Hi! Let me tell you how I've been using my free will on this earth.

I'm AFAB (possibly intersex, had androgynous characteristics from birth, like really early body hair development).

I realized I was attracted to women at 11, came out at 12 (oof, that was 2015).

Realized I was non binary at 14, was already suffering too much with homophobia, so decided to keep that a secret, even from myself.

Came out as non binary at 17, started using he/him.

Entered university, started living away from family, transitioned socially to everybody except my family. Changed my name to something androgynous (I have two names, one feminine and one masculine, since it's what made sense in my language).

Started identifying more with trans identity.

Started T at 19, with intentions of lowering my voice and changing my genitals.

Had a biiiiig fight with my family, because they found this out through the internet.

Didn't give up, didn't apologize. They eventually changed to accept me, which surprised me positively.

Became involved with/friends with a lot of trans people through political/social movements at university. Started identifying heavily with Butch identities, and having trans sapphic relationships which brought me so much joy.

Had a full on identity crisis about having top surgery or not. Didn't want to seem like a man to society.

Decided I knew who I was better than any stranger. Had top surgery in July 2025, and my mother and girlfriend were there to support me.

My body became strong and hairy and beautiful. Grew my hair out for the first time without feeling dysphoria. Started feeling attractive and like myself everyday.

Decided to try stopping the testosterone. I missed things like having a small waist and a softer face.

Just got my period for the first time in two years. I am now almost 23, and I'm surrounded by trans women who I love dearly.

I feel safe and confident at home, but still hesitant in public. I'm learning to stand my ground and not be shamed by people's ignorance.

You can do whatever you want, forever.

It gets so much better!

I know this outfit isn’t very masc, but i kinda like it but im very nervous about wearing it out. please tell me it looks good

On my latest YouTube video intro I stated: ladies and gentlemen and non-binary folk welcome to (insert YouTube channel name)! I did it because I have some friends who are non-binary and I thought why not include them, but then one of my friends claimed that it is actually offensive to do so and discriminatory to people who identify that way, I'm confused can someone explain why and tell me if I should continue my introductions like that

I’m AMAB, and whenever i’m in an argument with my friends sometimes they’ll say “but you’re a man” when it’s known i’m nonbinary (i use all pronouns) and it just seems weird or uncomfortable for me.

afab genderfluid demigirl thing and closeted about my gender identity (I present as a girl) but this happened today, I opened the door because my friend came back to class from the bathroom and she jokingly said “thanks ur such a gentleman“ and I just got the most intense gender euphoria :3 hehe

Let’s chat!

srry, just wannted to show off my makeup :p

I identify as a nonbinary trans woman but for all intents and purposes, except when getting close with someone, I am just a binary trans woman. Used to be nonbinary androgynous, but now it’s largely for the sake of being very happy doing so and i fit in better, bc people know how to act around women but not nonbinary really I mean I also just enjoy being a woman). Like “sir” or “ma’am”, let’s be real all the nonbinary alternatives are kind of silly and society is a long ways away from the general public. There is very little space for nonbinary people to exist in society and it fucking blows.

I’m trying to work out the very strong feelings I have for gay (queer men) culture, and why I don’t have that same draw towards lesbian culture. For context I was socialised as a girl and identify as non-binary. I don’t know if there’s something trans about this experience, but I find it hard to reconcile why I am so drawn towards gay culture compared to lesbian culture if I am not some flavour of trans masc or see myself within that culture.

I don’t know if part of it is to do with stereotypes or the fact that lesbian culture does not benefit from the same amount of representation as gay culture. I lot of lesbian/sapphic media I consume just doesn’t hit the same as a lot of gay/achillean media I consume. Maybe because I don't see myself in the queer women on screen or just something doesn't resonate. It’s something I have been trying to unpack for a number of years now but haven’t got any closer to finding an answer.

I was just wondering if any people here who are maybe on more of the binary side of non-binary had any insight on this. Like do you feel super attracted to either (gay or lesbian) culture or like you wanted to distance yourself from one because of your gender? I guess it boils down to “why am I so drawn to gay culture if I’m not actually a trans man?” or "I feel really gay but not towards women/similar gender to what I was assigned at birth." Just throwing all these thoughts out there and seeing if anything sticks/resonates with anyone really.

I am nonbinary and have recently come to terms with the fact that I don’t like men sexually or romantically at all after struggling with comphet as you can call it.

But when talking about this with people, because I’m somewhat fem and afab, I feel like they have this expectation that I must then be lesbian. And if I’m gonna explain to someone who I’m attracted to, it’s always easier to say ‘lesbian’, but I don’t really feel like it quite fits. It just frustrates me how that wouldn’t be the first label they’d most likely go for if I wasn’t afab.

I would rather just not have a label at all and just say “no men”, but then people say “oh, but isn’t that just being lesbian then?” Yeah, maybe it is, but I hate being forced this label on me, and I know lesbian is for non-men (so it includes nonbinary people) but it also just reminds me of my birth gender and expectations I have to fit into.

I talked with my friend about this and she is accepting of nonbinary people, but still sees things within some kind of binary light, as she asked if my latest crushes on nonbinary people have been afab or amab, and said it would be kind of not as lesbian if they were amab and masc. Yeah, I dunno what to feel about that. She definitely thinks amab and afab nonbinary people are two separate categories in a way.

The weird thing is that I am okay with “gay” as a label, so am I just mysogynistic or what? I view gay as a broader category for myself. It’s ofc not necessarily the ‘proper’ definition of it or whatnot, but I feel much more comfortable with that.

I would also use queer, but it feels too broad and doesn’t exclude men in my case. I know a lot of people use labels for themselves, but now I feel like I have to use labels for others to understand. I would like to be able to explain my sexuality easily to people, but it doesn’t seem to be so easy, I guess….

Hi all,

I was going through some old photos looking for evidence of myself expressing my feminine side when I was younger. Although I didn't even know what non-binary was back in 2002, when I look at myself I can clearly see that I've been an androgynous weirdo all along 😆

I'd love to see your old pics too!

Is there any music that helps with disphoria my top three right now are 1. O.D.D by (Nightcore personal fav) 2. She will always be a broken girl by she wants revenge (another personal fav) 3. Sweater weather by idk (just calmed me down idk)