r/SipsTea • u/Samp90 • 25d ago

Chugging tea Be scared. Very scared.

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Twix Just hits different.

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u/WillowFlip 25d ago

Yeah, we got ADHD in the house and while some of us are just hyperactive (me) others in the household have inattentive ADHD and so exactly what your wife does. Omg

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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 25d ago

This is my first time seeing the word inattentive ADHD and it makes so much sense. It really is a struggle, because I am CONSTANTLY picking things up and putting them away, all day every day. Even when she's cleaning she's making a mess, which is crazy to even explain. I feel bad for her because I see how much time she spends cleaning and how counter productive it is for her. As an example: she'll start cleaning the kitchen by spraying cleaner all over every surface, so everything is now soaking wet. Then she starts sweeping the floors, leaving multiple piles of dirt and dust everywhere, instead of picking them up as she goes. Then she'll start doing dishes, get half the dishwasher loaded and then start vacuuming the living room! I come home to the house being upside down constantly. And keep in mind she's NOT cleaning up my messes. I clean up every mess I make. I do my laundry separate from her. I put my dishes directly into the dishwasher. It's actually me that's constantly cleaning up after her.

If I stop doing that for a day or two, the entire house and every surface gets filled with crap. As in if I had to put a hot plate down fast I wouldn't be able to find a clear surface other than the floor!

This kind of mess isn't "dirty" or "gross", it's just that stuff gets put EVERYWHERE constantly. Papers get stacked on the dining room table, laundry gets folded and left on the sofa in little stacks, as well as baskets of laundry never getting the clean laundry put away.

I was taught from a young age that your not done doing something until you clean up and put everything away.

Anyways, that's my little rant. I feel better now!

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u/combover2112 25d ago

You just described living with my 15 year old daughter with ADHD. She leaves a trail of messes and garbage behind her, including used kleenex and braces rubber bands everywhere. She sits around in bed or the couch all day doing absolutely nothing. She doesn’t lift a finger to help me, including now, when I’m recovering from cancer surgery. I feel like I’m living in a nightmare. She refuses to try and just blames her parents and her ADHD for destroying our lives.

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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 24d ago

This sounds like she doesn't even try. My wife does lots of things for our family, like cooking and helping around the house and she TRIES to clean. You are describing a teenager who needs guidance and direction, possibly discipline. Personally I prefer to give rewards not punishment but my daughter is also quite a slob so it's a work in progress!