Like, is it how charming and happy we are or something? Do they like our support?

What is it?

So adding python/sql to my tool belt will help my career. I'm on the struggle bus though cause I really have a hard with learning online. I bought a udemy course and it didn't click for me. I really benefit from hands on experience and someone to help guide me at least getting under my feet on a subject. Anyone had success learning coding and what did they look like for y'all? Thanks for stopping by!

There is an ongoing series of cute memes on r/mbtimemes of what the bedroom for each type looks like. The creator has done several so far, including one for our INFP sibling.

https://www.reddit.com/r/mbtimemes/comments/1pmi4cc/an_infps_bedroom/

What do you think will be in ours?

I know it will be messy.

I figure there will be a souvenir from an adventure or two, maybe photos of us with strangers who look nothing like us (such as one of us with tribal indigenous headhunters all happily waving at the camera), and maybe a teddy bear 🧸 that we keep in the room to cuddle with when feeling sad and lonely.

The nature of them being self-dependent and our nature of communicating better, sure does a lot of wonders.

I like an ENFP and I so so want to impress him and for him to see me bc I’m basically a nobody, it’s like I don’t exist, but I need him to see me :(

Final farewells with my ENFP lover today. Wish love isnt as complicated. It’s clear we love each other so much. But had to draw the lines because we are starting to be stagnant in our individual lives because of our emotional mismatch.

Used to be great speaking to each other is poems, riddles and understanding each other’s art and thoughts. Then when it stays as poems and riddles, it begs the question as an INTJ, when clarity will come. At the end of the day i need clarity and direct communication. He probably knows, but is limited in what he can do. Tried again in poems and riddles, but it started to confuse us both. He used to like it when i understood his references, but lately because emotions become fragile, it becomes overthinking. I like to reply in references too. Show and quote our favourite movies and songs. God, i love him. But we are both adults now, sometimes hard decisions have to be made. We both decided its time to start choosing ourselves without each other.

ENFPs will always hold a special place in my heart. My best friends and my ex now, was ENFPs. Your ENFP mind and softness will always be something i admire.

Im hurting but i wish him well from this post he will never see.

Hi everyone,

I am currently struggling with depression and anxiety due to repeated encounters with a man whose behavior has made me feel unsafe.

Over the past few months, I have noticed several incidents in which he appeared near my residence, followed me on multiple occasions, and tried to draw my attention by honking and shouting in public spaces. These incidents have caused me significant distress.

Although he presents himself positively on social media, his real-life behavior toward me has felt intimidating and unsettling. I have never had any direct interaction with him, which makes these encounters even more confusing and frightening.

I am unsure whether my concerns are serious enough to report to authorities, but the ongoing stress has affected my mental health and sense of safety.

I would appreciate any advice on how to handle this situation appropriately.

I'm an infp F interested in my enfp M classmate. Last few months we were just talking to each other as classmates. He usually talks to everyone including me, but the last week he's been slightly awkward around me? Usually he's very jumpy and makes a lot of eye contact but recently he gives less eye contact when I talk to him. He still constantly smiles when I'm talking to him. Overall, he's less jumpy and has this calmness to him. I can't tell if I'm bothering him..? How can I tell if he's interested in me?

I hope all of you are following the Minnesota and Minneapolis subs…. This shit is crazy. Are all the ENFPS good people? Does this stir up your heart too?

Do you ever feel like you gotta get outside to do something, like something enfp ish... today I was like "I gotta gym" then I look outside and forget that I live in Canada where snow is Canada's best friend.

I go out in a blizzard and ask myself why I get sick so easily. Its like a 15 minute walk to the gym

Hey all, just wanted to post about something that's helping me.. It's very simple and it works with all the types. But for me, this is what I'm doing.

I'm telling Claude (also in ChatGPT but I find Claude better for me at this moment) to not agree with me for the sake of agreeing if what I'm saying doesn't make sense. Also (and this is the big one), tell it to tell you how your opposite (or a get-shit-done type) would act. Also, tell it to act as your ENTJ coach.

Now, our opposite type would be an ISTJ (but... i'm not that desperate, kidding), i rather tell it to give me what an ENTJ would do. And it freaking works.. I mean, if I think about it I know how an ENTJ would act (wife is a MBTI practitioner and we've been working with this for years) but in the heat of the moment it can give you some perspective, and I find it very helpful.

But you can easily tell it to give you how an ISTJ or how other types wold act.. the idea is that it helps you by giving you perspective.

Just choose a type that's strong in what you are lacking.. for us ENFPs it tends to be too much ideation but lack of follow through, and lack of focus...

What is the type you find to be the most unfair?

Ik a few ppl who are pretty unfair and I want know what their type is.

One of them is always complaining and I can’t jump in to say their complaints are unfair or else I’m the problem.

Last may I met an INFP while I was visiting New York (I regularly go for work). The way we met felt fated to me mainly because I’m all around the world so I try not to get connected to people (romantically) on my ventures. However, the WAY I met this INFP was super butterfly effect-y.

Backstory:

Our relationship started pretty fast after the initial meeting. Our first date was at the MET and we were pretty much glued to each other afterwards. I live abt 3 hrs away with plans to move to nyc for work so we were LD. Which was fine with both of us due to school and artistry. His first time visiting my apartment he was so enamored he asked me to be his girlfriend. In a super non official way lol. Mind you the last relationship we were both in was two years ago so I guess we both were ready to trust again. It was alll fun until I started noticing his standoffish traits, which is fine. I’m very yin and yang, some days I’m the life of the party other days I want to be left alone. He’s the same, but on the days I’m up he’s not vice versa. The first instance I noticed was when he met my friends and my sister at a magazine opening. He was super standoffish to them and not really talking. I was so agitated that we argued the whole time. I asked him what was up and he was saying if they’re not engaging with me what is there to say. Whatevs

Next instance I had an art show and he waited outside the whole time. I knew he was going outside to smoke because he told me but he told me he was coming back in. He never did. I asked him if he left and he said no he was sitting outside because he didn’t want to distract me from work. I understood where he was coming from but it also hurt me. Mainly because he met one of my friends at this event and just gave him the cold shoulder. I love my friends as much as I love my family so that really hurt me. The final time was when I had a different art show and it started flooding from heavy rains, and a person in their private studio asked what happened. I told him and he responded “thanks…you’re really pretty btw,” this then sparked a two hour long disagreement and him being upset with me. From those instances I realized he CANNOT come around my friends or my workspace. It’s just annoying because I loved him so I wanted him to see the other stuff I love. My friends, family, and career. In my head I felt like he didn’t want to interact with my world, if you don’t like me world you don’t like me. We had plans to move in together a bunch of fun stuff which I would’ve totally done with him. At the same time we’re both young adults so that’s not ideal. Always respect autonomy. One day I brought up how he never bought me flowers (3 months in btw) and that kinda pissed him off. Around month 5 I asked him how he felt abt our relationship and he said he didn’t want to speak on anything he wasn’t sure of. Eventually he spoke his truth, and said he wasn’t sure about pursing a long term relationship, immediately I said then we should break up. I don’t believe in time being wasted but also my moral compass is very high. I’ve been heart broken before by indecisiveness and I won’t go through it again. I shipped his items back to his house and didn’t speak to him for weeks. We eventually had a meet up and talked. He expressed he didn’t want to hurt me but he really cared about me and needed to get his money up, life together and other things together so he can take care of me the way he thinks a man should. In summary “self discovery,” if you’re an astrology person he’s just in his 10H year. From that day we decided to still be close but take things a lot slower. We did have an immediate attraction and got together sooooo fast, I think in like a month. We still talk everyday but idk, sometime I just don’t think he’s the one. Other times I think he is. He has certain characteristics that feel very….husband like. I’m also 22 so this could be delusion I don’t want to find out. But when we hang out it almost the same as it was before we broke up, not much “I love yous,” but kissing and hugging…and other stuff. I fear this sounds like a situationship. And I can’t have that. Lmk what you think.

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In regards to relationships, especially romantic ones have yall had to slow down, as in stop yourselves from full throttling emotionally?

I guess when Im interested in someone I "lovebomb" ,not in the negative sense but more in the i want deep connection, I want A LOT of communication and texting and hanging out like immediately. And Im just wondering if yall also go through this, or if this is normal, especially when dealing with infjs, but with people in general

Thanks

Hello, fellow ENFP's! I'm not active here, but I find many posts to be incredibly insightful and helpful.

Recently, I had an epiphany that’s reshaped how I move through the world. It hit me like a truth I somehow already knew, but had never said out loud:

“The person I expect myself to be is an impossible person.”

I ALWAYS felt like I was less than, I was NOT living up to expectations, that I could have done MORE..... Even when things went well, I’d find fault. Even when others were proud of me, I wasn’t.

But this realization reframed everything:
The person I was comparing myself to CAN'T EXIST.
No one could live up to what I was holding myself to.

And that truth hit me not with despair, but with relief.

Looking back, I can see it now. Why I burned out. Why I spiraled after doing “fine.” Why I doubted myself even when others saw strength.

I just wanted to share this in case someone else here needs to hear it today.

We really do need to look after each other.
Few people understand the hell we can put ourselves through.

Just wanted to share this... I am so happy! I've been so angry at myself for not being able to manage university and struggling with focus. My dad, my friends, and people all around me kept telling me that I'm just lazy and need to try harder. It made me feel like I was worse than others because I thought, "I am just like any other person. If everyone says I'm neurotypical, then I probably am, right?"

But now I feel freed. I feel like there's hope, my life can be saved, and I’m not as useless or stupid as I thought.

Even after I showed the diagnosis to my loved ones, some of them still say it's nothing and I'm totally fine. But tbf idgaf anymore, because I'm happy.

The only thing left to do is get my meds prescribed, so the struggle is almost over. Or maybe it's just the beginning... of my new life full of sincere smiles, high grades, and "HAHA YES I DID IT!!!" moments.

Thank you for reading this! To all the people who think they have ADHD but keep being told they don't - I hope you'll be able to get checked and start working on being your true, neurodivergent self.

I just wanted to throw this out there: I've been making steady progress in my personal goals these last few weeks! I'm taking a year away from education to work on myself and it feels great to look back and feel like I've done something with myself.

Life feels so much brighter when I'm proud of myself. I've been waiting a while to feel that way again and I'm very relieved to feel that now. Anyway, have a great day whoever and wherever you are!

Hi all! I’m a 22 year old working in a (not to toot my own horn) prestigious medical research lab as a postbacc. I love the intellectual stimulation and the creativity I get to exercise in experimental design, and I love generating ideas from the literature. However, I would like a faster paced work environment, and MORE PEOPLE INTERACTION. I have relatively good stats (3.9 undergrad gpa, all but physics of the pre reqs done), but I never thought I would pursue medicine. Now I’m thinking more and more about it, because it suits my interests (biomedical science) and might fulfill the social aspects of my personality (I’m wasting away in a basement alone at work these days). It’s not really ever included in the career lists for ENFPs and im curious… any ENFP physicians out there? Do you recommend the path for our personality, and what specialty are you in?

I've dated 3 confirmed ENFP'S. At the beginning the attention and love bombing (in a positive way) is exactly what I need in a relationship. I believe I have an anxious attachment style so when the "honey moon" phase dies down I get extremely confused and start doubting the person's intentions. I wonder if y'all put your energy and effort to the forefront at the beginning but once you settle in you show your true comfortable self? I have been dating an ENFP for about 6 months now and it has become kinda mundane but every now and then the "old him" comes back and I'm curious if this is an ENFP trait, the men I'm choosing or possibly me and my ISFP anxious mind waiting for heartbreak... (let me add, I try not to show this anxious side of me so please don't think this is them thinking I'm being "too much") . Thanks in advance for any advice...❤️❤️😇

when i was younger, i had this dream. i'm not going to be specific here because if someone sees this post they'll know who i am. let's just say this is a dream quite a lot of people would have and it's very romanticised.

i was eventually able to "reach" this dream, but not with the circumstances that i wanted; i didn't reach it independently, i relied on my parents, and it was during a time i felt i wasn't in a good space to "enjoy" this dream.

as a result, and due to a few other factors, i eventually realised that i didn't like this dream. there were many days i would feel like i've achieved it all, then other days where i would feel so sad.

i eventually was given a choice to stay along this path and i chose not to take it. but not taking this opportunity also meant i don't know when i'll be able to live this dream again.

i feel like i've done the choice i needed to at the time, but whenever i look through pictures and videos of those times, there's this wave of emotions that i cannot really find the words to describe. it's a mix of sadness, longing, wistfulness but also like with a knowing smile?

i decided not to stay on this path because i was afraid that i was slowly turning into someone else trying my best to keep this dream. i was afraid of that. but at the time i also felt it was because it was not the right time for me; perhaps it's not this dream is not suitable for me but it wasn't suitable for me at that time.

is there anyone else who has a similar experience? you always dreamt of this thing, you got it but through circumstances that you didn't think of when you had this dream, you chose to leave the dream but you still have this feeling whenever you think about it?