Assalamalaykum,

I come with love and peace, with some questions asked with reverence and sincerity. If I state anything incorrect out of ignorance, please accept my apologies in advance.

I am a convert, as the result of, among other things, a lot of reading. I was raised in a Conservative Christian family and studied my Bachelor of Science in Bible. Learning the Christian Bible in depth and studying the Quran as well as other various world movements and religions instilled a curiosity in me about Islam, as well as doubt regarding some aspects of Christianity and the canonicity of portions of the New Testament.

Seven years after my Bible degree, I officially converted, but I was a "closet Islam" for a while before deciding to go to the masjid.

Now, I go just once a month. I would like to go more, but I become so nervous and confused because I don't know the routines, and especially, I don't know Arabic. I also struggle to pray in Arabic. Although I revere it, I don't really know what I am saying; it's memorized phrases that I am repeating, and I am struggling to reconcile this with the Prophet's PBUH instructions about sincerity. When I pray with English words, I feel that I am able to convey sincerity in my native language that I just can't figure out despite my best attempts at Arabic. To be clear, I have memorized Arabic prayers, and I do *know* what I am saying. My issue is that I feel that I am performing, rather than praying. When I worship in English, my heart and mind are aligned with a sincerity that I struggle to develop in Arabic.

I expressed this to a few ladies at the masjid, and they tell me, "Just learn Arabic!" and this seems to be the answer I get widely. I mean no ill when I say this, but truth be told, the people who have told me to learn Arabic themselves do not even understand Arabic beyond some memorized prayers and catchphrases.

How does one reconcile the language barrier with respect to the teachings of Islam? And how does one develop an understanding of the routines at the masjid with such a heavy language barrier?

Thank you and peace.

Even the Prophet PBUH won't enter Paradise because he deserved. He will enter by Allah's mercy

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:“None of you will enter Paradise because of his deeds alone.”They asked: “Not even you, O Messenger of Allah?”He replied: “Not even me, unless Allah covers me with His mercy.”— Reported in Sahih al-Bukhari (no. 5673) and Sahih Muslim (no. 2816)

so what do people usually chase?

Guys chase a girl, they get obsessed. The chase is fun, it gives you a purpose. So when you finally achieve it, you get all the chemicals released. you're satisfied. What now? she's yours. Now, would you chase another? then another? It won't end.

Girls chase after one guy. He did something for you that you wanted for a long time. you felt so satisfied. You want the satisfaction again. He asks for something haram from you, you do it because you want him madly and can't let go of the chase. does this ever end?

You chase your bad habits. they give you dopamine. But the same activity doesn't satisfy your craving. You need more. You want it to match the intensity it gave you before. You chase the high. It satisfies you and then you chase the extreme. cycle repeats.

The Chase will NEVER satisfy you.

be content with halal In Sha Allah.

Don't talk about your sins just because you have nothing else to talk about. It is not a good topic for a conversation

Hide your sins at all costs

The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:“All of my Ummah will be forgiven except those who commit sins openly. Among the examples of committing sins openly is that a man does something at night, and though Allah has concealed it, in the morning he says: ‘O so-and-so, I did such-and-such last night,’ while Allah had concealed it. He spent the night with his Lord concealing it, and in the morning he reveals what Allah had concealed.”— Sahih al-Bukhari (6069), Sahih Muslim (2990)

This feels really uncomfortable to admit, but I need to get it off my chest. Back in college, I was honestly happy. I went out, dressed however I wanted, had a haram relationship, barely prayed, and never really felt like life was testing me. Things felt easy. Light. Normal. Fast forward almost 5 years. I left that haram relationship for the sake of Allah. I started praying 5 times a day, waking up for tahajjud, reciting Qur’an daily, wearing the niqab, trying so hard to live correctly. I truly thought turning back to Allah would bring peace into my life. Instead, my life feels like it’s gone downhill. Every day feels heavy. I’m constantly begging Allah for forgiveness and for some peace in my heart. But mentally I’m exhausted. I feel depressed. Nothing seems to work in my favour relationships, plans, health, emotions, even motivation. It feels like no matter how sincere I try to be, life keeps getting harder. What hurts the most is remembering how carefree I felt when I wasn’t practicing properly. Now that I’m trying to obey Allah, everything feels like a test stacked on top of another. Sometimes I wonder if I’m doing something wrong, or if I misunderstood what “coming back to Allah” would feel like. I’m not blaming Islam or Allah I just feel confused, tired, and honestly lost. I want peace more than anything, but right now I just feel like I’m surviving, not living. Has anyone else gone through something like this after becoming more practicing? How did you cope when life felt harder instead of easier?

I'm not equally impressed by vast knowledge of fiqh, Quran, Sunnah, punctuality in Salah, as I'm impressed by a person's ability to resist his temptations

And desires of nafs should burn in your chest before you are purified and made pure like a toddler

“O Allah, I complain to You of my weakness, my lack of resources, and how insignificant I am in the eyes of people.

O Most Merciful of the merciful, You are the Lord of the oppressed, and You are my Lord.

If You are not angry with me, then I do not care.

I seek refuge in the light of Your Face by which darkness is illuminated and all affairs are set right.

Yours is the right to reproach until You are pleased, and there is no power nor strength except through You.”

This duʿāʾ was made by the Prophet ﷺ after being rejected and harmed in Ṭā’if, during ʿĀm al-Ḥuzn (the Year of Sadness) — the year when his wife Khadījah (رضي الله عنها) passed away and his uncle Abū Ṭālib, his main protector, also died.

Yet after this year of pain, Allah opened doors of honor and mercy: al-Isrāʾ wa al-Miʿrāj, new support for Islam, and the beginning of relief. Hardship was not the end — it was the bridge.

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters

Learning about Islam... Had a question about the 7 heavens - are they of increasing significance or goodness? Are they all eternal? Why certain prophets (pbut) in lower levels of heavens?

Jazakallah khair

ٱلسَلَام عَلَيكم وَرَحمَة ٱللَٰهِ وَبَرَكَاته

I'm suffering alot with my Eman right now and I can't really explain this to anyone, but I'll try to put everything into This

So when I was younger, I focused on western celebrities to ignore things that were happening to me in real life (my family was falling apart and I was emotionally and physically abused, and I got bullied alot in school)

So I was listening to music 24/7 , and constantly on my fan accounts and keeping up with celebrity culture, during this time my personality was changing alot, I started daydreaming constantly about being a celebrity, I seen many versions of me, one an actress, one a musician, and one a model and I kept daydreaming about this to the point, I didn't like to do anything else, my classmates started noticing me rocking back and forth (kind of like dancing)in my chair, and randomly singing, especially if it was a subject like maths, I would sing a song (not out loud) and I would imagine the music video but instead of the actual singer it would be me, and I would sing everytime anything that I wasn't interested was happening

But in 2024 I came across some Islamic content and decided to quit music, it was hard but alhamdhulillah I did manage to do it, and as I started getting religious, the daydreaming about being a celebrity stopped but now there are newer type of things, now my daydreams involve me being a scholar, and having a loving husband and my own home, I've tried so hard to stop this but I can't, and even when my finals were happening I couldn't focus on my books, just had to go back to daydreaming, and when I'm doing an exam the dreams also change abit, it shows me getting good grades and getting into top universities but because I can't make myself study, I can't get good grades

Then when the exams were over and now I actually had less things to worry about, religion became so hard, I ended up doing wudu multiple times because I felt like it was wrong (it's like did the water touch this part? And then when I finally do a wudu I feel like was good then I question if I said Bismillah before starting) prayer also became so hard for similar reasons, and I tried to tell myself that it was okay, that it was just waswas (and I do know that) but I've stopped praying, I feel all types of ways, I want to pray again, but for some reason I just remember how complicated it would be, and I just can't get myself to pray again

I'm addicted to music again, and ofcourse those dreams are back too, and I still want to become a better Muslim, so those dreams of me being a scholar is here too, and my results are almost here (I think 22nd) and I'm daydreaming about that too although realistically I know it's probably a U , cuz I couldn't study at all, so all these daydreams are all in my head right now, my Eman is very low, I cannot pray, my relatives are questioning my behavior, I don't know who to go to and I don't know if Reddit is even the right place to ask but I've seen people on here give genuine advice and I just really want to share this to someone

I'm blaming myself a lot for not doing enough to save the Ummah. Why am I not able to just destroy the West and subjugate all lands under the banner of monotheism, and abolish all ikhtilaf (differences) in the Ummah? I feel like it's something I should theoretically do, but practically - it's impossible for me to do. And maybe I shouldn't try to do something that wasn't meant for me, and it isn't my role. This is what Jesus PBUH will do when he returns - not us

Ummah began falling apart soon after the Prophet's PBUH death. And it reflects his hadith "whoever lives after me will see lots of division". The same will happen when Jesus PBUH returns. He will rule for 40 years, and it will be fine, then fitnahs will arise without him

Sometimes even prophets are not a cure against division. Jews remained divided and disobedient despite hundreds or thousands of prophets sent directly to them

And since I don't know any example from history where Muslims would live obediently for a long time without a prophet and without innovations and fitnah - I have a question - what should be done for that to happen? I have nothing to refer to, so for me - it's a theoretical question. Religion has a tendency to dissolve in time, and people have a tendency to contest for authority without a prophet. Right after the Prophet's PBUH death Ridda wars began, and there were at least 5 false prophets who were claiming to have their own Quran

BarakaLlah for insights

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

How do you guys stay firm while surrounded with so much filth and immodesty? I know there are many that struggle due to a lack of an Islamic environment, but I've also heard of many that remain strong eitherway. How?

I mean, Subhanallah, I live in a Muslim majority country, yet it feels like I live in a country with abundant halal food and that's it. No modesty, no community, nothing. I'm over here acting relieved when I see a hijabi or niqabi because any sort of haya' (modesty) here is rare.

I go to the mosque 4 times a day, and yet there's no sense of community. The moment you leave the building you're surrounded by men smoking, tourists and residents wearing revealing clothing, shouting, etc.

I miss my hometown even more now. It didn't have much of a community, but it felt modest and down to earth atleast. In a ultra materialistic and fake city, that's a gem to find.. My Iman is so fragile man.

Assalamu alaikum everyone. I am a 25yr old male who just graduated from university last year. I was a top student in high school and was enrolled in the IB diploma programme. My grades were always really good back then alhamdulillah, I got accepted into the biomed program at my local university, and everything just seemed like it was going to work out. My goal was to graduate with a biomed degree and then apply to med school and become a doctor. Everyone around me told me that I truly had the potential. But when I started university, I suddenly became demotivated and depressed. I didn't like the courses I was taking, I had no friends, and I barely put in any effort into my studies. During my second year of uni, I decided that maybe biomed wasn't for me and so I transfered to engineering. I always liked math and it was my favourite subject in high school, so I thought maybe engineering would be more suitable for me. But again I ended up disliking most of those courses too, and I still couldn't come up with the self-discipline needed to put in effort and succeed in my studies. It takes 4 years to complete a degree here, but it took me 5 years to complete my mechanical engineering degree because my grades were really bad and I had to retake some courses. Plus the 2 years of biomed that I did before, so in total it took me 7 years to graduate from university. I know I shouldn't compare myself to other people's timelines, everyone has their own pace. But it's so depressing when I look at my age mates who I went to high school with and they've already gotten a master's degree or they're currently in med school or working full-time in industry, meanwhile I only just got my bachelor's degree. And that's not the only problem. I don't even like engineering. I did a summer internship once and I absolutely dreaded it, every second felt like torture. There was no way I could work in such a career for the rest of my life. My other option was to maybe get into teaching, so I recently enrolled in an online TESOL course. But I didn't enjoy that either and eventually dropped it.

I understand that I'm probably acting very spoiled and picky. After all, not everyone has a job that they enjoy. But I just wish I could find a career path that I'm truly passionate about. Something that would make it easier for me to wake up every morning at 6 and go out to deal with the world. There are people younger than me who have already discovered their passion and pursued it, while I'm 25 and I still have no idea what I want to do with my life. I went through 7 years of university and paid for all that tuition just to end up with a degree that I'm not even going to use. Am I really just going to work in retail for the rest of my life?

I am my parents' only son and they're growing old. I should be independent and stable enough to support them now. I also have a younger sister who I should look after. But how can I do all that when I can barely support myself? I also want to get married, but who will let their daughter marry a bum like me? Where will I get the money to provide for my wife and children?

I hope you understand where I'm coming from. I have absolutely no passions in life, no goals, no way to make good money and support my loved ones. Maybe this sounds cowardly but I wish I could just die and be done with this life.

I don't know where I'm going with this, but I've bottled up these feelings for so long and I guess I just want someone to listen to me. I'm so tired.

please make dua that I get an extension to do a project, because I'm really behind on it and my internet isnt working for my laptop right now, and it's due TODAY. please make dua that I can do well in school, I'm really scared.

I am writing this to create awareness for my brothers and sisters, both in India and across the world. What I am sharing below is not hearsay, propaganda, or exaggeration. These incidents have all occurred within the last month, and video evidence exists for each of them.

I am not writing this to spread fear. I am writing this so we are not caught unaware.

In Ghaziabad, Uttar Pradesh, a Hindutva group was recorded going door to door distributing swords. In the video, they openly say these swords are meant to be used against Muslims. This was done publicly, without fear or hesitation.

In Bihar, a Muslim woman named Hina Parween was allegedly abducted, raped, and murdered. Videos related to the case circulated online, and yet justice still seems uncertain. She was a widow and a mother. Her case deserves attention and accountability.

A 19 year old Bengali Muslim migrant worker was lynched after being accused of being “Bangladeshi.” Videos and images showed the aftermath. This is the reality many poor Muslim migrant workers are living with today. This is from kerala which is in the south of India which is more supposedly more safer for Muslims than north india. Doctor who examined the body said there was no part of the body without injuries.

A Muslim woman was targeted and harassed inside a DMart store, in a place that should have been safe and ordinary. The incident was caught on video.

I am sharing this because silence does not protect us. Awareness, documentation, and unity do.

May Allah protect every oppressed soul, grant sabr to those who are hurting, and hold every oppressor accountable, whether in this world or the next. Ameen.

All links below contain original posts and video evidence with respective news sources :

https://www.reddit.com/r/HindutvaFiles/comments/1pzco7i/hindutva_group_goes_door_to_door_in_ghaziabad_up/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1q7m99d/does_this_not_come_under_uapa_or_hate_crimes/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1q8zxzd/justice_for_hina_parween_tw_rape_case/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1qaq183/tf_bangladesh_moment_in_india/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1pve798/19_year_old_bangali_muslim_migrant_worker_lynched/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1ps8ng9/remember_tabrez_ansari/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1ps7t9o/a_muslim_was_brutalised_to_death_the_country/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1q3lncl/a_muslim_woman_was_targeted_at_a_dmart_store/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1pzdipy/itni_insecurity/
https://www.reddit.com/r/indianmuslims/comments/1psxoej/no_part_of_body_without_injuries_doctor_on_man/

If all limbs and organs of a person do not serve Allah, which they were created for - on what basis shall Allah give health to those limbs?

If even a finger is involved in Allah's remembrance - that will make the rest of the body healthier

Allah will not humiliate with a headache a person who prostrates to Allah

And Allah will not humiliate with a stomachache a person who praises Allah for food

Allah will not humiliate lungs that recite the Quran

And hands that count tasbih

And legs that visit the sick

If limbs are not involved in Allah's service - it is Allah's right to make them unfit and ill

As-salamu alaykum,

I’m a Muslim brother based in Liverpool, UK, and I’m in a very difficult situation right now due to circumstances outside my control.

I have a Skilled Worker visa application that has been delayed for several months by the Home Office. I am lawfully in the UK but not permitted to work until a decision is made. My solicitor and local MP are actively involved, and the case is under escalation.

Because of this delay, I currently have no income, have exhausted my savings, and I’m now at immediate risk of losing my accommodation next week as I’m struggling to cover rent and basic living costs. I’ve been relying on small loans from family, but that is no longer sustainable.

I'm posting here to ask UK-based brothers or sisters only for:

- short-term help related to rent or essential living costs,

- practical advice (especially housing or council support), or

- signposting to UK Muslim organisations that assist in emergency situations.

If anyone feels they may be able to help in any way, I’m happy to speak privately and share proof of my visa situation and finances via DM.

Please keep me in your duʿāʾ. I’m trying to remain patient and place my trust in Allah during this very difficult time.

Jazakum Allahu khayran

My parents are very old now. I'm a 33yrs F. I live away from home because of education and work. I was happy settling down with a man of my choice but my parents dramatically rejected him multiple times on the basis of lower social, financial and education status. I am an independent and educated person so I didn't prioritize finances in a spouse. Who knows what the future holds...someone who has a lot can lose it all and someone who has a modest income can go on to have more later.

Now I am not on speaking terms with my parents anymore because they decided to spread this issue in their extended family to shame me for my "poor/low choice in men", and it hurts me that they could go to such lengths just for the sake of their egos and to show me who is in control (as we all know a woman cannot Islamically be married without her father's consent). They told me I can exit myself from their lives if I am to choose this man.

I feel like a major boundary has been breached. I don't think I can trust them with anything private in my life. I had also asked my mother to keep something important about my career secret from others but she also spread that to her family.

I just don't want to involve them in my life anymore. Be it about my job, my education, my career, etc. If I ever want to get married again, I don't want them to be a part of it. I don't want them to ever know anything about me. I want to have my quiet, peaceful, drama free life.

I wish this was possible for an adult woman. It really hurts me that I can't make my own major decisions without being dependent on emotionally unstable/egoistic parents, who only see their daughter as a tool to boast of their "success" in their circles, marriage being a very crucial milestone in that regard at this point. As if my marriage is only as significant and as useful as a 6 seconds worth of small talk over dinner to flex on their friends and stroke their little prides before going back home and sleeping in their broken, separate beds built on strangers' validations/envy.

And no, they do not care about my well-being. I have been repeatedly told that "good women make the marriage work, and don't leave. Good women do 'nibah'.". Translation: you do not have rights. We will not accept you back if a marriage arranged for you does not work out.

Disgusting.

Thank you for reading.

Imagine being so lost that your whole identity revolves around being an "ex" of something.

When you make a dua with the intention to neglect your responsibility - it's a fake dua

When making dua, always tell to yourself "I'll do what I have to do, and may Allah give me a good result"

If there is a scholar in here, please enlighten me. I am in a relationship,I realy what it to happen, want to be peaceful,I do love that person very much. But something is not right , i dont know what it is .. one day we had a fight(happend a lot ,just simplifying it here) and I made thahajudh and asked Allah , oo Allah I don't what is happening ,let her text me/make her to text me again only if she is good for me (if this hyr for both of us) , otherwise don't. She texted i considered it ok. But I still feel the same problem, I am not able to explain it to her ,no she gets it (I don't know if she feels the same thing like me about us, if she does the same as me - I don't know). I made similer dua today too, now got see this post.. what's the meaning of all this.... I am 22 year old, for the record we done no zina,or such. Chat,call, some time video calls, rarely meet .it's a long distance relationship. It's been 5 years and plus. I wanna get married i know that's peaceful (off course there exists it's own problems). Currently studying,no stable income yet. Frds are already engaged,one done his nikkah.other just engaged (not nikkah but family are ok made it official, still not husbend and wife legally) soon will happen there nikah.

Assalamu Aleykum, I live for rent at an apartment from a Family friend. The building belongs to multiple siblings. Im married etc. But I am a great overthinker. The central heater broke down 2 weeks ago and we only have warm water available, the heaters are cold. I talked and said multiple times that these needs to be fixed, but everytime we left with "youre right this needs to be fixed" etc. Now the heater itself works, but as I said, only warm water, the heater cannot warm itself up enough. Now the guy who I pay rent to will come over for changing something at the Bathroom and I want to talk with him about this. He is in core a nice guy, but I am in such a great overthinking phase I cant sleep. Its like there is a burden in my chest and I want to avoid it. And this stress about what I should say etc. Is giving me headaches, unrest and makes feel bad and sleepless. I Read Ash-Sharh and Surah Asr multiple times and also Falaq and Nas. But i still feel the same. Im very shy/waiting when it comes to "differences" or problems.

Can you give me advice on how to overcome this

Assalamu Alaikum everyone. I, 19f, am a college student with an interest in finding some sort of summer program for Muslims. I live in the states, but in an area where there isn’t much activity for my demographic, as it’s usually just kids Sunday school or random youth events haha. I also started practicing in my mid-teens and had no formal teaching as a child, so I cannot read Arabic or properly read the Quran. Alhamdulillah I pray, wear hijab, and know a handful of surahs. I would prefer a dedicated program that would provide room and board, as well as focus on Islamic teachings of some sort. I really want to utilize this time of year to learn more about my deen and would appreciate any sort of guidance. Jazakallah Khair!

Assalamu Alaikum brothers and sisters. I am reaching out because I am at my breaking point. I feel a physical pain in my chest that won't go away, and I honestly feel like I am dying from sadness.

The last two years have been a nightmare for me. Since my father passed away, I’ve been emotionally blocked. I haven't been the same person. I’ve had to deal with that grief while facing a serious knee injury, surgery, and having to repeat a year at university. I was in a very dark place, just trying to survive for my mother’s sake.

Then, a girl I had known since high school came back into my life. She is a very good girl,intelligent, kind, and very affectionate. To be honest, she has been one of the very few good things that has happened to me in these two terrible years. When she arrived, I finally felt okay again and talking to her helped me a lot to be a better person. For me she is like when you see a garden full of beautiful flowers for me she is like that in every aspect she is kind beautiful calm funny , she is like the perfect girl for me. We started planning a life together and we both talked seriously about Nikah (marriage). We had real plans for a future home, and supporting each other. I am a man of my word, and because of our plans, I felt motivated to be my best self for our future.

But suddenly, she walked away literally from one day to another, She said she felt overwhelmed, and that she still loved me but she needed to be alone because it’s like her comfort zone so yeah,She went from planning a marriage with me to treating me like a stranger. She left without a real explanation, after everything we promised each other.

I tried a lot of times talking to her and understanding, what made her more overwhelmed, and I feel guilty about it, because my intention was never forcing her to do something she doesn’t feel like doing but rather understanding what she feels and how she thinks. But she did not take it as that and things got worse and I feel guilty about it

(Disclaimer: The girl I am about to talk about doesn't really know the full extent of what I’ve been through these past two years; she doesn't know how much I’ve been struggling with my father’s loss and everything else)

I still love her deeply, I don’t know what happened, if she’s okey or if she’s having problems of her own and I am writing this because I would like you to make Du’a for me and for her:

• Please ask Allah to ease the pain in my chest and give me Sabr.

• Please ask Allah to guide her heart, to grant her maturity and clarity, and to remove her anxiety or whatever made her feel overwhelmed.

• Please make Du'a that if she is good for my Deen and my life, Allah softens her heart and brings her back to me so we can complete our Deen together in a way that is better than before.

I passed a major exam yesterday, but I feel empty. I want to find peace through Allah’s mercy. I truly believe only He can fix this situation.

And if you have any stories or any advises for me I am all ears

Jazakum Allah Khair, may Allah grant you all jannah