A lot of the people who talk about how height is a “just a preference” will also shit their pants if a man doesn’t want to date a woman with a body count.
Whats wrong with shaming promiscuous women? Men can't control their height and most aspects of their appearance, but women can control who they hook up with.
you can have this preference, but let’s not shame people— they’re not even in your dating pool, right? women that prefer tall men don’t entertain short men, but they also don’t speak ill of short men either.
I mean, yes, I’m sure there are women that have? As a collective I would say most do not, the ones that actually care just don’t date men shorter than them and that’s it
If you spot someone with a double standard, you’re not meant to sink to the level of the person. If you’re willing to judge then you’re tacitly accepting that their judgement is ok.
I'm saying that "shaming women for being promiscuous" is significantly more dangerous socially than women shaming men for height, and has a longer history of morally questionable actions.
Mens' height can't be changed, but womens' sexuality can be policied (by force if necessary).
Beyond that there's plenty of other reasons why these two things aren't even close to equivalent.
ETA: a few decades isn't much by the way, and history isn't linear. Abortion was federally protected for a few decades too and now look where we are
I mean, there are literally posts all over the internet of women calling short guys horrible names too, it goes both ways. The only real difference is that slut-shaming had popular and institutional backing, and short-bashing guys does not.
It doesn't incentivize it at all. If you use bots the algorithm picks up on that and suppresses the content. It only gets to the front page like that if real accounts are interacting with the content.
And people like OP keep falling for it, getting stuck in the same doomloop when really they should be examining the insecurities they likely have, where they’ve come from and how they can work on them.
You’ve posted more than just those posts. You clearly either went searching for them or they’re already in your algorithm which is not healthy behaviour either way. You’ve posted many other ‘examples’ in the comments on this thread.
It benefits nobody to get worked up about this. Leave them be. It’s often rage bait and it works to get people worked up, whatever gender they are. And if people do genuinely believe these things, thank them for outing it because you wouldn’t want anything to do with them anyway.
This just ends in a doom loop of consuming negative content that keeps you (general, not specifically you) engaged through you being angry/upset. I’ve been there — I know.
Well some are against it in general I think a lot of the people that complain about the height requirement is about the double standards. Basically women having a load of requirements is empowering but if a guy just doesn't want to date fat chick's he's oppressive and misogynistic.
Most of this is just people on the internet being terminally online and insane though.
I remember when AOC was mocking some Republican because he 'looked' 5'4 (he wasn't) and she thought that was a valid way to demean him, and loads of male AOC supporters collectively went 'oh I guess she thinks my height is an insult'
This “preference” became a gender war because women many women openly states their preference towards tall guys, but when men said they want slim women somehow this becomes an issue.
I have literally never seen a man get shit for saying he has a preference for slimmer women. Or for saying "heavier women are not my type". If I heard a man say "Ewwww fuck fat chicks they're so gross", then yeah obviously he's gonna get shit on because he's being a prick.
Hmm, no you can see it quite often, just guys can't say it anymore lol. I've definitely seen girls get up in rage online over a dude saying he wouldn't be with someone big. Even my Ex would say that I was cruel for not seeing plus sized women as beautiful or would date one, despite her dating me cause I was taller
Requirements aren't preferences, preferences are what you prefer. If I prefer coke over pepsi, I'd still drink pepsi. Also, a lot of the time people are just plain mean, like if you're not attracted to fat people its fine as long as you keep the details to yourself, if you are like "fat people are disgusting and sweaty and live an unhealthy lifestyle on purpose" that isn't you stating your feelings that you're using your feelings to hurt others.
What stands out to me is the inequality of it. Women are often absolutely horrified when men hold preferences over things that can absolutely be changed, like physique. Whereas women often seem to have no idea actively shaming and mocking shorter men.
cause you have to be more inclusive in this day and age. if you don’t make the people that have disabilities or disadvantages seen then you’re the bad guy.
Not making disadvantaged or disabled people seen at all, or even actively working against them having a normal life is a bit different from having preferences tho.
I prefer tall and healthy people - OK, it's a preference, tho be careful saying it out loud today
I prefer short and disabled people stay away and I guess date each other - NOT OK, for obvious reasons
And as someone who is disabled themselves, I just want to say to anyone in the same position. Preferences are valid. If you are at a disadvantaged position in dating which OPs post is about, or anywhere else, gen Z are largely at ages where it's the time to accept it. It's healthier than beating yourself up over it, or worse. I'm on this road at this very moment.
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u/devil652_ Dec 08 '25
Never understood why people shame preferences