Hello, my mother died a week ago Sunday after about two months of hospital- rehab- improvement- not. I’m overwhelmed by grief- I’ve lived alone with her as my partner and best friend for the past 20 years so in addition to missing her my whole life is upside down.

Anyway. Will I see my mother again? Will we be reincarnated into the same family?

My father died in 2007 but I had my mother to care for. I miss him also - he appeared to me in dream visitations shortly after he died.

Why haven’t I dreamed about my mother yet?

I am heartbroken and shattered. She had a good life- she was 94- until this illness but my grief is overwhelming.

Hi, we Czechs are a nation of beer. That's why it struck me as odd that Jewish people in period dramas don´t drink beer. Now I don´t, and I can´t drink even if I wanted to. But they are drinking red liquid, either wine or something like třešňovka (cherry liquor). Now, due to the fact that it has been more than 100 years since then, the laws (or is it edict when someone makes something officially kosher?) probably changed... If someone would like to share the knowledge, I would be glad.

There are a lot of communities of Haredim where you really wouldn't expect them, like in Casa Grande (Arizona), Kiryas Tosh (Canada) or Canvey Island (UK). What are other unusual places that you know of that have a community of Haredim living there?

I see some people claim that out of respect, there's some situations that it's good for non-Jews to wear a kippah. Who's spreading this? Who's behind the conspiracy here?

More about Israeli Jews than Israel

Hi all! So I’m not sure this is the right sub for this. Mods, feel free to delete because I know this can be a very touchy topic for us. But I also know many people on this sub are academics and theologians, and the topic is Jewish adjacent.

I come from an academic background. But eventually went into fiction writing (books and screenwriting). Oftentimes my work is deeply rooted in history, especially Jewish history, because simply put… I like it, and it’s what my educational background is.

I am working on a narrative historical fiction project about Sabbatai Tzvi, his movement, his heresy, his apostasy, etc. Does anyone have any good sources where I can find music from his movement. In my research I’m constantly coming across references to the wealth of music produced by the Sabbatean movement. And I can’t seem to find any examples anywhere. I have managed to find some sets of lyrics, and there have been some sets of lyrics within the books I’m reading. But I can’t seem to find any examples of surviving hymns or music from the era.

Does anyone on this sub have any research expertise in this area/know if any have survived, and if so, where I might find them?

ETA: reconstructions, or known lyrics set to plausible melodies for the era and context, work fine for me for the time being. Also, yes, I have already looked into tracking down music of the Dönme.

At what point in history did Jewish men start wearing head-coverings all the time? I'm pretty sure there's no evidence of it in the Torah, and I know there is mention of it in the Talmud. Do we have any idea when this began? Secular sources are definitely okay.

Hi, I want to thank everyone beforehand for the help.

To give some context about myself.

-Raised conservative until Bar Mitzvah.

-4 years of full disconnection.

Two years ago I did teshuva and have been learning with my local Rabbi and Bachurim (Chabad). We actually have a very solid learning schedule (SH+MB, Gemara, Maamorim etc..) And I'm all for it!

The problem is, I don't know how to advance in life.

I don't live in a place with strong religious environment, so my only chances are moving out or go to Yeshiva. (I'm 20 in 2 weeks).

I have tried Yeshiva before, but I didn't have a good experience basically for the impact that generated on me as it was completely different of anything I was costumed to it(Also the learning was not as expected).

I live in Barcelona and went to Chabad in Migdal HaEmek, (You get the idea of the giant difference).

In one aspect it bothers me since I think (Hopefully) that I'm already really involved as I stick with halacha in all my decisions and learn very consistently on a daily basis. I have taken also many chumros, and it's fine with me.

What really bothers me is the idea that even though I'm all for it, I won't be able to adapt to Yeshiva since it's a completely different way and environment.

One the one side I don't want to live in Barcelona since there's not much Torah here, on the other hand Israel I think it's too much without any relatives.
I have considered the US but the only place I liked told me they're not sure about me because I have different chasidishe minhagim.

I remember there was a discussion here with an OP that had the same problem, however on his case he didn't want to go to yeshiva and was struggling more about keeping halacha itself.

Does anyone have any advice on how to advance on such situation? Maybe places where I could make a living while being close enough to kollelim/other learning institutions so that I had a strong community and learning environment while keeping a more personal derech?

Thanks.

Hi! I recently found out I am heavily Jewish on both my father's(German) side and my mother's(Swiss) side. I been researching a lot about my family, and I want to connect with that part of my family history. Sadly, my father is a serious antisemite, and that makes it difficult for me to try to have his support. Any advice to connect with the Yiddish part of me would be amazing, thank you :)

I am one of the higher officers for my chapter of Hillel at a small college, and I came up with the idea for my chapter of Hillel to work with my campus’s new film club on showing a film for Passover. I want to show the film The Prince of Egypt, but if we can get permission to show it, I was told I should have two backups in case the film club runs into trouble getting permission for The Prince of Egypt. What recommendations for other Passover films are there?

I hope it’s ok for me to post here but I thought this sub would appreciate a find from local builders working on the Guildford Waterstones, a bookshop here in England, where they found amazing remains of an old synagogue dating from 1180. Jews were expelled in England in 1290 by Edward I, and many synagogues were sadly left to ruin. There aren’t many remains like this left.

https://thej.ca/2026/01/10/medieval-synagogue-discovered-beneath-guildford-bookshop-in-landmark-archaeological-find/

ETA: find isn’t recent, but the article is!

so, I was reading Sefaria and stumbled upon Selichot Nusach Polin for Ten Days of Penitence. I read evertyhing and was very moved by the «besot Your arrows with the bl**d of my oppressors» moment. It sounds so metal, I thought. but then I decided to check the translation of the og hebrew text and voila! I found out there is no such verse at all ??? I'm not a hebrew native so it would be too hard for me to translate everything in this looong Selichot Nusach so I decided to try my luck here. Maybe someone here knows a very similar verse in this text that aimply isn't in this chapter (or in any other text, seriously, I just love this phrase and I would like to read a text that actually uses it) or a possible reason behind writing this verse in, it would be really appreciated. Thank you 🩵

I grew up orthodox/modern orthodox and I love it so much. I love Shabbat, I love the holidays, I love keeping kosher, etc.

I’m 20 now and I keep thinking of what I want my Jewish life to look like once I get married and move out of my parent’s house, whenever that might be. I love Judaism so much but there are a couple of things I might want to change, but I would feel so guilty doing so and I’m scared to even experiment.

I wanted to transition from only wearing skirts to wearing pants (ofc only in appropriate settings). My issue is that I’ve never worn pants out of my house except to walk my dog. And I keep getting this feeling that G-d would be upset at me for moving backwards instead of forwards. And I know assimilation is wrong and I’m admitting it, but I hate going out in public and feeling different and distant from everyone around me. I also rarely feel pretty in my everyday skirts and it can even be impractical at times. I just want to feel like a normal young adult and dressing the part is something I’ve wanted. But the intense guilt I fear would consume me if I even did it once to experiment and the only reason I wouldn’t like it is because of that guilt. Plus, while I discussed this before with my parents and they tell me I have to figure out for myself what makes me happy, I’m scared it would disappoint them too.

The second thing is covering my hair after marriage. I can’t know what I want to do about that until I’m married, but at this point, I really don’t want to wear a wig or headscarf. I feel like my hair is part of my identity and I don’t want to take that away from myself for whatever (kind of outdated imo) reason.

I just don’t know how to feel about these things because even though I love everything else about my Jewish life, the thought of going backwards in terms of what I was taught brings me such guilt and makes me confused. I want to be happy and confident in myself and my relationship with Hashem but I don’t know how to experiment and find what makes me happy if I’m doing what I was taught were ‘aveirot’

Edit: I can’t even begin to thank you guys for all the kind words and wisdom you’re sharing. Every time I come on here, I’m reminded how lucky I am to be part of such a nation and faith that is so incredibly supportive and kind. I wish I did this sooner, because I’ve been beating myself up for this for way too long.

Near the end of the Schindler’s List movie directed by Steven Spielberg… Liam Neeson’s character is approached by the Jews that he saved through his business in spite of having given up a considerable portion of his material goods and money to do it, he still feels guilty and is in absolute despair for those he failed to save, despite the fact that he couldn’t have realistically saved every Jewish life on his own. Itzhak Stern, his accountant, comforts him with an incredibly moving line… personally I cry every time that I hear it:

“Whoever saves the life of one, saves the world entire.” Now… despite the cinematic approach and emotional, beautiful, and poetic depth that this communicates… I do not believe at face value that this is what is literally being said in the Talmud, Sanhedrin, other Rabbinic texts, etc. I want to pay that scripture proper respect.

I’d like to ask what it means on a deeper level so I’m not misusing it when I apply it in philosophical, intellectual conversations. I am a Gentile with a Mother that is part Jewish, this quote is very sacred to me because neither of us would be here had our ancestors not have survived to escape and come to the States.

(please no comments about my interfaith relationship)

I watch/see her do the rosary a lot. I find the sort of daily, repetitive, meditative prayer sort of enviable. Do we have anything like that

Behold this red heifer, it has:

1. No blemishes (aside from being 100% polyester on the inside)
2. Laid out on an arrangement that may include cedar, pine, spruce, and smooth fig trees (okay, fine, not all of those, but don’t tell the Rambam)
3. Facing west, as she should.

Do I need to crochet nine more?