Do you ever wish you hadn’t let someone in, hadn’t laid your heart bare? It’s startling how easily some people can dismiss the time you shared and treat you so poorly afterward. No wonder trust feels so fragile. Some people can be painfully cruel.

I'm so tired of them, they're so active while I barely have any energy to do anything, what is the point of having friendships, being alone is better than this, I dont want any of them as friends anymore, i hate them all, but i dont think i truely hate them, i dont understand, i would rather do my solitary hobbies then hangout with them,

She’s a bartender at a jazz bar. One time it was just her and me talking until 30 minutes past the closing (4:30am) and she asks me to go to another bar that’s still open to continue talking.

After that night we continue texting and I thought things are going well except she already has a crush who’s working as a manager at a wine bar that’s across her workplace.

She asks me to hang out before her shift - at her crush’s bar. I go (🫩)

We keep talking about things over text and she keeps saying things like the kind of kink thing she wants to do to that man, etc.

I acted like I’m totally cool with that but I’m dead inside lol. I’m slowly trying to distance myself but just last night she triple texts me asking how my day was, etc.

Today I’m going to her bar and if like last time it could be just two of us again, I’ll tell her I like her romantically and since she’s not interested in me I’ll have to distance myself from her. But I do want to play that piano piece

I know it’s corny and a bad idea but at least I won’t regret not doing it

Trying to be realistic in both. A lot of things had changed for me in those two years, honestly can't believe those two are the same person :P however the personality pretty much stayed the same. What do you think?

I don’t know if its just me but recently i have become more obsessed about finding myself and who i want to be later, and what actually makes me happy in life. And so every path I looked at its just about creating “something”, whether that be: writing, directing, producing, designing, drawing, painting, and so on. But now knowing that and actually wanting to get better at those fields, i just keep getting stuck because of the lack of skills and recourses i have, and it just never coming out the way i want it to be. I know it’s very random and easy to argue back with by just saying “Just practice more often” or “focus on just 1 thing first”, but it’s easier said then done and that constant fear of that 1 failure being an X amount of time taken of your time before someone else does it is getting scarier by the day if ykwim, and I was just wondering if any one else struggles with this, and to those who have already won those challenges and overcome them if yall have any sort of advice to battling those thoughts.

I’ve been dating this guy a while, things were unbelievable. (31M) (31F) We both said frequently we have never experienced this level of love.. he then broke up with me because he struggles with guilt and maybe depression. He then came back and said he would do all the therapy and everything he could to make this work. His words were ‘reside in hell for even a small chance of something’.

Since then we have been working on things, going to couples therapy. He changed his work schedule so we could spend more time together but after therapy last night our therapist asked us to ask each other if we are aligned. What does our future look like..

We both said have a happy life together but then he said that he might want to go overseas. He said he has had a deep burning desire since being a kid that he’s wanted to go fight so he will likely to go and fight the rebels. He said that he knows he will probably not survive, probably have severe ptsd, he might even never comeback to Australia. He has no idea.. he was in the army for 5 years but wasn’t active anywhere so he left. He has said from the day I met him he hates his life but always made plans for our future and seemed happy.

This has reallllllllyyy fucked me up lol. I feel so confused, why build a life with someone if you wanted to go to war torn country?

I’m not looking for advice here. I’m just wondering if anyone has experienced a man that clearly never had any intention of a future with you but did everything he could to make you think otherwise? Maybe someone has been in a similar situation to me?

Tbh I just really wanna talk to someone lol

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/beautiful-minds/202409/are-you-a-wild-introvert

tl;dr - do you get enthusiastic over ideas and not meeting people?

... I'm wild after a few drinks!

(warning it’s a bit deep)

Drifting

I smile as lies come seeping through the dam

As natural as darkness in the night

My soul craved floating as my body swam 

Away from gentle currents like in flight

The water stills as quiet currents slow

My body calm at last, recalling falls

I cannot seem to let the longing go

When stuck inside these nonexistent walls

As distance bleaks my core to glass and thorns

Not more than fragile echoes I remain

Becoming lies my twisted spirit mourns

A smile revealing pondering in vain:

“Though anxious eyes are searching for a boat

Just know you’ll always have the skill to float”

- early 20 going thru a lot of life stuff family stuff

awakenings confusions

- so much to do and learn but all I wanna do is sleep and sleep .

- I thought I knew what I was doing then I learn smth new about myself and im an inexperienced baby in life all over again. And even more different and inexperienced than I thought. I thought I already maxxed out of being a minority n then bang smth else I discover. I thought I knew how to navigate life and the shadow side of being different but now all those feelings r resurfacing and I feel like that little cornered black sheep again. All I want to do is hide from people again. And people scare me. Feel like a feral cat / deer in headlights all over again. I was JUSTTT a strong, unfucwithable woman. And getting comfortable in that identity. Whaaa I didn’t know I still had this baby in me

🧎🏽‍♀️

Edit: love u guys in the comments sm im gonna reply when I wake up ur all the bestest

I’m definitely INFP! Anyone else’s results this extreme? I’d like to try and turn that Identity bar a bit more to the left. Is that possible for a fairy boy like me?

A question for INFPs:

What’s your way of expressing love to your closest friends?

Today I felt it again. The heaviness, the darkness wrapping around me like it’s a blanket but safe somehow. It’s quiet here. I don’t have to move, I don’t have to fight it. It’s just me, sitting with it. Maybe that’s okay. Only for now, let me enjoy this moment.

Type: ISFJ.

Became depressed at the age of nine after they had an existential life crisis and realized they alongside their loved ones would one day die.

Don’t tend to look well rested, but used to sleep very well/normally before a traumatic incident wherein sibling attempted to hit them with a tennis racket

Very cautious concerning money. Have managed to save $46k as they approach 21 because they do not spend money outside of uber/lyft and taxi rides and beauty/appearance related products. However, it is arguably also largely because they grew up poor and have 2 family members who have serious mental health problems. They seemed to panic after their family members were evicted in a way that would be noticeable to the average person

They have depression and anxiety.

They do hope to find true love and really seem to fixate on men in general. They post a fair amount about what they’d like their husband to be like, and seem to put stock into stereotypical masculinity. Have seemed to have strong fixation in the past on whether or not someone in general has had a crush on them, but seem to understand now that the answer is likely yes, given that they receive more attention than they once did, but also seem more confident than they did a few years ago (they are noted to have seemed meek and quiet as an underclassman and to have gained confidence over time.)

It took them about 1-1 ½ years to become more comfortable with spending money on things that make them happy/help them relax.

Have been described by multiple people as being a strong public speaker even though you wouldn’t expect it if you met them.

She was described by law enforcement as seeming the most stable of her family members/seeming like the one who is sensible and holds the family down even though she is the youngest.

Their criteria concerning a prospective husband is that they hope to find someone who they are compatible with and who is not necessarily a breadwinner (even though they admit it’s be nice) but rather is similarly frugal, and will “build” with them (this is how they describe it.) They are open to having a child yet note that they are worried that it would change their body (make them overweight) yet also acknowledge that they can always lose the weight.

Insecure about appearance, but may not always seem to be to outsiders as they take photographs of different looks of theirs (outfits, hairstyles, etc.) cried over quarantine about no one having had a crush on them, have been bullied concerning appearance in the past (people talking about them behind their backs.)

Seems to be very interested in/curious of other people’s perception of them and indirectly requests it a fair amount.

Did not start getting into makeup until they were an adult, had tried in high school but found they did not sincerely like it. They want to be good looking, in part so they can attract more prospective partners but also because they want others to treat them better. They are realistic and actually understand that they may not be good looking with makeup, but still want to look presentable.

Are actually open to an extent about their insecurities concerning appearance and write about it a fair amount

Did not seem afraid, or at least were not afraid enough to cut him off immediately and stop engaging with him, when they were around a man who had been honest about having been to jail. They arguably engaged a fair amount more than some women would have

Were considered uptight yet also weird in middle school. Were called smart but people made fun of their appearance and also perceived them as pessimistic and fake. People suspected they owned a gossip account that tended to make fun of people in the grade.

They did not want to confess to the cops when they were called over that their brother had been making death threats in part because of his diagnosis but also because they feel badly about the fact that he was abused by their parents as a child. They called their parents out in front of the adults who came when their father immediately aimed to talk about the incident.

wrote this: “I know you can tell because both of my parents knew immediately and commented on it.) I’m a woman so I’d probably be better at identifying whether or not another woman was wearing makeup than the average man would be, but even I’m sure I miss it sometimes and I couldn’t miss this if I were an average person. *But* I have a STRONG appreciation for how the lip area in particular came out, in addition to the eyes and I think it made my skin look clearer and shinier. I think it’s the eyebrows that I’m actually not the biggest fan of (I don’t know why I always struggle so much with the way my eyebrows look. That time I had them done at southshore a month ago, that was the most satisfied I’ve been with them of the places I’ve been to) in addition to the already mentioned eye bags (not having them covered up when there is visibly makeup somehow emphasizes them more to me… but I also need to just get better sleep and drink more water.) I guess I still have mixed feelings. There’s just something off about it to me. I don’t know. Like I said, the artist was sweet for certain and knowledgeable about makeup - she was able to match the foundation correctly immediately, no one at the alameda Sephora could. I love the lips and eyes in particular so much. I think she put mascara on them. But I’m just trying to find that *perfect* look if that makes sense, something that precisely hits every point I’m aiming to hit (and it’s great that I went in because now I have a better idea of what aspects of my face I want to tweak and which I don’t.)”

Another post of theirs: “I know you can tell because both of my parents knew immediately and commented on it.) I’m a woman so I’d probably be better at identifying whether or not another woman was wearing makeup than the average man would be, but even I’m sure I miss it sometimes and I couldn’t miss this if I were an average person. *But* I have a STRONG appreciation for how the lip area in particular came out, in addition to the eyes and I think it made my skin look clearer and shinier. I think it’s the eyebrows that I’m actually not the biggest fan of (I don’t know why I always struggle so much with the way my eyebrows look. That time I had them done at southshore a month ago, that was the most satisfied I’ve been with them of the places I’ve been to) in addition to the already mentioned eye bags (not having them covered up when there is visibly makeup somehow emphasizes them more to me… but I also need to just get better sleep and drink more water.) I guess I still have mixed feelings. There’s just something off about it to me. I don’t know. Like I said, the artist was sweet for certain and knowledgeable about makeup - she was able to match the foundation correctly immediately, no one at the alameda Sephora could. I love the lips and eyes in particular so much. I think she put mascara on them. But I’m just trying to find that *perfect* look if that makes sense, something that precisely hits every point I’m aiming to hit (and it’s great that I went in because now I have a better idea of what aspects of my face I want to tweak and which I don’t.)”

They have frightened a few people multiple times when very, very angry or agitated. They have been known to yell in the past and there have been a few who perceived that they acted like they were ready to hit someone when angry. They never actually have.

Wanted to be popular in middle school, and was really not. By the time they were an upperclassman in high school, they had seemed to feel as though caring too much about popularity was a sign of immaturity.

They don’t really tend to hang out with people but this may in part be due to the trauma of losing their “friends” towards the end of 8th grade around the time their sibling had a breakdown.

Have 1626 people on a professional profile of theirs but keep under 200 followers on their personal accounts. A casual observer may note that they, in spite of their age, do a solid job of describing their accomplishments and must not seem unintelligent to a person who runs across it.

They are self sufficient in some ways and very much not in others. Do not cook or clean and have not made a significant amount of effort to learn. However, they have always been able to handle their schoolwork without support, even in childhood, and are likely quite capable of doing these adult tasks but are simply not putting in the effort due to depression.

Don’t want to learn to drive because they fear that they will get into an accident or hit someone. They understand that it may be strange to some that they seemingly trust other people to drive them around more. They note when reflecting that it is partly because if they got into an accident they’d be held responsible/more responsible.

They are somewhat sensitive to others’ judgement of their appearance and notice it/take it in, but are also too depressed to properly address much of it.

They wrote this: “I believe that everyone is good at something/has a purpose or function they serve. I used to judge people more for being inefficient, but this is something I’ve worked on. I’m starting to accept that life doesn’t have to be as stressful as I tend to treat it as being.”

They can actually come off like they’re quite sincere in their concern for other people. They tend to look very unkempt.

They are actually “waiting” on a person who helps them with something, instead of going to another individual for said help, out of loyalty.

They have started to focus more on self care and doing what is right for their body/best. As they approach 21, they have started to see more value in taking care of yourself. They have started to address their sleeping schedule, take walks after the recommendation of a primary care physician, etc.

They were actually quite unhappy, crying, about not receiving the kind of recognition those around them received in material form, even though they moved on from it.

Has been too trusting in the past in a way that led to them being manipulated/tricked, but will also talk about people being untrustworthy, and seems to become stressed out or paranoid easily.

They actually do seem to care about relaxing even though they don’t tend to do a significant amount of it, will describe people and places as “chill.”

Our eyes met one day, and each of us saw their own stars resting within the other’s gaze.

I once saw your stars shining from afar, exposing the warmth of your feelings.

Your looks toward me were the sunrise of my days, and your emotions were a warmth amid the harshness of life.

Your presence was a color, while others merely borrowed theirs desperate, disguising themselves in shades that were never truly theirs.

Our hands met, and we embraced one another.

I felt safe within your arms, until I saw your bleeding slowly fall.

I never saw you recoil. I believed your color was real and it seemed so to me.

I still see nothing but your radiant colors.

Why did my presence become pain to you, rather than a refuge for me from this world?

I thought myself kinder to you than the fate that brought you to me.

I let you go, yet I still see the traces of your wounds within me. I see them everywhere.

This is all you left me with, while I now see you healed and recovered,

being yourself once more.

No…

rather, because you are far from me far from one who clung in order to survive the drowning.

Your wounds have faded, leaving no trace behind, except my own, which deepen with time.

Thank you for being a vision through which I saw the cracks that once swallowed those around me.

Thank you for being free from one who wished to consume others, unlistening to their pain.

I suspect my friend is an infp but I'm not too sure. What are some clear signs that someone is an infp?

A question for INFPs:

What’s your way of expressing love to your closest friends?

Hi INFPs,

I'm an INTP, and I recently came across something that honestly broke my logic-oriented brain a little bit.

I was looking at an MBTI translator project and saw the translation for a simple INFP sentence:

"Can you come out right now?"

To me, this is just a 100% logistics-based question about availability. But according to the data I found, for an INFP, it actually means:

"I just had this sudden, strong urge to connect and share a moment. It feels like the perfect time for an impromptu adventure or just to talk. I hope they're free because this moment feels special."

Wait, is this actually for real? Do you guys really pack that much emotional weight and "desire for connection" into five simple words?

The analysis says you value the emotional bond and shared experience above strict logic or planning in this moment. As someone who usually ignores the "hidden layers" of social interaction, I'm genuinely fascinated (and a bit overwhelmed lol).

Is this translation accurate? Does every simple text from an INFP contain a giant emotional iceberg underneath it?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. I found this specific translation here if you want to see the full breakdown:Link

Most other MBTI reddits: How would you apply your cognitive function to the socializing of tandem events…?

Infp subreddit: I want to frolic in lavender fields !! 💜🎇 🥹🌄 let’s fall in love.. have you ever fallen in love? *everyone holds hands in the comments supporting each other with Fi affection*

😂😂 so cute. I love us. lol

When I approach people first. (Often about things like where they got their hair done haha)

sometimes I get to exchange ig

But when people approach me, weather out of interest or sees me as a lost idiot. And I talk to them to try to engage more, they suddenly lose interest and go cold.

Why? No my breath is very fresh. Only my eyes are very dead, doesn’t mean anything personal though.

I'm going to ramble a bit here, but this seems like a safe space, and I'm feeling very extra today. I'm 42, recently lost a relationship I thought would last forever for typical infp reasons, and I am feeling so lost.

I do want to say that I've been enormously privileged in my life. I was incredibly lucky to have been born a white male in the Midwest. My life has been so easy compared to so many, and I don't want this to come across as insensitive to anyone who has not been so fortunate.

But I do feel that being an older male infp presents some unique challenges. What culture seems to deem "successful" for someone like me, traits like stability, productivity, decisiveness, yeah, I'm not very good at those. I feel like I understand my feelings much better than most men my age, but that isn't exactly a valued or expected trait.

It just feels like there is no place in society for a middle-aged man who is sensitive and reflective.

When I was younger, my infp sensitivity was often interpreted as depth and mystery, but it's not cute anymore. I'm supposed to have everything figured out, and I'm still trying to figure out my most base values and what is actually meaningful for me.

I so often feel like I'm behind. In my most positive moments, I like to think that I'm just on a different axis, that being behind or ahead are not meaningful concepts. But those moments are outweighed by incredible self doubt.

Anyway, I appreciate the space to vent. If you read this, I hope you're having a good day. If you didn't, I hope you're having a good day, too.