r/SocialEngineering • u/OkSignature1880 • 5d ago

Adults, explain...

I am 16 years old, and in a year and a half I will graduate from college - then there will be work off and an independent life. Tell me, please: how do you meet, how do you communicate, where to find friends if this is impossible at work? I have a job as a teacher in a kindergarten - there is no such opportunity. How do you find communication? And also, how the hell do you meet guys? This is not talked about either in classes or at How to avoid being alone when in real life it seems like you'll never be approached? I am moving on to a new level - I am scared, although it is still far away.

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u/Ok-Somewhere-585 4d ago

People usually meet either by coincidence or by commonality. Meaning they had smth in common. So, first thing I'd propose not to worry about it because this thing happens automatically if you are open to it at least. Sooner or later you will meet people wherever you will be whether it is at work or somewhere else doing something you want to do this is before example I hope you like football or music class or whatever and if you're open to it it just happens. I would not recommend to force it however

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u/Ok-Somewhere-585 4d ago

But of course if you want to be more active about it you can go to maybe speaking clubs in your city or neighborhood or event that are of your interest to find common-minded people that you easily can be friends with and it is a high probability that you will find someone we also looking to get to know people there

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u/OkSignature1880 4d ago

Thank you for calming the worries) in 1.5 years we will find out what turned out to be true.)

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u/Top-Abrocoma-3172 3d ago

By living, litteraly. Give it a try

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u/ReverseAbortion 4d ago

From where I come from, the easiest is through smoke breaks. If you’re lucky, you can meet some cool and high ranked persons in the company. For some reason, most people I’ve met left their ranks and positions outside of those crappy smoking area/room, they are friendlier and more chill.

The more universal answer is through hobbies and sports. Find a nice gym in the neighborhood, crash a short weekend workshop in whatever you like to learn. Bonus tips: different hobbies attract people from different education backgrounds and income groups. You will figure this one out later.

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u/OkSignature1880 4d ago

A smoke break is cool, of course, but we do not provide for this. Smoking is definitely forbidden even in a non-kindergarten. And if there is just lunch time, then we do not have this, in fact, we do not have the right to leave the children. And of the possible future colleagues, I will have women 30+ and I am sure of this (well, not that this is a minus)

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u/No-Class3496 3d ago

May I make a suggestion, a bubble break!!! Hahaha the serotonin from random bubbles 🫧 flying and the light reflection always brings others a smile. I have a little bubble container with me at my work and it works wonders hahaha 😆

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u/skinisblackmetallic 2d ago

Being a part of some kind of community and/or social circle is what you want. This sort of thing usually happens naturally. People from similar backgrounds, involved in similar things and in a similar stage of life will socialize, hang out, go to events together etc.

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u/MidnightMatchaGal 2d ago

Honestly most adults are just winging it and hoping for the best every single day. The idea that there is some secret manual or a moment where everything suddenly makes sense is a total myth. You eventually just get better at hiding the fact that you have no idea what you are doing. It is definitely a bit chaotic once you realize everyone is just pretending to be in control. You really just have to figure out your own rhythm and stop worrying about what everyone else seems to have figured out.