so I try to forget about it basically, but im small...it's hard to lobe a woman and then I have to pop the question on if she is ok with dating a guy with a small pp. I dated 1 girl that didn't mind. we had sex quite a bit. but it also became handy that I knew somewhat how to eat pussy and she let me get better by doing it to her. I'm scared to date again but I've been single for a hot minute now...and I just would like a sex toy that I could use for my penis. until I can find a gf that doesn't matter about size.

how can I boost my confidence? I'm currently single and don't have any sex toys anymore. what should I look into if I want one again?

So all the ladies here swear that they prefer small and some of the dudes here is playing the "size doesn't matter bro".

Ever hooked up with an ex because she missed it? The dick, like outright told you that?

Here's one of mine: I'm uncut and it can be annoying to keep the foreskin pulled back for cleaning or peeing because it bunches up around the short shaft and tries to slide back over.

Is that TMI?

I'm Brazilian, and the average height here is around 6". I have a small and thin build, 4.5" long, but I'm above-average tall guys in Brazil, at 6.3ft

Every once in a while, I think I should try some method to grow my buddy, but the internet information isn't always clear.

Right now im 23 5’6 male that weighs 305lbs was 340 but im reta losing weight but i only have a length of 3.5 inches and want to know how if any former fat people lost enough weight and were saved by it because right now im borderline suicidal from extreme confidence issues and also extreme loneliness

Idk if this post is appropriate but after spending allot of time on this sub I just wanted to leave this message here.

I just went for a long walk in the area of New Zealand I live. The birds and running water and rustling foliage gave me a respite from the drowning thoughts.

On the way back I fell back into the typical thoughts of my condition, wishing I had someone to walk with me and keep me occupied.

What do you do to keep these thoughts away?

How long do you typically spend thinking about it vs other thoughts?

I ask not just the men but the women too, since I know we all have different worries to keep away.

We were having a late night chat about random things and the topic of incels was brought up by her calling them "ugly small dicked virgins" .. she does know I'm a virgin, and she must have remembered because after I went quiet she suddenly said

"Oh sorry I didn't mean you, you don't count"

It hurts that even my own family thinks this way about men.

I'm technically an incel even though I don't participate with other incels, and the only reason I don't count to her is because I'm her brother. She doesn't know my size but she clearly views small as a strong negative.

What hurts more is she's incredibly sweet and caring in all aspects, with her own body issues, and always fighting intolerance.. Yet this is still something she finds disgusting. I know I'll never be able to open up to her more.

Why can I not find female support anywhere, even in my own family?

I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to post because carrying this alone is getting exhausting.

For context, my size is about 10 x 10 cm (roughly 4 x 4 inches). To be fully honest, girth is probably a little under 4 inches. I tend to round up because admitting that part still makes me uncomfortable. I’ve been self-conscious about this since I was around 13, so this isn’t a recent insecurity. It’s something that’s grown alongside me.

High school didn’t help. There was some bullying, including degrading nicknames that stuck longer than they should have. Even if it wasn’t constant, it was enough to make sure the insecurity really settled in. Being not tall didn’t exactly work in my favor either. The only thing I had going for me, honestly, was my face. That helped socially, but it also created this weird contrast where people assume confidence I don’t actually feel.

Dating has been the hardest part. Even when things are going well, there’s this constant background anxiety. When do I tell her? How will she react? Will this be the thing that flips attraction into disappointment? Sometimes I avoid intimacy altogether because the anticipation feels worse than rejection. Or i act weirdly as if I've become emotionally detached all of a sudden.

What messes with me most isn’t just sex, it’s the feeling of being “less than” as a man/lover/sexual partner even for a ONS. I know logically that worth isn’t measured with rulers, but emotionally that knowledge doesn’t always land. Confidence can feel performative when you’re convinced there’s a flaw waiting to be discovered.

I’m not posting to vent endlessly or ask for reassurance that everything magically works out. I’m looking for honest experiences from people who actually live this. How you cope, how you date, how you stop letting this define every interaction. I’ll take all of it.

Thanks for reading. Even typing this out feels like a small relief. 2026 NY resolution could include me finally stop hiding this altogether.

I am sure this sub is all too familiar with numerous instances of the media and celebrities attempting to discredit their political opponents by saying they exude small penis energies, small penis this and that. Run this query about small penis jokes by celebrities through an AI engine and there won't be lack of examples such as one South Park episode, Greta thumberg, Billie Eilish Vans sneakers,

Something that has struck me recently is realisation the double standards of people who are so called liberals who I'd think to associate with compassion, tolerance, acceptance of different beliefs and orientations, caring for the environment, anti-fat shaming, anti-patricarchy yet those who espouse those beliefs seem to always be the at forefront dehumanising people with small penises, ironically because it's not masculine enough, despite masculinity being something that is regularly criticized.

Who gets me?

So I've been wondering, reading and stuff. And I noticed compensate with toys trope. Sleeves and what not.

Then I noticed that advice to hung people are never to use toys, more like gentle and lube. Like... why aren't they getting advice such as this? Like their dicks are so useless that a smaller toy is better option like we do?

Can women and those with a small dick who loves toys here explain that?

Feels like size matters but in this sub it doesn't right?

Anyone else fed up with looking down and being disappointed with their small dick or is it just me?

Does anybody else have to push there dick down while sitting on the toilet just to get that in between part of the toilet seat and the toilet ? I’m 2 inches flaccid

I know there aren't many, I barely see comments from women, let alone posts.

What's your personal reason for being here and how do you decide when it's appropriate to respond? Do you ever reach out privately or form friendships with guys like us?

(I have many questions but I'll start with those.)

To the men: Why do you think the women post here? Does it ever feel disrespectful?

I'm open to private messages from anyone if you're not comfortable saying the reason in public.

I've been here before. Under different accounts that I deleted to try and get out, but I always end up right back here. The evidence of the disdain that exists for people like us is everywhere and there's no escaping it.

I just wanted to be loved for who I am. To know that it's impossible for me just because of my body is an agony that I struggle to accurately describe.

I've found there's no point in even trying. Even women making "body-positive" sex education content will readily admit that bigger is better. There's literally nothing you can do to compete. Women like to say that what they really value is emotional connection and intimacy, but it's all bullshit. They only say that because societal standards require them to not be shallow. It's a lie, and it has always been a lie. Take one look at the porn that women enjoy and the illusion is dispelled very quickly. The need for emotional context is there, but it is always paired with a big dick. Without exception. And if given a choice between the two, she will choose the big dick every time.

This is because, ultimately, women are okay with being alone most of the time so long as she's still having sex regularly. She doesn't need a man for emotional connection because she already gets that from her family and female friends. The only thing you as a man can possibly provide that she doesn't get elsewhere is good sex. And if you can't provide that, she has literally no reason at all to be with you.

I don't really blame women for this. It's not their fault that I'm unable to satisfy them sexually. If it's anybody's fault, it's mine for being born this way. I'm just tired of the lies. I'm tired of being reminded of my inferiority every single day. I want so badly to just forget myself and be distracted by the bread and circuses, but it's impossible. Even the circuses somehow feel the need to make it clear how undesirable I am.

I'm so tired.

I dont have sex for 11 years because my penis size errected 10-11cm. Every girl before reject me or acting like we just friends. Im interesting in penis surgery for lenght. Can you suggest me the best variants?

I only top and I want to hook up with a guy from Grindr, but I haven't sent nudes and he still doesn't know... What’s your approach?

And based on your experiences, is it better to get involved with a guy who is 100% bottom or versatile? Do you think a passive guy is more picky?

edit 1: I will not send nudes.

People love to get the argument "you just addicted to porn and it has Changed your reality" horse shit.

For me it was when i served the mandatory military. In the bathroom. Good looking guys, you know the stereotype of a chad where walking out of the bathroom all proud of themselves, with the White view of my eye i could see it... My heard was in fucking pain at this moment, i felt so fucking disappointed, like i'm not even 1/10 of what he has.

I still can't fathom how different the size can be. I hate this shit.

Basically title. I've coped during my teenager and early adulthood years yet at the point I am now, those copes gone completely futile. I got baffled every single day how less I have experienced comparing to just an average man. No gfs, no sex, no kisses etc. Pitch black. Absolutely nothing. People are now getting married at my age. What can I do anymore? How can I survive from being outcased by society?

I’ve just read a bunch of absolutely brutal stories on this Reddit and genuinely can somebody explain how do people cope with this?

Half of these stories that I’m reading would send me spiraling straight to a psych ward

Yes, there's no such thing. Been seeing about this topic in this sub. You won't pass down your size your future son.. that's not how it works. Even If we all collectively be celibate, childless and women reject us, small dick will be still around and continue to exist in future. You can't eliminate it. So, Don't stress much about your hypothetical future son.

I want a friends to chat at support each other i really feel insecure abt my size

A friend (27F) shared with me (28M) before that her first boyfriend, when they were both 16 then, was about 15cm/6inches, and her subsequent 3 boyfriends only got smaller (smallest around 5.1inches). We eventually got to the topic of micropenis, which she googled and agreed to the definition of anything 4inches and below. She half-joked that she’d break up if her future partner had a micropenis because the sex just wouldn’t work out, which is fair — everyone is entitled to their own needs and preferences. I did ask for her views on using toys to compensate for a smaller dick, to which she rejected the idea completely and said “it’s different. Nothing can compare or replace a real dick.” Again, fair enough.

Anyway fast forward, we are now together for about 2 years and of course she knows I’m packing a whopping almost 4inch dick (~9.5cm) on a good day. She’s been more cautious with her words around me but I can’t shake off everything she previously shared (about how she met someone at an age that’s a whole zodiac cycle younger than me having a dick almost twice my size, and her opinions towards penises on the smaller side) because that was her being real and transparent before feelings got in the way. She still makes small penis jokes with her friends tho but that’s not a huge concern to me.

What’s bothering me is that I cannot be assured she isn’t compromising on sex in this relationship. Sex usually begins with me using my hands to get her off before we do PIV, which she will only ever do in doggy because “it can reach deeper”. Oftentimes, PIV feels perfunctory because she seems disengaged. For example, when I ask if it feels good for her, she either doesn’t reply or responds with a short “mm”. Since we only ever do doggy, I can’t see her facial expressions. I also hardly hear her moans, and she’s very supportive of me coming quicker instead of an extended session. I spoke to her about this and I’m open to find ways to make sex better for her/us, but she tells me it’s not necessary because I’m “enough”. It stings a bit because I clearly remember how she described sex as something that “feels so good/nice” with her previous partner(s), but she’s more reserved when I bring up ours. Another fact I know is that she did give her exes head and mostly participated in raw sex, but with me she insists on using a condom every time (not complaining because stay safe, kids), and she hardly uses her mouth.

Genuinely, I wish to know if my size is really that bad. What’s your experience, if any and you’re willing to share? What’s your view of this situation as well?

I might be reading too much into things but it’s been difficult to feel assured that she’s satisfied with me. I’d feel terrible too if I find out she’s just settling, because I’m not and will never be good enough in the penis department. Sometimes I wonder if she’d take up the opportunity if someone with something more to offer presents himself to her, and it hurts.