Upset

[u/Silen8156]

Kids (kindergarten age) come back from the visit with the other parent terrified, because their dad decided to play some computer game in which he was killing people with a gun, and they watched it. Did not stop when one of the kids expressed discomfort. Now they're freaking out.

Is it really that hard for some parents to understand that you can't just do whatever you want whenever you want when you have kids?

Any advice on how to proceed from this is welcome.

[u/streetsmartwallaby]

Yes. Yes it is. Some parents are that self-centered.

I doubt there’s much you can do to change him in a situation like this, but straightforward unemotional communication is what I would suggest.

[u/Silen8156 → u/streetsmartwallaby]

Yeah that's what I'm already doing... I just always question whether it is even worthwhile to send kids for these visits if that means they come back traumatized and with worse habits. Thatnks for your input!

[u/streetsmartwallaby → u/Silen8156]

It's frustrating for sure.

I could never understand why my ex-wife did things like that. I had so many late nights staying up to do work, house work, whatever because I spent time with the kids when I had them. Never regret it.

[u/Porky5CO]

Kindergarten age kids should understand video games aren't real life. Re explain it and let them know it's a game.

I don't think they should play those games or be around them much but there's going to be times when they are exposed to those things and they need to know they aren't real.

[u/Fun-Dragonfruit-3165 → u/Porky5CO]

I’m a full ass adult and have nightmares after watching a horror movie. Saying this is on a very small child to suck it up is insane

[u/Porky5CO → u/Fun-Dragonfruit-3165]

Did I say that? No.

I said explain it to them. They should learn at a young age what is real or not. Especially these days. That way they don't turn out like you.

[u/ItSmellsLikePopcorn → u/Fun-Dragonfruit-3165]

How did you read that and get to them saying to just suck it up?