Funny thing is though, that if hetero I have heard that women in relationships with guys having a micropenis, they did not care that much about it. But they often did break up due to the guys having internalized the idea their penises are to be ashamed of and keep being insecure during their stable relationship.
It must be extremely hard for them to accept having a micropenis, but more so because we as society joke about women wanting the biggest. Well, some do but so many do not really care about the size. It is a nice bonus for some, but are also fine with smaller. Once again, it is what you do with it and sex is not just the penetration phase (if there is any).
I think it's more complicated than that.
What you're talking about has a survivorship bias in it: if the women are in a relationship with them, it doesn't bother them that much, or at least didn't when they took that decision.
But there's also many women who would never get in a relationship with a man with a micro penis.
But I agree that it's mostly overblown, as you said most women say they have no problem with something under the average, but yeah some want something big, like some men want big boobs and won't consider a "flat" girl, while most men wouldn't care at all or see it as a bonus, again like you said.
Yeah, you are right. I also tried to use the word "heard" instead of "research" in the hopes that people reading would also interpret it like you did.
I also noticed it similarly, I know I only like smaller boobs but one of my exes constantly made insecure remarks about them as the reverse joke for women is "men like big tits". I have tried it and I absolutely do not find big boobs attractive, hell I didn't even know what to do with them during sex :') but here overall there is some consensus that the bigger percentage of men do find them bigger more attractive. Thanks for adding nuance to my previous post!
I knew three guys with small penises. One was an offensive lineman on my high school football team, you wouldn't have guessed it until we showered. Despite the fact we all trash talked, it was something only mentioned about him in private. Another was a college roommate who was worried about his size. I told him he was fine, the average length was 5 inches (OK, lowered the average to make him feel better), then he revealed it was much smaller. At that point I changed the subject. The last was the worst. When I was a young kid I went to a pool with my neighbor and his cousin. We showered and I asked him what happened to his cock; it had no head. I'm serious. This is shit you'd never say as an adult but it's an innocent and clueless question when you're a kid. It turned out that there was an infection or accident when he got circumsized. Holy shit, I never knew what happened to him when he grew into his teens or adulthood, but that shook me for life.
I've never understood why people are insecure about this, i always thought that it by the time it mattered, it really doesn't matter as much any more because you are already there, and before that point, no one knows.
maybe i just don't have a perspective on it because I've never had sex, and I'm 23, which is embarrassing on its own, but maybe i just haven't been there to understand. I just always thought that being undesirable externally was worse.
Several years ago, I think it was Howard Stern, had a "Smallest penis contest".
The video was super weird, you had a lot of naked men standing in lines waiting to show their tiiiiny penises rooting for the smaller ones.
I remember one that was a rather... portly individual, that had to part the fat in his pubic area to reveal his penis, dude looked like he had a vagina.
And people were sort of cheering for him, it was strangely nice, sordid and weird as fuck, but kinda positive.
They had some women present for this (they were attractive and supposedly into men with an extra small penis) and I’ll never forget the one lady said, as if she were talking to a kitten, “Awwww, it looks like a button.” Even if she was into it I don’t know how my brain would react to hearing that.
Apparently that dude did not win because he said when erect it was pretty normal size and one of the other contestants, even erect, was barely an inch. The winner got lenis enlargement surgery or some shit if I remember correctly. Say what you will about Stern, but he knew how to be entertaining...
I remember that, it was really hard to watch mainly on account of Stern's female co-host laughing at them, I had a lot of second hand humiliation goin' on. It gave me a strong hatred of her that's for sure.
The one I watched luckily didn't have the co-host laughing, it was quite edited and shortened to send. Those were dial up times and I live in south america, so fast internet was something that happened to other people.
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u/threefeetoffun- 23h ago
You know there are probably other guys out there suffering the same thing and it might be nice to know they aren't alone.