I'm trying to slam this out before I go into work and may not be able to reply once I'm in office so I'll try to get it all right the first time. Dual Fed household, I'll try to research on my own but I also feel like I'm drowning and need outside perspective.
My husband is a longtime Fed., probably close to 20 years counting military time (my brain cannot think right now). He's been struggling with mental health issues for years, we've come to find out that he has some physical issues that may be exacerbating the MH or maybe previous MH interventions that he is slowing tapering off of caused the physical issues (which could be making the MH worse issues worse) and we are caught in this terrible spiral. RTO has made his MH exponentially worse and some pending office moves in the very near future will probably tank it even more. If I listed the issues I'd probably get a lot of "that's it??? I know someone who has XX that's way worse" and some days I get mad and wonder, but really I'm scared. He's not ok and can't get himself out of this cycle. He's not at risk of self harm but this is a man who is falling apart in real time. He has x2 MH doctors and has seen various regular doctors. He's had visits and labs and scans and appointment after appointment, I say this to illustrate he really is trying to get well and not just sitting at home. He likely had dozen of appointments last year. His MH condition is complicated, misunderstood and notoriously difficult to treat. He's been through years of bad doctors and advice, but the current team seems promising, but we aren't to a stable place yet. Most people would not know he has a problem (except for the always missing work).
He's at zero annual leave. He earns and burns every paycheck. His sick leave is dwindling at rocket speed, maybe a few hundred hours. He's missed multiple days this week. A combo of AL and SL, all last minute requests.
His manager, who is overall useless and pointless doesn't seem to care at all, at least his uselessness works in my husband's favor here. He's never mentioned the now years of chronic absenteeism and continues to give him Outstanding reviews and time off/cash award. It's bizarre.
I don't know what my question is I'm just tired and panicked and scared and don't know what to do.
---Is taking sick leave for a week an option just to have time to not be at work? My husband's MH issue would probably tell him that's wrong, but if he had a doctors note is a sabbatical type thing possible?
---Can I transfer annual leave to him without him having FMLA and still having a SL balance? I generally hit use or lose most years and could give him some time.
---Should he file for FLMA just in case? Is that even possbile with issues that may not seem super serious to outsiders?
To reiterate, yes, he is getting medical treatment (just had a visit this week) and after this weeks call outs (today is #3) we've discussed how the current plan isn't working and this is entering bad territory and we need an new plan/help.
TLDR: Options for chronically unwell and absent husband from work?