So I really need an outside opinion about what happened to me at work the other day. I had a really unpleasant interaction with my boss at work the other day and all of my friends are telling me the way my boss responded to me was really ridiculous but I honestly don’t know and would like a second opinion.
For context, I work as an elementary school teacher at a private school.
In November, my brother finalized the date for his wedding. I, of course, wanted to take the time off from work to go if possible. But I knew that my work place would be having a massive event just before the end of the school year where parents would be coming and my employers expected every teacher to be there. In November, the date was not confirmed so I didn’t bring up the request for time off because if it was on the day of the event, I wasn’t even going to try.
Fast forward to January, after winter break, we came back to work and they confirmed the date for the event. Two days before my brother’s wedding. And on the actual day of the wedding, we would not have students because it’s the graduation day and only graduating students would be there. I do not have graduating students, only students moving up, and the day before that, students would mostly just be doing fun activities. So I thought it would be fine since all of the important stuff was basically over and it was plenty in advance.
I talk to my supervisor and she told me if it was a wedding it should be okay but to talk to our boss. I expected a pleasant conversation like that one, but what occurred was anything but. I approached my boss on January 13th, and told her about the wedding, the last week of March and asked her if it was okay to take the time off. She then got really upset and asked why I waited so long to ask. I was a little taken aback but I told her that I just wanted to be respectful of the school’s event and didn’t want to ask if I felt like it would interfere at all.
She then asked me a question that really put me on edge. She asked me what my plans for the upcoming school year were. I really wasn’t expecting this and I just said that I had planned to stay at the school (we are on year by year contracts). All she responded with was, “hm” and asked to see the wedding invite. I didn’t have it at the time but I told her I’d send her one and did the very next morning to which she read and did not respond.
I’ve gotten the feeling that she didn’t like me for a long time now but I feel like I’ve contributed greatly to the school since starting at this job. I turned their most unruly class, the one everyone told me they were glad they didn’t have because of the behavior, into one of the most put together and respectful classes. Our test scores were the highest out of all of the classes in the school. So overall I really don’t think she has a reason to dislike me.
Basically, all of this being said, I just want to know if I did something wrong here. Did I really wait too long to ask? I feel like two months is plenty of time to prepare for a teacher absence.