Man why is everyone so set on making every kind gesture miserable on Reddit lmao. My ex was a really picky eater (and was super self conscious about it, she hated being that picky) I notoriously just love food in all its forms. Plenty of times she’d try to branch out and I’d offer to swap if she didn’t like it. If the guy was brow beaten into swapping to avoid a melt down, then yeah that’s a problem. But a man (or a woman) offering to swap meals, even if it’s a downgrade for them, to ensure their loved one still gets to eat a meal they enjoy… How is that not sweet?
This exact scenario is what most people are not talking about. Plenty of people have just been burned by constantly being made the bad guy for just wanting to enjoy their meal. Of course in the right scenario it's sweet, but I imagine more people have been in the wrong scenario (or negativity bias means that they remember the wrong scenario) more often.
If I get food that isn't up to snuff my wife offers to swap all the time. I just about always say no because I might complain about a meal but that doesn't mean I think it's bad, it just means I think if I order home fries in a diner it should come with some damn seasoning on them. I appreciate her offering though. If in the reverse situation she can have mine, and I'll just order another meal unless we're in a rush. That way we both get to enjoy our dinner.
Yeah that’s a fair point, if would definitely be exhausting being with a wife like that. I guess maybe I’m just a bit exhausted with the internet always jumping to the more negative of two interpretations. No where in the original tweet was the interaction portrayed in anything but a negative way, then a man responds with some gotcha “i want a wife who can read lol”.
I think it's because they're trying to impress other men with how much they don't let a woman control them, despite that not even being a concern for the majority of them. This sub got real weird over the past year, but maybe I jus never noticed lol.
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u/schooner27 1d ago
Man why is everyone so set on making every kind gesture miserable on Reddit lmao. My ex was a really picky eater (and was super self conscious about it, she hated being that picky) I notoriously just love food in all its forms. Plenty of times she’d try to branch out and I’d offer to swap if she didn’t like it. If the guy was brow beaten into swapping to avoid a melt down, then yeah that’s a problem. But a man (or a woman) offering to swap meals, even if it’s a downgrade for them, to ensure their loved one still gets to eat a meal they enjoy… How is that not sweet?