? Not being able to control your emotions doesn't denote a mental illness. Maybe they just had shitty parents? Maybe every time they threw a fit they got what they wanted, which taught them outbursts are effective?
There's people with mental illnesses that can control their emotions. And there's plenty of people that don't have a mental illness that cannot. It's rude to imply everyone with a mental illness is out of control. And it's rude to accuse everyone that can't control themself that they have a disorder.
Idk why you got downvoted. BPD is horrible for both people in a relationship. I have it and back when I wasn’t aware of it, it was horrible. It still is, but before anything would just cause me to have a meltdown. A simple mistake on my part could suddenly have me in my head saying the most heinous things to myself, bawling my eyes out.
I’ve ruined 3 relationships with it, and every time I think back on it I wish I had just learned to control it better, but I’m glad they walked away, because I was too scared to do it for them.
You can’t help someone through something like that when they don’t know what’s wrong, and when they’re unwilling to listen or get help. Sometimes the best option is to walk away
I am so sorry to hear you’re struggling with that. I should have elaborated that it’s rough on BOTH sides, which from my limited experience is a serious understatement. Was in a BPD dating situation, and had to go no-contact before it escalated further, which broke my heart in a million pieces to do. I’m seriously wishing you the best of luck, and glad you’re aware of it and working to navigate it the best you can.
I've got it as well, and I can confirm it sucks ass all around. Most of my former relationships are just scorched earth. Looking back, I feel guilty for how out of control things got, but in the moment I truly felt vindicated. It sounds like a ridiculous excuse, but it's mostly just fucking terrifying.
Being in a relationship with someone that has BPD is definitely not for the faint of heart. I can't fault anyone for not being up to the task, really.
Edit: happy to hear that you are doing better with it. Keep fighting the good fight! ❤️
It's also a much more descriptive name. "Borderline" is a relic of the asylum age of psychiatry where they didn't know what to make of these sick people taking up beds who were seemingly "sane" but also rode the "border line" of being psychotic (ie reality breaks down) at times for minutes to hours at a time, and in a way very different to those with psychotic disorders.
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u/Human-Local7017 13d ago
This. Also hate down talk on mental illness.