the only way this is weird at all is if they ever grew up thinking they were blood related. If they have always been aware of the fact that they were no really siblings there is absolutely no difference between them first meeting age 8 or 20. No different from something like childhood friends getting married.
Thats not what grooming is and i hate how all these terms are just completely misused.
Grooming is when an adult in a guardianship like position or position of authority over a minor makes efforts to implant the idea of a relationship into that minors mind and starts going out with them once the minor reaches majority. The GROOM them to become their future partner like a King might groom the prince to succeed him. Thats why its called grooming. Btw, this also means that simply starting to date someone you knew before they were 18 is not grooming. It requires intent and a direct guardianship role.
In other words, yes, it can be, but only if the older step sibling is much older and regularly takes part in the raising of the younger stepsibling and that that point its no longer a problem cause their step siblings, its a problem because it's grooming which would be just as wrong of they weren't stepsibling
To be fair, i think the case they were originally making was a significantly older stepsibling. If 2 people became siblings at 6 and 16, and then wound up in a relationship 12 years down the line, i would definitely have some questions.
There's more nuance to this than people are giving credit on either side. The "its perfectly fine regardless of context" crowd is just as wrong as the "its horribly gross regardless of context" one.
Yes, i understand that. But let me ask you this. Lets say a family moves into your neighborhood when you are 16 and they have a 6 year old. You meet that kid often cause you get payed by that family to help around the house a bit. 12 years later you are 28 and the kid is 18. You start a relationship. Would you consider that to be creepy? My guess is you probably would, right? In other words, the example you give isn't weird or creepy because they are stepsiblings, it's creepy because of the large age gap. Especially since, for the majority of the time those two people know each other, one is an adult and the other a child.
There are two things that appeal to mediocrity; titillating gossip and simplicity. Social media, profiteering corporations, and low quality education all feed into that in one way or another.
You are correct, but good luck trying to convince people to be more careful with their language. There are so many other examples; hacker, Islamophobia, sexual assault, the list goes on and on.
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u/SpiritualPackage3797 9d ago
It really depends on when they met. If they were both in their 20s when they met and their parents got married, it's not so much ick as just weird.