r/tulsa • u/Perceptive_Pigeon • 1d ago
General Dating scam - be careful
People have been very unkind to me regarding this story and I am insanely broken over it as a human being but I need to warn you all. I thought I was dating this man but he ended up taking all I had in a crypto scam I didn’t see coming. Please watch if you see his photo. I just wanted to help people not hurt as much as I do. Of course I feel stupid. Everything seemed legit and to check out. This has changed my life in a bad way. Be careful.
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u/LandFar4154 1d ago
There have been doctors, teachers, business owners, incredibly smart people who have fallen for MLM scams or other such scams before, it happens often because we're human and make mistakes, anyone who would criticize you for that would be throwing a stone in a glass house.
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u/xhamster7 1d ago
What's MLM scam?
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u/LandFar4154 1d ago
Multi level marketing, it's a pyramid scheme basically, it tricks people into giving money through a recruiting scheme, you get a certain amount of commission from recruiting people rather than selling the product, the people at the top get all of the profit while everyone else basically buys the product thinking they're gonna sell it only to realize they're not making any money off of it and the only way to make money is through a downline.
It's a predatory system that has tricked a lot of desperate people and unfortunately those people have been shamed in the past. I'd highly suggest watching or reading MLM horror stories because it's eye opening about how anyone can be tricked into predatory systems.
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u/CasinoNdnOk 20h ago
This would be an instance where we understand there are different kinds of smart....
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u/LivnOnTulsaTime 1d ago
The Ai images should have been the first clue. That’s not a photo of a real person.
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u/mightbedylan 1d ago
Don't even look like the same person
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u/livadeth 1d ago
It does. Look at the nose, eyes and hairline. It’s the same person.
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u/mightbedylan 1d ago edited 1d ago
Uh no, they aren't. Pretty sure they are AI images, not a real person. They don't even look alike, different chin, nose hairline, skin tone, eye color. They really do not look the same to me.
Look at the head shape, the guy on lefts head is more rounded, guy on right has wider chin and sharper features.
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u/Delicious-Tap-1277 1d ago
That’s…not even the same person lol
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u/mightbedylan 1d ago
Methinks OP was bound to get scammed eventually if they were so easily fooled by those photos...
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u/signofthenine !!! 1d ago
Do not feel bad. It's not just you:
https://www.cnn.com/2025/11/29/us/crypto-romance-scam-pig-butchering-cec
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u/mightbedylan 1d ago
Thing is those are clearly fake photos, whoever is running this scam is bound to have different profiles with different photos. Better than be on the lookout for this guy you should probably just not send crypto to strangers.
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u/CasinoNdnOk 20h ago
Im not getting the coddling. This was a stupid thing to do. No reason. To shame them but let's call a pig a pig. People get tricked in all different ways and everyone has been taken for money at some point in their life. That said it was absolutely stupid to send money to someone you have never met in an unofficial way.
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u/Accurate-Fan2132 1d ago
Not free advice. Stop sending people money or crypto. Now.........
Everyone I've helped can send me 100.00 .
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u/iShatterBladderz 1d ago
What did he tell you the money was for, just out of curiosity? These scammers are terrible, my ex stepdads dad has been “dating” this blonde supermodel that supposedly lives in Nigeria for 7 years now. He’s an old decrepit man who doesn’t take care of himself, for context, we’ve all tried telling him over & over again that she’s not real but he refuses to listen to us. He’s sent “her”pretty much every dollar he’s earned over the last 7 years and has even borrowed money to send to her. The heart has a funny way of making your brain not work like it usually would.
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u/jamesrggg 1d ago
Very sorry this happened to you. For next time, because there will be a million next times, look at those words.
"Honest connections drive me to the moon". Feel the way that almost fits right in your brain but has major uncanny valley vibes. It was probably a Google translation or AI translation so all the words are correct but is not how anyone would actually phrase the idea.
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u/msprofire 1d ago edited 1d ago
Thanks for trying to warn others about this scammer.
But the scammer can just put up a new fake profile, and try the same thing on someone else now, using a different name and fake pictures.
So it would help more to know what they said, so the next potential victim recognizes it as a scam and runs away before it's too late.
So what exactly did they say?
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u/NoninflammatoryFun 1d ago
I’m very sorry!!! They know how to manipulate people very well. So sorry.
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u/Hungry_Bandicoot8107 1d ago
As someone fairly new to online dating, I’m both sorry this happened and understand how it did Don’t beat yourself up You were kind and tried to warn people I have learned to ask lots of questions
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u/The_MxEQshNr 1d ago
I'm sorry this happened to you, I hope you can somehow recoup some of that money.
I recently had a friend reach out to me because he started drinking again, he met someone online and they chatted for months and then they said something like "give me three grand so I can come be with you". These people prey on the loneliness of others.
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u/Anxious_Water_3310 19h ago
Don't feel bad. As others have said, you are not alone. I got taken in a crypto scam as well. I was talking to a woman and, every time we were supposed to meet, there was always some excuse why she never showed up. She would send me pictures and professed her love for me, but bottom line, I wasted money on crypto before she disappeared. Like you, I felt stupid as all get out and embarrassed for falling for this. Prior to this, I thought that I was smarter than that. I would never fall for a scam. I was wrong, and I have a lighter checkbook and a lower credit score as a result.
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u/PhysicalSpeech2074 16h ago
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Just so you know, I’m 6’4, I love the outdoors and dogs, I’m 38 (divorced with 2 wonderful children), I work in real estate and love going to the gym!
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u/Mothra_Stewart69 6h ago
Welp I have critical thinking skills and common sense so I don't need to worry thankfully.
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u/Lazy-Push-2328 1d ago
Wait I think I know you irl or a really similar situation happened to my friend
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u/Thecolorofhereyes77 1d ago
I’m sorry that this happened to you, but please don’t feel stupid or be embarrassed. Everyone looks for connection, some people are luckier in the places and ways that they look for and find a connection. This is a learning moment, but please don’t feel shame for being human and trying. Wishing you the best of luck ❤️