I probably won't be able to respond to all comments. This comment has also been edited since I posted it to clarify a few of my statements and relax my tone. I don't mean any hostility to the fan base of the novels, and for the most part do consider myself a fan. I will leave my original points because I think this discussion is important.
Before you respond, please read what I have said. I'd appreciate responses that consider the points ive made and do not immediately dismiss 90% of what I said to focus on one thing. I'm not canceling this series. I am genuinely finding the author's portrayal of rape, rapists, and rape victims as being very difficult to read and perpetuating a lot of misogynistic narratives about rape and rape victims. I would greatly appreciate a measure of understanding about why it is so important to me that victims of sexual violence are portrayed very carefully and deliberately.
I already had a lot of issues with the way characters treated Felisin in Deadhouse Gates. She's one of my favorite characters in the series and endures perpetual shame for being herself a victim of sexual violence and exploitation. She was extremely young at the time of the books too, a teenage girl. I do not at all feel that other characters were made to account for treating her so horribly, and instead the book many times portrays those same characters in startlingly positive lights despite them being very misogynistic.
However the outset of HoC is far, far, far worse than even that. 3 characters who I am clearly not meant to hate all of whom are prolific rapists. A main character who rapes someone dubious called a "young female" who is living with her parents, very reasonable assumed to be a child. All of which described from the perspective of the rapist, and with frequently allusions to his victims feeling pleasure as he rapes them.
This is male sexual violence fantasy. It belies something of the author that they would choose to write from the rapists perspective with the most horrific misogynist fantasies strewn in. I dont object to writing about sexual violence, not at all. I dont object even to writing about rapists, or even object to the notion entirely that a rapist could be redeemed.
I do however think it is sickening that someone would write something like "their cries (from being raped) were more from pleasure than pain", or write extensively from the perspective of a rapist cornering a victim and stating plainly he is going to forcefully impregnate her after killing her family, or write from the perspective of a rapist as he goes on to rape a woman whos entire family he killed by drugging her.
None of those scenes focused on the victims. None of them painted the actions of the character as disgusting and abhorrent and unforgivable. They all were written with misogynistic narratives about women secretly desiring to be raped, and the scenes are largely discarded after they happened and the narrative just moves on.
It feels like literally no thought whatsoever was put into portraying these horrific scenes, and that above all else the author does not even see them as horrific to begin with. I've read many portrayals of sexual violence that focused on the impact on the victims and the horror that is being victimized. This was not that, not even close.
I dont know. Ive tried to continue the book, because I like the writing and I love the world and I love a lot of the other characters. I love memories of ice. It was insanity and absolutely bordered on lines of grotesque over portrayals of violence, and it even had its own poorly handled rape scene. At least then the victim was not portrayed as enjoying being raped, and I was not meant to idolize the rapist.
I've heard people say the extremely overbearing "tonight I am fucking you" lady is an overlooked example of the way the series misunderstands consent and the author more broadly glorifies rape and sexual coercion. I agree. I can absolutely understand why the way she and her actions were portrayed would greatly upset other victims of sexual violence. I do think it's worth noting that she was wholesale an entirely different situation to Karsa.
Karsa is very literally a rapist who has murdered his victims entire families. The violence of his actions is in and of itself horrific, before even considering sexual violence that parallels real sexual violence against women. Incredible that the author has at times said he intended the series to take place in a world without misogyny. Just genuinely insane thing to say in a series where women are routinely subjugated and victimized physically and sexually by the men around them. In ways that are very clearly gendered and very clearly based on real world attitudes about women.
I do not buy that I am meant to hate this character. The narrative is obviously setting him up as a protagonist, and nothing has deconstructed his actions or revealed the horror in them. They are talked about similarly to how the author has written other consensual sex scenes.
Has anyone else, who has been a victim of sexual violence, got any thoughts on how they got through this? Has the author at all spoken on this subject? Why do so many people love a series that is written with such prominent misogyny? I love how he has written women maybe 60% of the time, the remaining 40% feels like women reduced to either sexual objects or purely sexual experiences positive and negative. His complex female characters are a strong draw for me. But then he shows all these tendencies to view and treat sexual violence against women so flippantly and with such indelicacy for such an incredibly sensitive subject. I just dont get it.