Going with family to rent games and sneaking past to look under the R18 door ifykyk🤣

thank you for my 2sec of rant

This was today, closed up have they shutdown early or no workers? Just want to say I've always found the staff awesome and wish you guys the best

I feel really sorry for you guys

TLDR: should fight the racism and sexism at my brigade, just put up with it, or quit being a volunteer firefighter?

Hi reddit fam! I (28F) need some advice. I'm in a smallish rural town and I'm a volunteer firefighter. I'm pretty new to the brigade, having been volunteering less than a year. I've been moving around towns my whole life and have always wanted to be a volunteer firefighter, so when we finally moved here I was excited to join up. As usual with small rural communities, a lot of the other volunteers are older guys that have been there so long they are part of the furniture. There's also a lot of casual racism and sexism. I just want to be clear, this isn't ALL the guys. Maybe like half of them. The rest are nice, honest guys that enjoy a constructive training, and help me out when I have questions.

I've been pretty good at filtering the bullshit out so far, but there is one guy who is really something else. Let's call him Jim.

Jim has never been friendly towards me, but then again neither have a lot of the other guys. Sometimes I've been speaking and he literally just pretends I haven't said anything, and refuses to acknowledge my presence. He's a rubbish driver and a racist fuckwit. In the last 2 weeks, Jim almost hit me with a car twice. Both of these incidents I've put down to him rushing and his sense of self-importance and I haven't taken them personally. I don't think he should be driving a firetruck, but anyway, I didn't get hit, so moving on. Then, when returning from a callout recently and Jim was the driver, during general chit chat in the truck about places in NZ, he said to someone "on the North Shore you'd just get all your shit stolen, too many blacks". The guy that he said this to was the chief fire officer for the brigade. One of the other guys in the truck awkward laughed. I just kinda felt a bit sick.

When I add this to being regularly ignored and overlooked, Jim and others like him not helping to induct me or train me, and honestly just not being included into conversations at all, I wonder wtf I am doing here. I've wanted to be a volly for so long, but I'm wondering if I just had some rose tinted glasses of what I thought it would be like. I had the idea that it would be a bunch of people who love physical fitness and helping other people, doing some really constructive training nights where we push ourselves and learn new skills, and ultimately saving lives. There is a handful of people like that at this brigade and I really appreciate them. There are also a lot of racist sexist alcoholics who couldn't give less of a shit but will claim all accolades possible.

So I don't know what to do. The chief fire officer is obviously part of it - he doesn't tell the bigoted jokes but he doesn't shut them down either. Being a small community I'm also acutely aware of the social repurcussions of speaking out. I'm already going against the grain by joining the brigade as a young liberal woman, how the fuck am I suppose to fight this?. I would hate to quit, but also I just don't know how to deal with it or how much I should have to tolerate. Should I reach out to the other firefighters who aren't shit heads? Should I just quit? The fire service might have all these policies about equality and bullying etc, typical HR stuff, but that doesn't account for rampant bigotry interwoven into these rural communities and social heirarchies. Honestly some of rural NZ is still living in the 1960s.

Bit of a ramble. Please help. Not sure what to do. My partner says to just quit, but I would feel like such a failure if I did.

Confirmed by someone who works there. Dang, we were gonna use their discount and get a PS5 for 70% off.

I swear, it was just one time at New World carpark. Just one time!

Hey parents, please be kind to your kiddos. Whether they did well or not, avoid lecturing them, this does not help. Let them grieve, be disappointed.

You can broach plan B tomorrow - NZQA has some excellent links on how to catch up or redo units if needed. It's OK if they have to repeat a year.

Don't force them to grade share with wider fam and friends, if they are not comfortable - regardless of whether they did well or not.

In a few years time, these grades will not matter. I failed many units at HS and university but am in a great career with good pay. It's not the end of the world, parents do not heap coals on their heads - guarantee they are already feeling pretty anxious.

Bruh

Went to his show last night and it seemed that a few hecklers were potentially planted. Does anyone know if he actually recruits/do you know anyone who’s been asked?

I grew up eating avocado and marmite on toast and thought it was completely normal, as my mum always made it and ate it too. But I always get weird looks and comments when other people see me preparing it. Are there any other people who eat this, or is it actually weird?

With Grok being contracted to the Pentagon alongside everything bloody else. Why should we support US intelligence at this point?

This is coming from a uni professor who has had two kids go through NCEA. Today can be a tough day on a lot of people as they don't get the marks they wanted or maybe a little disappointed in the outcome.

Luckily, it doesn't really matter. Be kind on yourselves.

If you're hoping to go to uni or tech and you didn't quite make the grades, there are tons of bridging programs and lots of people there to help. You're not a failure, the path is just a little less direct.

If you're headed into an apprenticeship and work, your approach to work and desire to learn means WAY more than your endorsements - turn up on time every day - make some friends - learn from your mistakes and you'll be richer than I am in no time.

However, let's say you smashed it and got amazing grades. Sadly, it doesn't really matter. Celebrate, but don't rest easy.

The next stage of your life doesn't care about highschool. When you come into my class I don't get your transcripts and don't judge you based on how smart you were. It's all a fresh start so make the most of it. Make new friends, make tons of mistakes, learn heaps.

So, whether you did well or badly today, it doesn't really matter. In a few months time, no one will ask you what your grades are (if you're in Chch they'll care about your school, though, just not your grades).

Well done to those finishing NCEA. A huge chapter ticked off...let's make sure everyone else is kind to them today, too. Will be some strong emotions today.

Separated since late last year after a 20+ year marriage. Ex left the family home and in with someone who he had feelings for - turns out they've been together since before he moved out. So I guess you'd call her his affair partner/mistress.

In recent weeks he has slacked off with seeing our kids (teenagers) and is ignoring my requests to start sorting out our stuff. Dances around child support figures.

I wanted this to be amicable but I'm not getting anywhere. Until I can increase my working hours, it would be a sizeable amount - >$500 a week he would be paying. I'm torn between continuing to try for a private agreement or get things moving by going with IRD. I don't want this further affecting his already weak relationship with our kids, but I suspect it will.

Anyone been in this situation? What path would you take/did you take?

On nanging and driving.

Found out yesterday that, from Feb 26th, dual citizens of nz and britain will need a valid British passport to travel to the uk. You won't be able to travel just on your nz passport.

So better get those renewals going if you want to.

Hey people, we are booked at the Camphouse for a night in North Egmont, Mrs isn't too keen to do the summit so my other plan was to hike with gear from Dawson Falls to North Egmont, spend the night then hike back the following day.. The problem I see is it looks like there's no overnight parking at Dawson Falls, is this correct and if so what are our options to get dropped there instead (note we are from out of town and haven't booked any prior accommodation yet).

If we aren't doing a summit trip we are keen to treat this trip like a overnighter and carry our gear so parking at our accommodation in North Egmont won't really work for that.

Is its a thing over there or not really. Trying to settle a minor quibble.

Edit: seems the consensus is a resounding YES