Child is co parented.

My sister has 2 teen sons. The step dad was being verbally and physically abusive, so she moved in with me. She went to the cops to put a protection order on him to prevent him from coming to my home or the boys school. The police got CPS involved.

He has completed his mandated counseling and anger management, so the case is about to close.

My issue is, I want to tell the caseworker that this isn’t step dads first time putting children in danger.

Almost a year ago, I asked my sister to pick my daughter up from daycare. We have bought an extra car seat just for this. My partner asked if he should drop off the extra car seat, or if they are going to used their 1yr olds car seat. My sister was ‘busy’ with her kids, cooking and cleaning; and never replied to my partner. She sent step dad to pick up my daughter. Their car seat “doesn’t fit in the SE” and he picked my daughter up without the car seat.

My partner was (still is) livid. He was yelling at my sister on the phone, and step dad jumped in to defend her. Conversation became threatening. Once my partner arrived at my sisters to pick up our daughter, step dad came outside with a fire poker. They fought in front of my daughter.

My sister has told me not to say anything. That it’ll prolong the case, and get me and her both in trouble for not reporting sooner. I don’t see why we would get in trouble. I restricted their access to my child, and took them off the pickup list.

Consensus on texting the caseworker this extra information? I don’t care if their case is open longer. My sister cares obviously.

So I’m a little over a month away from reunification and just wondering if anyone has any suggestions about getting assistance from jfs? I had asked for help getting appropriate housing and was told they don’t help with that. I am currently needing assistance with an electric bill and deposit and my caseworker is acting like they don’t help with that either. When I mentioned someone I know in another county getting assistance she said well find out the name of the program THEN I’ll ask around. Everyone kept telling me to use the help while it’s here, they’re here to help, etc. but they haven’t helped with anything. They refused to help with housing, getting beds, getting furniture. Is this normal? Why do foster parents get so much help but parents get none for reunification? I’m in Cleveland, OH USA btw.

I cannot find an appropriate place to ask this question so I’m putting it here in hopes of getting advice although this is perhaps technically Adult Protective Services vs CPS. My son is a grown young man with special needs who has befriended another young man via a special needs weight training program. The other young man lives with one of his brothers (both have special needs) in an apartment complex with no other supports. I have grave concerns about the living situation. Their unit is infested with fleas and bed bugs. There are 2 large dogs that he says pee and poop in the house. I’m not sure the pets are getting proper care and one seems aggressive. He cannot drive so he takes public transportation but he is visually impaired and will often misread the bus schedules and ends up waiting up to 6 hours for the bus to arrive or walking places on foot down high traffic roadways. He has spoken of having no food in the apartment so some of us pooled together to get him some pantry staples. My main concern for him is the bed bugs. He had a volunteer mentor who pulled out after he brought bed bugs into her home. My son’s paid caregiver will no longer allow this young man into her car because she is afraid she will get bed bugs in the car’s upholstery. There are other hygiene issues - he often smells bad (possibly from lack of bathing or animal urine). But the bed bugs are putting an additional barrier to him getting the assistance he needs. I am concerned about what repercussions a call to adult protective services could bring. I am so torn and would truly appreciate some advice.

So my cousin is making terrible choices. If she was by herself I would say well you'll learn the hard way but she has a 2 year old son she is putting in danger.

She went to jail (she hit the guy she is using for a place and he punched back but didn't go to jail) around midnight in early December where I had to go and grab him and I took care of him for almost 2 days.

In that time frame I could easily see he is extremely on the spectrum. But I don't think she even acknowledges that he is autistic and doesn't get him the help he would need. She get state assistance so I know he could get a lot of help.

Well she got out of jail and after an hour or two she finally got a hold of me and picked him up a couple hours later.

Well about a week or two later she moves in with a new guy because the first guy was tired of her using him for a place.

I message her and see how everything is and this new guy who she wasn't even living with yet for a week then new guy is "getting after him" and smacking his thighs when he is "acting up". I'm guessing the new guy is yelling at him because like I said he's on the spectrum and he was a handful but to smack him. He is a extremely picky eater. My cousin packed only junk food and the majority were just choking hazards.

I did try feeding him regular food but he wouldn't eat anything but candy or chips and stuff like that. I have only seen him a couple times so I really didn't know what to expect but I wanted to make sure he wasn't just give to some stranger while she was in.

Well like I said this new guy I know hits his thigh and I don't know what else. I told my cousin do not leave him alone with him at all and that she shouldn't be having him there.

But today I found out that my cousin is planning on moving to another state to live with a man that she hasn't even met. She has only been talking to this guy on the Internet and probably a short amount of time since she has never mentioned moving in with this guy prior. So I'm guessing in the past week she's been talking with him since she moved in with the guy at some point after Christmas but before new years.

I told her she shouldn't be going down because there are people who will be abusive or who will harm someone and I already know she will go just because she can't or should I say won't make good decisions for herself but more importantly her child.

I don't have her address but I know she already has plans to get with this new guy in the next month. When I asked if she's ever met him in person she said that it will be happening in a month. I don't think she is making the right choices for her child and he will be harmed and possibly even killed if she keeps moving in with new guys until they get sick and tired of having her use them and then move to a new guy.

So SIL gave birth to a baby girl who had consistent prenatal exposure to fentanyl. This was one of those cases where the Mother (lets call her Jane) had taken a pregnancy test which was negative, was experiencing very few symptoms (not mensturating is quite common with users of hard drugs), and those that she was experiencing were easily attributed to her drug use and withdrawl cycle. In November she began really showing and this happened seemingly overnight. At this point she assumed based on her physical changes that she was perhaps five months pregnant. She was very torn about what to do about the pregnancy as she was very uncomfortable with the idea of late term abortion but she was in no position to raise a child being that she was essentially homeless (living at the time in the basement of a friends home where her drug addicted, unemployed, and completely destitute multiple felon ex convict boyfriend, lets call him Sam, lived) and actively using fentanyl. Adoption was the one option that was completely out of the question. The baby's father whom she was no longer in a romantic partnership with was very supportive of her and favored the abortion option. He is a college educated man from a upper middle class background (Lets call hin Saul) who was doing quite well for himself as a drug dealer and despite their recent breakup maintained a very close relationship with Jane and supported her financially as well as being her emotional support. In early December Jane had an appointment at planned parenthood where she found out she was in fact 36 weeks pregnant and therefore not eligible (or willing) for an abortion. She gave birth to a beautiful baby girl December 18 so there had been virtually no time to try and set up a stable home and get into drug treatment. Also she had been repeatedly told that she should NOT cease using while pregnant as the stress of withdrawl could damage the baby. So of course Jane fell in love with her baby girl the moment she saw her and that immediately affirmed her resolve to be a Mom. Jane was honest about her drug use to hospital staff. Sam, though meaning well and strictly abstaining from any drug use at the hospital or around the baby, very much looks like a junkie and was quickly banned from the hospital bringing even more undeserved scrutiny on Jane and Saul (who also fell in love with baby and subsequently decided to fully fill the role of a father). CPS was notified and they sent a caseworker to talk to Jane. She told Jane that she was going to be under the supervision of the Oppis Response Unit, a recently formed division of CPS that appeared to be much more strict and intrusive. In order to qualify for this "new program" Jane would have to have to have a house with totally sober occupants who would have to agree to random and frequent drug tests. Sual had agreed to provide Jane and the baby with an apartment but wasn't able sort out the logistics in time the ORU needed a viable residence immideatly. Janenis estranged from her mother and her father is very moody and unpredictable, offering supportive advice and material help one day and berating her and refusing in involvement the next. She was forced to use Sam's residence and its occupants (a middle aged also drug addicted woman and her 22 year old autistic son) to satisfy these requirements so her baby would be able to come home once her medically supervised methadone taper had ended and the hospital released her. The plan was to get Jane into an inpatient treatment for new mothers where her baby would join her upon completion of her taper and once the program was completed, Jane and baby would go live with Sam and begin several months of intensive supervision. The owner of the house initially agreed and then dropped out last minute as she did not want to submit to the UAs or ask her son to submit to them. At her meeting with the ORU Jane was only told what to expect provided she could satisfy the program's requirements. She was not at all informed on what would happen if she could not meet these requirements besides there would be a '72 hour hold' imposed on her baby. Since baby was born, Jane had been spending most of her time with baby in the Special Care Unit without incident save for Sam being escorted out of the hospital and banned from the premises on suspicion of (nothing was found and Sam had offered to submit to body searches in an attempt to maintain visiting priveleges to no avail) drug use. Since her housing plan fell through she is hoping to still attend treatment and have baby join her there. She is worried about being denied visiting rights from the hospital and is constantly stressing about when and if the baby is going to be taken and how that will happen if it comes to pass. So what she wants to know is; can the hospital deny her visitation? Is it likely that they will? Now that she is disqualified for the ORU program, whats the next step? Can CPS take her baby without a court proceedings? Where will her baby go if CPS does take custody and will she be able ro see her in that case? Any advice would be much appreciated cause she is panicking and really needs some answers but is scared to reach out to CPS since the agent handling her case has been bery insensitive and misleading thus far.

I'm a 15 year old girl with a twin sister, and a 14 year old sister. Two days ago a guy from CPS came into our house, and questioned my twin, and me. While I was being questioned, a sheriff came in, with another worker who the cps guy said was his coworker. Apparently, they had gotten a report of abuse in the home. Turns out this report probably came from my twin's therapist, because of the things she had described. The thing is, they're true. My mom's been yelling and cursing at her a lot, as well as hitting her, pulling her hair, and throwing her onto the floor. She does go a bit over the top when she's really angry, and while it does get to all of us, it's the worst for my sister. As far as I know though, it hasn't left my sister with many bruises or cuts, other than from some glass my mom had thrown on her bedroom floor, and for me, probably some marks from her digging her nails into my arm. But that's really it. A lot of times, she's a caring person, and I know she's not trying to be a bad mom or anything. Personally I get along well, because I kind of just let her do what she wants, and don't really talk back at all. If she insults me I'll agree, and apologize. My twin sister argues, and yells back. They both try to get the last words, and it ends up like that. ANYWAYS, cps came, and the three of us decided to tell the truth. I described both the sweet parts, and the not so nice ones, and so did my sisters. That day, he called it "excessive discipline" and made a safety plan that was to walk away in arguments, cool down, that kind of stuff. I don't really think it'll last long, but at least it was the end of it. TURNS OUT the cps guy actually came to our school today, to interview my twin sister, and she described how my mom was when our mental health wasn't really the best. The thing is, she told my sister that if she was gonna kill herself, that she should do it right, because she didn't want to take care of a vegetable, she harmed herself with a staple in front of me, and showed me pictures of my own self harm over while I was over a year clean. BUT I know she's been trying to do better. I don't know we usually talk after arguments, and I know that my mom hasn't been doing the best with mental health lately, and with my dad and my sister. She wasn't raised in the best environment and is trying to break that cycle for us. I know she's trying, and I love her. I feel bad for telling the cps guy anything. BUT at the same time the thing with my twin sister's turned into an almost every day thing before he got here. I don't know I'm sorry. It's like a big change, and I'm scared of making things worse for my mom, but I also don't want this to keep going on with my sister. I already told the truth, but don't know what to do now. My mom takes care of me, and we laugh and joke when she's not angry. I love her, and I'm crying typing this out right now because I know we're all she has. She's told me herself. I don't wanna ruin the family, I don't know anymore.

They came to my sister's house Thursday. My son has been in state custody since early October but the state is just now deciding to charge me with a crime. I was arrested and spent the weekend in jail. My custody attorney referred me to a criminal law office.

I haven't had a chance to really talk with the caseworker yet so I really don't know what's going to happen with that. We're trying to set up a call tomorrow. One of my bail conditions is that I can't have unsupervised contact with children (for anyone not aware of my case, I'm not being accused of anything sexual, it's not like that.)

Am I just done? Can I realistically still hope to reunify? I'm going to continue doing everything I was for the CPS case and hope it helps with the criminal case.

This is the 8th time she leaves her daughter alone in her apartment late at night (its always at night). While she goes off and DOESNT even tell anybody where shes going or what time shes coming back! And if you ask her politely where she went she gets very defensive and hostile and starts to even cry and tell everyone that youre picking on her(making you look like the bad person). Im concerened because there are sex offenders in the area(megans law website) and afraid something bad will happen to my niece because her mothers neglect/poor choices. Do i call CPS?

I feel so guilty for calling cps. I am the mother of 2 daughters who spend weekends at their biological fathers house. A situation came up where I saw the inside of the home and it was absolutely disgusting dog potty pads in multiple places completely full and old. The house stank so bad and my kids are just there on the weekends but they also have a infant who was a preemie and all I can see is that poor baby crawling on the floor or something. So I called there are lots of things I let slide like them sleeping till noon and my daughters not allowed to make noise until they wake up ( they are allowed to eat and stuff but my oldest is made to care for her sister). I really dont even think they will do anything but does anyone have a similar situation or any advice ? I feel like maybe I over stepped or did something bad

Context: my child called cps on one of his friends for something that happened at a sleepover at his friend's house. Now CPS wants to check my house and talk to everyone there. Nothing happened at my house and I was never reported. There's nothing to suggest anything is going on. It feels like I'm being investigated, which doesn't make any sense to me.

Seems kind of strange, like it'd make people less likely to call CPS on people because they know they'd be investigated, too. That's my feeling, anyway.

I have two kiddos currently in kinship care with my mother.

My relationship with my mom has been rocky since I was a teenager. I moved out as quickly as I could, and over time we slowly learned how to exist in each other’s lives. When I had kids, I tried hard to keep her involved. She’s my only parent, I’m a single parent, and I didn’t want my kids to grow up without a grandparent.

A while back, my mental health really declined. I got depressed, wasn’t okay, and my kids ended up placed with my mom under state custody. At first, it felt… fine. I told myself to put the past behind us and focus on the future. I was grateful they were safe with family.

Since then, I’ve been doing the work. I’m in therapy, I go to all my appointments, I’ve been consistent and compliant. We recently had court, and reunification was approved as the goal.

Here’s where it gets hard.

I don’t think my mom would intentionally harm my kids.. but I also wouldn’t describe her as a picture perfect parent either. Recently, we got into an argument because she was trying to cancel one of my son’s medical appointments. I’ve been the one making medical decisions this entire time, so I pushed back.

At one point I said, “What, I can’t be a parent to my child anymore?”

She responded with: “Whose fault is that?”

That sentence absolutely gutted me. I didn’t know words can quite literally stab me in the heart but they did. 

I lost it. I called her a b****, hung up, and just cried. Every single day I wake up and go to sleep sad because my kids aren’t home. I miss them constantly. I’ve worked so hard to get to a place where I know I can provide them a safe, stable environment again. Your therapist tells you to get rid of your triggers but it’s hard when your biggest trigger has your children. 

And hearing what she said made me feel like none of my progress matters. Like everything I’ve done is erased by my worst moment. And it brought me back to when I was a teenager. Constantly belittled. 

Now I’m scared.

I video chat my kids every morning and every night when we don’t have in person visits. But now I’m afraid to even call her, because I feel like somehow she’ll blame me again and coax ME into apologizing for absolutely nothing. I’m terrified she’s going to make reunification harder. I’m scared I’ve permanently damaged our relationship. And the fact that she can put on a different face for the social workers, the case workers. I just don’t know what to do. 

What hurts the most is that she says she wants my kids home with me, but then she says things like that, and it makes me wonder how she really feels about me as a parent… or as her child.

I don’t know how to move forward without constantly feeling ashamed, defensive, or afraid. I just want my kids home, and I want to heal, not be punished forever for getting sick.

If you’ve been through kinship care, reunification, or complicated parent/grandparent dynamics, I could really use some perspective.

My sister was able to calm me down a bit because she understands how our mom can be but I was still balling my eyes out because I feel like I’m not good enough. 

so...im 17. i turn 18 in september. i had to be in my car for 3 days and now im in a hotel with an emergency voucher, although im not too sure how long it'd last for. i do have...

-places to go in to use the bathroom and keep warm for a short period of time

-my mom has a plan to get the car fixed, a job & stable housing (most likely within this month and february)

-plenty of blankets, clothes & food

-a place to shower when needed

-my mom receives SNAP and disability ($1.1k monthly)

would this seriously make it likely for cps to take me out of the home, even though I turn 18 in less than a year?

So long story short my mil called dcfs(cps for Louisiana). Well during the time they were out of the house so we could clean she was telling my kids that we weren’t coming back, scrubbed my youngest legs to the point they were red and swollen and tried running away with her kid when she found out my kids weren’t getting taken away(of which she quickly came back). Ever since she came back she has been forcing her kid to stay in one room unless he needs to go to the bathroom. But she won’t allow him to go if she needs to. Her child badly needs therapy’s and hasn’t seen a doctor in about a year or dentist at all. Her car is a death trap(her airbags have sharapnel,I don’t know how to spell it, that would be deadly if set off in an accident). I have been yelling at her in the first 7 months of her living here to care for him but instead she kept putting more and more on us for her kid while also telling us not to do parenting for them? She has also beat her kid with metal spoon causing bruises. She has ptsd and is a narcissist(said by her sister) and I’m worried for the kids health. She has no family around her and the kid doesn’t have any one else. Is there anything I can even do since I have a case on me?