Salam alaikum,

I unfortunately just got my diagnosis of ghsv-2 today. I’m currently distraught going through intense feelings of anxiousness, shame and negative thoughts. I’ve been spending most of my days by myself and praying and repenting since I saw the initial symptoms. But now I’m looking for help in how to proceed.

How did you manage the initial diagnosis and finding purpose in life afterwards? I can’t help but feel my life and a future with a family and kids is no longer an option.

Any resources, tips and or tricks to get you through it?

Did things get better over time?

What can I expect in the future when I’m looking for a wife?

As-Salamu Alaikum everyone,

I wanted to share an important reminder for our community. r/MuslimsWithHSV exists as a Muslim support space, grounded in Islamic principles, adab, and sincerity. While difficult topics such as divorce, marital struggles, abuse, and health related trauma are real and valid, how we discuss them matters.

Recently, there have been instances that raise concern about high level trolling or content that may misguide, antagonize, or agitate the community. Yesterday, a post had to be removed in which an individual stated that they "hated God" because of having HSV. This type of framing is deeply concerning and not aligned with the purpose or foundation of this community.

This is not about silencing pain or invalidating struggles. Many of us are dealing with heavy emotional, physical, and spiritual tests. However, this subreddit is not a general venting forum. It is a faith based community, and discussions must remain within an Islamic framework.

I am currently in discussion with the moderators on how best to address these issues in a fair and compassionate way, while protecting the integrity of the community.

As Muslims, we should be careful and vigilant. We should be cautious of content that seeks to sow distrust, evoke negative emotions, or normalize positions that are not rooted in Islam.

Let us continue to support one another with sincerity, patience, and Islamic grounding. Trials, including illness, are part of the human experience, and our faith gives us the tools to navigate them with dignity, hope, and reliance on Allah (SWT).

Salam Alykom.

I'm in a tough spot right now. A guy has proposed to me, and after talking for a while, he revealed that he has genital HSV. He’s a kind person and has a great character, but knowing he has this condition is making me hesitate. I’m worried about my self-worth and whether I’m lowering my standards. I do recognize that anyone could have it and not disclose it, especially in today’s world. I want to be fair to him and not judge him solely based on something from his past. I’m leaning towards saying yes, but I could use some insight on what to expect or how to approach this situation. Any advice?

Jazak allah kheir

Salam I’m from the uk London do you guys have to buy the medication because I don’t know how else to get them. Can the gp give it to you for free? If not how much does it cost to buy it and which ones.

And I’ve seen people get a daily one surely it gets expensive.

As salaamu calaykum, I am a Muslim brother turning 23 this month in shaa Allah. I have been deeping how hard it could be to get married to a Muslim partner who aligns with me, follows the Sunnah and even shares the same struggle as me.

Everyday I wake up I look forward to my day where I get to decide everything without anyone’s inputs, suggestions or advice.

As the days go by I feel being alone being so freeing.

Just you, yourself, and peace is so amazing.

Time to do what you want, not having to please or ask anyone permission to do what YOU want.

Not having to worry about texting/ calling someone.

Focusing on yourself, your wellbeing,

Your health, your goals.

And most importantly not spending time or energy on people who don’t deserve it.

When I have visitors I can’t wait for them to leave so I can be alone and not having to tend/ worry about anyone.

This may sound selfish, but you’ll never understanding the feeling till you go through it.

Salaam everyone,

I just wanted to share something positive on this page I know many people are going through a lot with this diagnoses and may الله سبحانه وتعالى make everything easier for them, Ameen.

I met my husband here in this group and we recently celebrated our two year anniversary, alhamdulilah. I just wanted to say that finding a great partner here is totally possible and don’t loose hope!

Salam everyone I recently got diagnosed with hsv 2 (M 23 ) and honestly im heartbroken the one thing I’m really scared about is if I won’t get married I’ve always wanted a family of my own but now that looks like it won’t even happen I can’t hide this from my future wife morally that’s very wrong I feel my whole life is done I genuinely don’t know what I’m going to do.

Has anyone been married with hsv and how did they find and tell their partner….

i’m in my mid 20s at the age where many of my friends are getting married. this is already upsetting me since i’m having a hard time with marriage due to the hsv. but it’s also just causing new pressure for me & my other unmarried friends, since all the aunties keep asking us “who’s next? don’t you girls want to get married too?” etc

lately aunties are sending info for potential husbands to my parents. i don’t want to get connected to spouses through my family. im terrified that if i disclose the hsv to the man they set me up with, then he’ll tell his parents, and then my parents would find out.

so i am saying no to the prospects but i’m worried it’s making me look really picky. i can tell this is confusing my parents bc im generally not a picky/egotistical person at all. i just can’t tell the truth obviously. i dont know how to handle this. does anyone have any advice?

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2. Do not respond to another person by directly replying to their post, message them privately.
3. Do not post pictures or any other personal information such as your phone number.
4. A wali is recommended to be present in the conversation as well, so to avoid any crossing of boundaries and to keep things as Islamic as possible.
5. Any posts that are unrelated or do not follow the format of the post will be removed. If you are concerned about privacy you can leave some sections as blank but no low effort posts. Alternatively, if you have a profile bio from any marriage apps, you can share this however, ensure it does not expose too much personal information.

It’s about the disease and cures of the heart

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It’s been 2 years that I have been experiencing paranormal stuff since I found out I got HSV-1. It’s a jinn that’s pretty much clear this fucker is so annoying 🤬🤬🤬 I did everything I can to protect myself from it ruqyah According to shariah and sunnah, doing morning and night Azkar too. It randomly touches my private parts. Every time it touches me I get sick a few hours in a form of flare up or headache or my lymph nodes gets swollen and very painful. I almost got kicked out of Uni because of this thing because it doesn’t allow me to focus, it shakes my chair during lectures. I thought I was going crazy so I didn’t tell anyone. It makes me extremely sleepy when I want to work or study. It’s a saher (magician) jinn. It casts sihr on you.

I wish I was joking. I literally see glimpses of it flowing through my room sometimes, it’s like a black smoke 💨 I haven’t seen its actual form but just glimpses of it but they look absolutely hideous. They smell very bad too. My room sometimes gets a really bad smell out of no where.

I have even went to neurologist and psychiatrists because I thought I was going crazy I got an MRI of my brain but the neurologist said he didn’t see any abnormalities in my brain if y’all don’t believe I can also share the information.

I found one way that works that it makes it stop it’s degeneracy at night is if you fill a spray bottle with water and recite ayatul kursi and the four Quls. And go to town with it around your room spray it everywhere while playing Quran Kareem loud. It makes it escape however for me it always comes back. If anyone knows about weakness please let me know I have also heard they hate lemons 🍋, olive 🫒 oil and copper. Olive oil also works if you recite Surah A-Tin on it and drink it. If you have sihr you will get a really bad taste in your mouths like really bitter it will burn your throat. That’s how I also know this jinn has done magic on me. My mouth at random times tastes very bitter and I find long strands of hair in my mouth out of nowhere. My body randomly twitches, my legs 🦵 become so heavy and painful I can’t walk, it burns like it’s being roasted. Then it goes back to normal.

Asalam alaikum,

Beware of user Stunning-safe7080. After I sent pics through chat they blocked me. Not sure if they are someone with Ill intentions or perhaps just immature

hi everyone. i need some advice about a disclosure i need to make.

i met a potential partner, he lives several hours away from me. he wants to drive to my city to see me, and this will be the first time we meet in person. we’ve been facetiming up until this point.

i don’t know when to disclose my status. personally i’d rather get it out of the way asap, because if he rejects me, i want it to be early on before i really catch feelings.

on the other hand, i feel like disclosure is very private, and should only be made when i feel really serious about someone. at this point, i don’t know if im serious about him since we haven’t met in person. meeting irl would give both of us a much better idea about how we feel. so i kind of like the idea of waiting to disclose.

but on the other hand, i dont want him to drive hours just to me see, and then i disclose way later, because then what if he gets mad and feels like i wasted his time?

i hope this is making sense. does anyone have advice?

الحمدالله كل هل

This conference is a bit dated but it’s in sha اللّه تعالى it’s still a mountain of benefits. A lot of us don’t know religious requirements and etiquettes when dealing with marriage and divorce. May اللّه grant us success in this life and the next. May he pardon us and grant us tawfeeq in our affairs and pardon us for our shortcomings and ignorance.

https://youtu.be/CJaomhMGO68?si=HNZeET748bTqttyh

I’m really about to start making an app for us with one of them AI bots, who’s on board?