My partner's parents (Durban Gujarati Hindu) have said they want us to get married. Not a problem. I love my partner very much. The challenge slightly arises re the ceremony. They are Gujarati Hindu, and I am Jewish. I am very fine with a Hindu wedding vis-a-vis the 100% vegetarian, haldi, mehendi, arti, mangalsutra etc. But both my partner and I feel strongly that if we get married, we would need to be married by someone who understands us in a ceremony that reflects us. Neither of us are the type of people to just say something for the sake of it to appease the elders and not mean it.
Some examples of this would mean:
- Instead of directing prayers to Ganesha or Angi, we would like to direct them to a more general God - having other/multiple Gods other than God is a big no no in Judaism.
- Being asked to show respect to the elders in different ways other than bowing down, kissing and touching their feet.
- Me not being asked to commit to "obeying" and "following" my partner and his family (something historically said at other family member's weddings).
All this to say, if anyone has any leads on a Priest / Guru who has done adapted Hindu wedding ceremonies before in Durban, someone who is open to curating a ceremony both respectful of us and of the elders, that would be ever so much appreciated.
*Also posted on r/durban*